I’m writing this to you as the last of the delightful drug peak is wearing off
(Thank you goat for your posthumous supply of pain relief #bestdadever)
Today I managed to deliver – I think – a fairly useful message to the denizens of EWD about asking for help and support
– something I have needed this week –
It’s very easy to allow yourself to wallow when the shit hits the fan and when it does you have every right to piss and moan and whine…
…for a bit
Then you need to take actual action and find a way to solve the problems as best you can
Each and every one of our situations are different – some of us have it easy and some of have it hard, with varying levels of support and resources and opportunities
If your life is good right now?
More power to you; make the very best of it
If you’ve a) being fucked, b) pending a fucking or c) posted fucked then it has (or will) happen
– ain’t shit you can do –
EXCEPT
Take a moment to pause – step out of the situation – and figure out a way to make it work
Thanks to a masked up covid safe meathead, I now have a desk chair with my laptop on, a fridge to the side of me and healthy food and snacks – along with the books Dex recommended me – all within arms reach + chargers/headphones/theragun all on the bed
Is this ideal?
Fuck no
But I a get a few hours a day of ‘sweet spot’ where I can write some content, go live and answer a few Q’s before my back starts to suck dick again
There’s always a way of you’re creative AND if you ASK FOR HELP
Humans are amazing – my private clients have been so kind and my team has stepped up
And the dan that comes ‘back’ #lol will have new ideas and thoughts and musings making me every better
Life can be tough at times but so are you and you can do more than you think
And if you can’t?
It’s almost as if you’re part of a really nice group on Facebook where you can ask for help?
Do you think loneliness is prevalent in entrepreneurship & business in general?
I think it is
It’s one of the main reasons coffee with Dan – CWD – is even a thing
I couldn’t find anyone like me (TBF Thats probably a good thing lol) and was fed up of both feeling alone as well as not having anyone to surround myself with
So in typically entrepreneurial fashion I thought
‘Fuck it, I’ll make my own community’
And the rest is history
The group is now much more than that, and I’m ridiculously proud of that community and everyone in it
But I’ll say this if you can make people feel a little less lonely…
A little less isolated…
And that someone – even a stranger from the internet ‘gets them’…
…you will go far
Tribes
Communities
Gatherings
Collectives
Collaboratives
Hang outs
Groups
Are going to become even more important in 2021 with the measures many of us are forced to live under
So if you can create something – doesn’t have to be be big – that’s brings people together, and makes life more bearable
It’s good for you
It’s good for then
And it’s good for the world at large
The power of bringing people together under your ‘umbrella’ as well as being a member of such things gives a rippled effect that can touch many lives.
Fuck blue Monday in the ass (and do something nice for you)
It’s true that you get what focus on
Think today is the worst day of the year?
Then it’s more likely to be so for you
Statistics and data are useful; but equally if everyone is telling you all the shitty things that apparently today brings?
Well – maybe it will for you
My advice is no matter how small on this apparently le most mis day of year is do something nice for YOU
Doesn’t matter how small (or big!) it is but a moment of kindness for YOU will change you day
This morning?
Started the day good and then for some reason the goat came to mind and gave me a moment of sadness…
Then a friend who’s having a hard time unloaded on my WhatsApp…
Then I did an exercise in my journaling that made me think hard about some life choices…
I did my usual pattern interrupt (box breathing for two) and then said fuck it – had to do some errands for mum/Anna and I was going to take a 10 min detour to go into an actual coffee shop and have an iced coffee
I can’t remember last time I had one!
