Coffee With Dan

ACTIONS > WORDS 

#fact

It’s very easy to take what is said on face value – but ultimately human beings will always do what’s best for THEM

This does not make them bad people

This does not make them good people 

It simply makes them….

…people

Humans will always retreat from pain and be attracted to pleasure; what is said is not always what is meant or done 

I know this because I myself have applied a ‘gloss’ back in the day to my words to make others happy when deep down I knew what I wanted/what my agenda was

I am human after all

Now I find myself being more blunt and ‘filter free’ because in the long run you will either fuck up or hurt someone or ruin your reputation if you do not 

Old me use to go full rage when I felt I had been misled

Now I try and approach it with quiet pragmatism and looking at things from the OTHER persons point of view

I got sales from my dad

I got empathy from my mum

Every single human has wants and needs and desires and we have no right to impart OUR beliefs on them

Taking time to see why people do (or don’t do ) what they say and looking at it both critically and with empathy is key to growth

We all Get dealt a hand of cards in the game of Life

It’s up to us how we play them

Do we go all in?

Do we hit the dealer up for another card?

Do we fold?

That is a choice we are all confronted with many times a day

And no person – me included – has the right to interfere with your choices 

You just have to to what’s best for you and hope it works out

Above all I say this

The more you keep your word to yourself – and others – life tends to improve 

Say less 

Do more

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WTF is EWD?

”What actually is Espresso With Dan” she asked, almost in passing, so I told her.

But it got me thinking you might be wondering the same thing.

In short:

EWD is:

The one resource I WISH had when I was building & scaling my first businesses

I legit mean that. Yes it’s my name above the door, but EWD is FAR bigger than me. And I know that if I’d had access to a place like EWD 8 years ago, my life would have been much easier.

You see, at the last count I’ve racked up 3000ish turbo calls.

Not bad hey?

Talking to so many entrepreneurs gives insights into what’s really going on.

Behind the surface.

Behind the smiling selfies.

Behind the “I’m fine” and “Everything’s heading in the right direction”

Because these calls are short, sharp and above all safe.

I get to hear the real story.

I see the REAL problems that entrepreneurs face, and the REAL struggles that people have.

And it positions me to come up with unique solutions to those problems.

And that’s what EWD really is.

www.coffeewithdan.com/joinewd

Espresso is a membership for entrepreneurs who are committed to getting shit done.

The core of it is The Vault.

Over 300 hours of trainings on pretty much any topic you can think of.

Whatever you need. Whenever you need it.

It’s right there in the vault.

Want to grow an engaged Facebook group full of people who want what you have to offer – we got it

Want to get past those nerves and confidently close deals on the phone – yup, in the vault

Want to get on stage, write a book and deliver your very own online course – we got ALL of that

…and so much more

If we don’t have it? We’ll get it scheduled and bring in a true experts where needed.

Outside of the vault – all the action happens in the Facebook group.

This is the place where you can get rapid answers to the issues you’re facing, connect with experts who have the knowledge and skills to support you and participate in live coaching, challenges, and accountability.

And here’s the important bit.

 We DELIBERATELY keep the group small.

So you can get personal attention and become a REAL part of the community.

Some people just want to get a bunch of members paying them month after month regardless of whether they participate and get anything out of it.

We’re different.

We want you making progress, taking action and getting big results.

For this reason we run with a flexi structure.

Just enough structure to keep you on track and focused with enough flexibility to adapt to members needs and provide the freedom us entrepreneurs need to grow.

It’s all about implementation.

Regular features within the month are Hotseats and Get Shit Done zoom calls.

The hotseats are live coaching calls where myself and the team will get you unstuck fast by solving your most pressing issue.

The Get Shit Done calls are virtual co-working sessions designed to get maximum productivity and make big leaps fast.

We’ve been going for a few years now and over that time we’ve figured out exactly what works.

Of course I’m going to tell you it’s good.

So instead of me telling you how awesome everything is, here’s what members think

I dropped a post into Coffee a while back inviting EWD members to say what they thought about it.

I was overwhelmed with the comments.

They headed over in droves.

Here’s what just one of them had to say…

“EWD is a whirlwind of information and activity there really is everything you need in one place. 

