Neediness; one of most unattractive qualities in life or business
I read a lot of books and am a big fan of Mark Manson and long after I’d read his more known stuff I found an old one of his
Was about the world of relationship coaching that he had updated since he wrote it
I like to learn from a variety of sources
And so on
And have always found that the dating/PUA/relationship coaching books always have a great crossover to marketing
Whether you like it or not?
Is an excellent marketing book as well
But anyways back on point, one of the chapters in ‘Models’ was on neediness
Neediness is an utterly unattractive quality
I know because I have been that person
Always wanting attention
Had to have contact all the time
Whether it comes to life or business neediness is not attractive
If you NEED someone
They will pull back
If they WANT you
They will make the effort to be with you
If you want to be wanted
Being your own man or woman
Having principles that you stick to
Keeping your word
Doing what you say will do
Gives you value
Gives you worth
Makes your desirable
Makes you want able
It’s the same in business
I’ve been very fortunate to have an excellent training in sales – any decent salesperson knows that if you act desperate to close
You barely do
(And yes this works with the opposite sex as well – both ways)
If you act needy you simple won’t get what you want in life
Now don’t get me wrong TENACITY is admirable
You won’t often close often on the first time ; you often need multiple attempts to sign someone up, get a call booked in or make a sale
But if you act like that deal is the only thing between you keeping a roof over your head or being on the streets
Your prospect will smell it a mile off
This is one of those times where you do need to fake it until you make it
ACT LIKE YOU DONT NEED IT!
Or simply think
It’s really that simple
Confident in your own abilities
Seriously knowing your god damned value in ANY relationship
And trust me if you stick with it?
Shit gets good
Like, REALLY good ??
Innuendo aside; no one wants neediness in their life – but you do (personal or professional) want to be wanted
And if you aren’t where you want to be right now?
Maybe ask yourself:
Am I being too needy?
If you are – following the above might help….
PS This was from a piece I wrote in 2017; and this was a T-shirt that was sent to me
As a straight man living in Brighton this was not my best ‘lead magnet’ for ladies methinks ??