And the result is a buzzing dan who had some truly amazing ideas (please join me at 6pm for a big and brilliant announcement & epic changes) and is AMPED for the day ahead
YOU are in control of how you feel
YOU can influence your day with what you do
YOU are the master of your destiny
So take a moment today to do something kind for you and prove blue Monday’s a pile of horse shit
Why ‘getting dressed’ for work (and make an effort for YOU) can change your day and your income
Working from home has a LOT of advantages and I for one have enjoyed pottering around #freeballing in shorts and a hoody
BUT
I’ve found that I can be a bit TOO chilled and this can bleed into my work IF I’m not careful
There’s not a post on this subject that I’ll tell anyone what to do
Clothes
Make up
Hair
Facial hair
Do whatever the Fuck you want
BUT, again
When I make an effort with my appearance which for me is:
– Smart Jeans
– Nice, fitted T-shirt
– Luxury watch
– Beard trimmed and oil
I feel Fucking great!
– and I look better too –
This ‘dressing for work’ was something I tried (when working online/from home) some years ago
Yes it might not be possible with sleep and kids and all manner of mad shit but a little bit of self care bleeds into everything
When I make an effort to look good and show up in this way everyone benefits plus I’m in a good mood I generally have a great idea, sign up some epic clients or my ‘energy’ is in all I do
That is your entrepreneurial ‘digital dick’ – or lady equivalent – that is
(and why y’all should invest your time & £££ into those who have ACTUALLY achieved something)
Got your attention?
Good
This post is a bit of an odd one for me
It’s been spurred in parts by a few things:
The first one was a long term (lovely) client who said I needed to take some of my own medicine…
…and the second is over the last few months I’ve screenshotted some pretty big and bold claims from some online ‘experts’ that I can’t see being backed up….
And finally?
Well you have decided to join this list and some of you may have no idea if I’m ‘the real deal’ and have achieved some of the things I say I have
So thought would do what you don’t see very often online
Prove it
I’ve kept records of my achievements as far back as I can remember; few little blasts from my past:
#2 out of 6000 headhunters/recruiters when I was 19 and earning 6-figures aged 19/20 (didn’t take home that much though lol #britainisexpensive) in 1999
Whilst I was studying at at Leeds university I was PT’ing for 40-45 hours- kicking the ass of deven the London PT’s back in 2005
Set up 3 new vertical markets in the FMCG industry COLD billing 1/2 million each for my employer, and achieving the single biggest invoice for one client with direct mail and generated most of my business with cold emails and cold calls in 2006
Co-launched a headhunting firm in the square mile (central london finance distract) winning the biggest contract awarded for one of Europe’s biggest retailer in 2008
Took 3 central london gyms from 4-6 PTs doing under 20 hours to doubling both staff and their hours AND doing 60+ hours at £60-£100 myself 2008-2011 – ended up as director of special projects for the CEO, recruiting & co-setting up multiple concept gyms and being the business & marketing coach for 1000 fitness professionals
After going from zero to fully booked (for me that was 50 hours) of PT in a local somerset gym – where most trainers were doing around 10
Went from a 500sqft studio totally self financed to a 2000sqft double facility with NO facebook ads or online traffic; launching with £22,400 in sales via ‘old school’ advertorials/local advertising/print ads and networking – now with a fully staffed, fully automated, totally hands off business that easily generates 6-figures now (And has some of the most successful individuals in the south west with a 94% retention rate YOY)
Started as a business & marketing consultant and got to 7-10k/month in 8 weeks, ‘iamthefitnesscopywriter’ generated 6-figures and when that pivoted into an ‘all inclusive’ agency; scaled to $55,000 + 4 staff @ 55% profit circa 4-8 hours work a week
Delivered 2000+ ‘turbo coaching’ calls for my first online employer, set up agency and generated $250,000 in first month
Was a guest at the playboy mansion and had dinner and drinks with Branson, twice (if such things impress you)
After several weeks (may be months) of HOUNDING Dexter when he has turned down people for years got him to mentor me AND stick with me
^^^ and that’s all before I became ‘Coffee With Dan’ Dan
Since then how about this?