Filled up with positivity, fun, dirty jokes and meme it make getting the best out of yourself fun.

When I joined I was a little lost in all aspects of my life really. Was pushing forward but not really knowing what or why I was doing it. Fuelled by stubbornness and inability to admit defeat.

After a few weeks in the group and going through the ‘core story’ training I realised that I was what was holding me back.

So I asked for help in the group and got pointed to a few people who could help. Each one of them took time to speak with me and find out exactly what I needed.

What happened next literally changed my life forever. I had been struggling with depression and serious lack of self value after a trauma in my childhood.

After a few sessions I was literally a changed man. I had belief in myself and a knew what I wanted out of life for the first time I can remember.

The group and everyone in it then helped me maintain that momentum. I was taking part in the live zoom coaching sessions (worth the yearly fee on its own), the sessions from Dexter and the training in the vault. 

In about 4-5 months I had gone from an individual who felt they had no self worth to transforming my business (or Covid pivot if you are wanky) getting engaged and knowing that if I keep showing up and working I will get where I want to go with this group around me.

You will join the group for Dan.. but it is the people in the group that will make you want to stay.

Special love to Mark Simpson, Leah Butler Smith and Tega ‘the pantsnake’ Digebe for taking time to help me during my short but amazing time in the group.

” – Christopher Ballard”

That right there is the Espresso effect.

Now, here’s the thing.

It’s been a good 9 months since it was last open. We don’t open up often.

Yes, there’s been a couple of small openings here and there.

Filling the space of those who’ve graduated from EWD and moved on.

Beyond that, we simply don’t let people in.

And that’s why it is crucial you act now if you are thinking this is for you.

There’s no telling how long it will be until you get another opportunity.

www.coffeewithdan.com/joinewd

What if you could access a treasure trove of proven training’s on everything you need to grow your business 24/7?

Here’s a TINY sample of the training that can be found in the EWD vault

Copywriting

Sales

FB Ads

Tribes

Planning

Podcasting

Becoming an author

Storytelling

Joint Ventures

Email Marketing

Facebook page growth

Membership sites

Mindset

Sales Pages

Events

Outsourcing

And much more

Seriously, that’s just a FRACTION of what’s in there. I could put it all down here, but aint nobody got time to read a 10,000 word email!

Whatever you need – we’ve got it.

If we don’t? We’ve got the resources & network to make it happen.

There is nothing that you as an entrepreneur could find yourself needing that can’t be sourced within Espresso.

Now, you might be wondering WHY I started Espresso with Dan?

Many of those who follow me know WHO (family) I’m doing it for

But why?

That’s possibly something you don’t know.

Loneliness

I’ve always – ever since I was a kid – felt like I was an outsider looking in

I wasn’t bullied (probably because they gave me a ‘pass’ because of my sister)…

Had friends…

Was actually – in a weird way – vaguely popular

But I continually felt like I wasn’t remembered; I was easily forgotten and wasn’t malicious but people didn’t remember me for stuff

Kinda hurts in your teens eh?

So I always said to myself if I ever had the chance? I’d do it myself

As a kid I didn’t think people would want to spend time with me on my bday so I hired the rugby club – partnered up with a hot girl in my year – and invited 200+ people

At uni first day everyone was nervous and in their rooms so I thought fuck it knocked on 51 other doors (the whole of my hall) and took myself and 51 other people down the pub

Never wanted anyone to feel like I felt – alone – so thought if no one else would i’d bring everyone together

I’d get them all together and get them talking

I’ve been doing this my whole life apparently; mum showed me a school report which said:

‘Daniel is a kind child who often puts the needs of his classmates ahead of his own’

And I did

And – give or take – I still do

Yes I care about myself way more than I used to; but I do what I do because it makes me feel good to to make others feel good

That and I don’t want anyone to feel like they have no one

I’ve been there

It sucks ass

– it really does –

That’s why ‘Espresso with Dan’ is as good as it is

I like to think I’ve lead by example to create a community of people who actually give a Fuck about their fellow humans

And ultimately sometimes we all need to be heard, noticed and that there is someone there for us

That’s why I do what I do

Not only because I want to help people achieve the lives they want through the vehicle of entrepreneurship

But so that peeps never have to feel like they have no one to turn to

It’s because of this…Espresso is unlike any other community you’ve ever come across.

