***Daily Dose Of Dan***
Do you ever get filled with envy? Racked with jealousy?
I know I do from times to time, its something that I have learned to control – but thats the problem with human emotions: they are little fuckers 😉
When I was trying to ‘make it’ I would sometimes look at people who it seemed so easy for and think:
‘its OK for them, they have XXXX’
Then as I took time to get to know them, I realised many had overcome similar struggles, pains and issues as I had when I started to catch them up
Now, from where I am now a while ago I found myself comparing myself to some my clients, friends, colleagues and thinking I was a complete and utter piece of shit
That it was all going to be taken away from me
My ’15 minutes of fame’ was over
Do not pass go
Do not collect £200
(see, told you I was a normal person too!)
When you see people doing $250,000 weekends….£100k webinar launches….groups a fraction of the size of yours seemingly buzzing….people with crazy hot and awesome partners happy as shit….great social circles….amazing kids a body to DIE for….sports cars, mansions with infinity pools….
You name it, all the things that you **may** want, but yet for some reason they have it
Hard not to let the green eyed monster out for an angry spin, eh?
What a bitch/bastard they are?
Fuck em, right?
Well, er, no
Thats where this book comes in. Was recommended to me be one of the few people that I will never question, Brian Kurtz.
Its called the origin of Illness
Now its quite a read, but in essence, is thus:
‘Drawing on 30 years of clinical research, this book asserts that envy is humankind’s primary pathology, the root of all ills’
Pretty powerful concept eh?
But think about how being envious (or jealous) makes you feel……
Pretty shit right?
And that shitty feeling spills out all over the place! Like ten pounds of shit in an eight pound bag, it ruins your thoughts, conversations, plans – you name it
Yet thats all it is – a feeling, but one that is so powerful that its often hard to ignore, especially as you can’t often see what its taken that person to achieve what YOU desire
You don’t know what sacrifices they have made
You don’t know what THEY are envious of
You don’t know how THEY feel when they lie down at night
People are like bloody icebergs, unless you get close to them – you will only ever get to see whats on the surface – 10% – with the other 90% under the water
Very few people know what demons we are dealing with – and maybe you have none – and thats great
But I am guessing thats rare as rocking horse shit 😉
But what I have learned to do is this
If I see someone that has the life I want…
The business I want…
The body I want…
The happiness I want…
The relationship I want….
Instead of getting envious
Sounds simple, but the best way to obliterate any form of envy is befriend the person, learn from them, model (not steal), perhaps invest in some of their time, and then bring it in to your own world
That, and unfollow anyone that triggers you, leave groups that piss you off, don’t involve yourself in shit that doesn’t bother you
you can’t be me
I can’t be you
Thats the beautiful thing when you start to let go of envy, you realise that there is a fuck tonne of stuff out there – I hate to say this – but whatever it is you want IS abundant
You just need to be you, focus on you…DO YOU
There are things that you can do that will piss on any of my attempts, and likewise I will have things that I can kick your ass on
Thats just life
We can’t all be awesome at the same stuff, how dull would that be.
So if you see someone with the life or assets your want, don’t get envious – let it go – simply focus on your talents, learn what you can – and do your thang
Life is one big game, no point looking at the other players and hating them – sometimes they are going to beat you – and sometimes you are going to beat them
Is what it is 🙂
Thats it from philosophical Dan today