1. #1 audiobook on Audible in both business and self help (with THEM running paid traffic as it was such a good seller)
2. #1 best seller on Amazon in Entrepreneurship (a ‘one down) category and not only that but #2 on Amazon in Europe in ‘self help’ to the Dalai Llama AND #2 in the entire business category on Amazon to Elon Musk
3. Put on, sold out and co-headlined with Gary Vaynerchuk the sell-out event ‘The Best Marketing Event Ever Times Infinity + 1’- in just a few weeks from idea to event
4. Having a #1 podcast in heath with ‘The Body & The Beast’ #3 in business & smashing the charts with my solo podcast Death Glory or Disappointment
5. An organically built 17,500+ group of entrepreneurs in ‘Coffee With Dan’ that is known as the highest quality FB group for Entrepreneurs everywhere.
6. An organically built paid membership of 500+ entrepreneurs in ‘Espresso With Dan’ which transforms lives
7. Two sold out ‘EXTRAVAGANZA’s (250-400 people) one sold out US high ticket event & 3 sold out weekend masterminds
8. Continually invited to guest speak, deliver expert content, consult and coach at the highest level
9. MULTIPLE business that have rock solid team that can step up big time and keep things running smooth – kinda handy when you get smashed by a car or less dramatically simply want a holiday (so many business owners run themselves into the ground creating a business that would crash and burn if they aren’t at the coalface 24/7)
And my fave
10. I live my life on my terms doing what I want, when I want, with who I want. All whilst having created a vehicle that secures the future of not only myself, my loved ones, my team – and has allowed it to help hundreds (yes 100’s) of 1000’s around the world AND continues to do
so
– and I managed to kick drink for good 3 years sober in two days –
Plus I have all the toys, live on the seafront and don’t do my own washing
AKA:
I
Walk
My
Fucking
Talk
So if your have ever seen me dicking around, doing dumb shit and going on about memes/motorbikes?
I’ve earned the fucking right
I did the majority of that having to deal with my alcohol issues, heartbreak, hypomania, death, betrayal/backstabbing, severe depression, my sister breaking her neck/having 10-hour liver operation, and generally life not being ‘perfect’
I showed up even when I 100% didn’t fucking want to
So if you have ever thought maybe I full of shit?
I’m not
I’ve done more that most at the highest levels and I’VE BARELY STARTED
But what I HAVE been is consistent online for over 5 years and can back up my shit with not only actions but fucking proof
I wanted to share this because if you are reading this? You have (for some reason!) chosen to be here and your reading this
Now I don’t know about you, but if I followed someone for a while who turned out to be a total bullshit artist?
I’d be pretty pissed off
So I wanted to tip my digital hat to you and say y’all one smart fucker (and feel free to zoom in on the pic or check the comments for ‘proof’
Because I’ve done all the things – and I’ve done them WELL; I have a consistent life-long track record of getting shit done and getting results not just for me, but more importantly those I SERVE across multiple industry’s from (often) fuck all
So if someone starts shouting how ‘fucking awesome’ they are?
That’s cool, they may very well be, and probably are
Ask them to prove it
Maybe they can even write a book on it eh?
Lol
Now I’m probably breaking some ‘golden rule’ of email as it’s all been about ME so far
⁃ and there’s a reason –
Especially in today’s economy, if you are good at what you do?
YOU
NEED
TO
TELL
PEOPLE
The above isn’t massaged – I’ve done more since the above – they are just things I have done
I have a track record of success but even more important than that I have a track record (not a clean sheet, people are lying if they say that) of achieving success for OTHERS
And I’m telling you because if you believe I am someone who can support you and guide you to the next level – whatever that is specific to YOU
Then we should talk
If not
STEAL THIS FORMAT
Tell the world what you can do, what you have done and how you can help people
Don’t be ashamed or shy
BE SHAMELESS!
(It’s an entire chapter in my book for a reason..)