For many members it’s the one place they can fully relax, be themselves, and be truly open.

That’s when the magic happens.

Real friendships are made.

Everyone supports each other.

Questions are asked, advice given, meet ups and joint ventures get set in motion.

And that, is what Espresso With Dan REALLY Is

www.coffeewithdan.com/joinewd

See you over there!

D

P.S. As always, if you’ve got ANY questions? Hit me up below or in the DM’s; It’s only me that has access to my inbox, so if there’s anything you wanna ask – fire away 🙂

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Keeping your word when life gets tough

^^the first part of that sentence?

Is something that I find rarer than it should be 

It’s very easy to talk a good game, make promises while shits good and say you will do X or Y…

…it’s another thing to actually follow through on the things you say

And what I find even worse than the people above who don’t do what they say they will do?

It’s when you do it to yourself 

There’s been plenty a time I’ve kidded myself and not kept my word to the one person above all I need to keep it to

– and that person is myself –

Case in point

Last Sunday when we kicked off the Think It/Fuck it/Do it challenge 

This challenge is free

The quality is good

A lot of effort had been made 

And 

500+ people put their trust in me to deliver

Would it be easy to sack it off or postpone it?

Of course it would 

But that’s not how you get ahead in life

How you get ahead is doing what needs to be done ESPECIALLY when you don’t want to 

Yes I’ve joked around – that’s how us Meredith’s deal with trauma 

But I’m pretty fucked up!

My entire left side is battered; foot, ankle, knee, hip, rips, shoulder and neck

Battered and just not working right 

Between the cracks and the contusions and the stitches it takes me 5 minutes to get out of bed and each wobbly-assed step feels like I’m being stabbed 

That and It literally hurts to BREATH

#funtimes

This isn’t some humblebrag, look-at-how-tough-I-am, give-me-sympathy bullshit

The above is simply my reality right now

And I can fold OR I can play the hand I’ve dealt as best I can

No doubt like you, people rely on me both professionally and personally, and (as I’ve learned the hard way) doing what’s EASY benefits ‘now’ you

Doing what’s HARD benefits ‘future’ you 

Ultimately life is going to go in dry from time to time as is the want of life 

All you can do is decide how you are going to respond to that and act accordingly 

But if you’re going through some shit right now?

Keep fucking going!

This ain’t my first rodeo (it IS the first time being hit by a car though…

) and I know it fucking sucks when you’re IN the suck but once you got through to the other side – and you will – you’ll not only be proud of yourself; but you will have a new level of resilience and a ‘gear’ you never knew you had…

Anyways, hope you found some value in the above 

I’ll catch ya next week ‘proper’ proper once the challenge is over; that and I plan to get down and dirty with my PS5 and CyberPunk 2077 as of tomorrow night onwards 

Stay frosty 

D

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Soooooo…I got hit by a car last night…And I’ve decided I’m going to file it under third worst thing that’s happened to me this year2020 is the gift that keeps giving eh?

So I’m writing this you from A&E with a new LOVE of the gas they give to ladies who are giving birth – it was delightful -Anyways bar the fact I got taken out by a car and YEETED into a road sign (thank god I have fancy bike kit, armour & helmet) and that I feel that I’ve had the living shit kicked out of me……I’m in a surprisingly good mood