If you can help someone with what you do it’s your DUTY to tell the world to get those that need it where they need to be
That and there will be some fuckwit in your industry who isn’t as skilled making bank yet not delivering like you can
So step up
Get it out
Give it (your skills and results lol) a swing about
It’s all about the little things (but go after the big things too)
This is a bridge that I go over when I have a little ‘treat’ and take one of the Ducati family out for a thrashing…when I can
Every time I go over it takes me back to my childhood
See the fam didn’t have much in the way of spare pennies when we were younger
Mum worked 3 jobs and dad was up and down the country (at the time) as a sales rep
Now those of you that are parents will understand; but when it comes to your kids?
You’ll do anything to make them happy
And when money’s tight?
You have to be creative
So dad used to take me and my sister to the lanes and over and over we would go
(Apparently we would giggle like crazy!)
It’s only now as a ‘grown up’ (fucking LOL) I look back and realise what they did for me
It’s why I do what I do now
At times see comments and posts bashing those who want £££ as if there is something bad with wanting to better your life
That’s bullshit
Money – and wealth – should be (IMO) striven for
Sure it’s nice to have nice things
But when you don’t come from much and you see those with
There’s two ways you can go
Angry and resentful and woe is me and blame
Or think
Ok
I’ll have some of that
And ultimately that’s what I did – and will continue to do
I think many problems can be solved, or at the very easier, made better with more money
But money that is EARNED and earned in a decent/ethical way
That way if you get all the pennies?
It’s down to YOU and no one else
Then it’s up to you what you do with it
For me?
Of course I like nice things
But I want to make sure Anna’s futures safe and I can make mums life is pleasant as can be to repay them for what they did for me – not that they ever ask eh?
All I ever wanted was to never cook my own food, clean my own home, hang out my washing (I swear that’s THE worse chore going) and be able to live life on my terms
(And collect a range of toys and hobbies that – let’s be realistic here – are probably gonna kill me one day #YOLO)
So in closing
Enjoy the small things that truly make life worth living
But strive for the big things so you can change your life and those around you that you love.
One of the very first every entrepreneurial coaching calls I did was with a gentleman called Rob Hanley
I head of him via the copy hour (the first ever entrepreneurial course I invested in) and got a product of his
We ended up becoming friends and hung out in Germany and the U.K. alike; he lived a cool life on his terms and did well from his work
A good dude
One lesson of his stuck with me like a Mini Cooper to the ribs (if I didn’t laugh about it I’d cry
)
When YOU feel like shit, life is giving you a beating or things aren’t going your way; then the best thing you can do is focus on helping someone else
Find someone who needs your help (could be a connection, someone local, family, friend, stranger – doesn’t matter) and AGGRESSIVELY help
Focus on THEIR pain, THEIR needs, THEIR wants…
…and YOUR pain/stress/head fuckery?
Tends to go
It’s one of the best ‘win wins’ I know; someone in need gets your valuable time/energy/effort/resources, and in return you not only get some peace from your own woes, but you get a nice fat hit if happy hormones for doing a good deed
That’s EXACTLY what I’m doing right now
Honestly, this Christmas is going to be Fucking hard – it’s the first one since losing dad and I don’t know how myself, mum and spud are going to be
I have a small family – it’s just us – and Christmas is the time spud (Anna, my sis) tends to behave well and her special needs tend to be a little easier to manage
No idea how it’s going to be this year
Hence I threw myself into raising money for charity
As of now?
We’ve raised £2k in less than 12 hours which is NUTS; proper blown me away
That and prize pot for the give away is worth over £7000 now now
So if you would a dose of happy chemicals yourself AND have a chance to win any of 30+ prizes (you can be picked multiple times, if you enter you are eligible for every draw)
You can do so via the link in comment #1, leave a comment below or DM me for it
it’s only £20 and all the £££ raised goes to two charity’s: a food bank and a women’s shelter
Not only does it make you feel good, but even small amounts make a big difference
So any frowns you might have, can be flipped on their arse
A true win win
Anyways thanks for reading; there’s LOTS of trainings and content planned for 2021
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