I won’t be walking anywhere for a bit but as I write this, I have an immense sense of gratitude – I’m alive – The injuries will heal and aren’t that bad tbh – Bikes can be replaced under insurance – Police officers, paramedics, doctors and nurses are wonderful humans – I love gas and air – I got some banging selfies It was quite weird when it happenedCouldn’t avoid it (she didn’t see me and was in shock herself) and as they t-boned me everything went so crazily slow – felt like time had slowed down -I think I remember saying ‘oh for fucks sake’ and then I got taken out- I may of imagined that – #funtimes(I have to say adrenaline is AMAZING I picked up a 280kg bike without a problem before I realised I was all kindsa beat and part of my left leg looked like it was made of trifle Ya know what?Shit happens and there’s no point complaining about itIf there’s one thing I get from mum?It’s her resilienceThe irony was mum and Anna (my sis) were also in a car accident yesterday and hit in EXACTLY the same wayAnd the one reason I was out riding was due to the fact my little sis was shook up and I wanted to cheer her up(Neither of us have ever had an accident until yesterday!)Anyways that ability to just go ‘fuck it’, pick ourselves up and crack the on is something we both share Id say in 2020 – and probably 2021 there’s no other way to be really…Am gonna take a few days to rest, because being hit by a car does sting a bit HOWEVERI WILL still be doing the challenge on Sunday (Spite will always be a hell of a motivator)Ya think a Mini Cooper to the ribs is gonna slow me down?LolNoI got shit to do and maybe you do too, so ain’t gonna bail…there’s work to be done So if you wanna join my battered – but highly capable (and quite good according to one of the nurses I accidentally flashed from wearing a gown) ass- then I’ll see you Sunday when Lianne let’s you in https://www.facebook.com/groups/2769660589918947And if you think I’m leveraging my situation?Well, why not I’m lying here in a pair of boxers with my arse hanging out, bored to tears so thought I might as well be useful eh?Anyways I’m gonna rest as I’m shattered, but me and the team will be ready to rock SundayIf nothing else I’m committed eh?See ya soon and send thoughts and prayers to DucatiBAE…she is gonna need some love

D

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1 of 2 Halfway ish point – lessons learned 

#1 making a new habit

First week and a bit?

This post was my first of the day

Then it became 2nd, 3rd, 10th etc and yesterday even thought I did the exercise in my head?

I didn’t do it here 

Which isn’t what I said I’d do

Forming habits takes discipline and effort until they become routine

I just started listing my excuses and then deleted them as it’s fuckinf weak

It’s a simple thing to do

Wake up

Come to

Reflect on something that I’m grateful for 

Write about it

That’s it

The good thing I’ve noticed the habit slip (that’s going to be what I’m grateful for today) and back on track

– I have another big take away too tomorrrow –

Which all that in mind, habits aren’t easy to form and DO require effort

But if I can make a freezing cold shower a daily

Habit that I don’t even mind and weirdly enjoy now?

A bit of gratitude I can defo make a priority

What about you?

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Humour 

Today I am grateful for not only my humour, but the humour of

– my mum

– my team

– my friends 

– this group

– EWD 

This shit is hard – lockdown that is – and one of best ways Myself and my family have got through stuff is with humour

None of us getting out alive, and shits gonna happen regardless 

So learn to have a giggle eh

That and laughter is good for the soul so try have some fucking fun 

And you? What y’all grateful for?!

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What are YOU grateful for today – Monday edition 

A bit later today

I am always very honest, I got triggered massively today (we all have our little buttons) and I was able – I hope – to negate any negative effects 

Today I’m grateful for breathing and breath work

I calmed my ass down

Looked at shit rationally 

And refocused

This is – for me – not easy and not something that is natural to me

It’s something I’ve had to work on and at

– and I’m glad I have learned what I have learned – 

AND for the amazing humans around me

And you?

What are you grateful for?

(Pain element coming later, had a little adductor tear so back on it today)

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As you may of noticed I wasn’t around yesterday – I did a post explaining why on my wall

Today’s one is in relation to that

I am grateful for nature 

I was a huge nature fan as a kid and in the U.K. we have some wonderful nature, green spaces and coast

– it’s a beautiful country – 

Yesterday I needed to think

And mature – and reconnecting with it – does some wondeful things

Hence, that’s what I’m grateful for today

What about you?

What have you been grateful for this weekend?!

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What are YOU grateful for?

For me? I am grateful for the fact I have the ability to define and enforce boundaries 

It’s been a literal life changer for

Might seem like an odd one for ‘gratitude’ but I was musing this morning in bed on some humans I have removed from my life/not allowed in because of my ability to (now lol) rationally define what is/isn’t acceptable 

And the strength of character to enforce them

It’s saved me so much money, heartache, stress and time but sticking to my guns and keeping form boundaries

I am grateful for them

And what about you?

What are YOU grateful for?!

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