17 May

Neediness: Models and The Game

by DanM in Blog Post No Comments

Neediness; one of most unattractive qualities in life or business

I read a lot of books and am a big fan of Mark Manson and long after I’d read his more known stuff I found an old one of his

‘Models’

Was about the world of relationship coaching that he had updated since he wrote it

I like to learn from a variety of sources

Art…

History…

Culture…

Biographies….

And so on

And have always found that the dating/PUA/relationship coaching books always have a great crossover to marketing

Whether you like it or not?

‘The Game’

Is an excellent marketing book as well

But anyways back on point, one of the chapters in ‘Models’ was on neediness

Neediness is an utterly unattractive quality

I know because I have been that person

Needy

Always wanting attention

Had to have contact all the time

Aka

Low value

Low status

Whether it comes to life or business neediness is not attractive

If you NEED someone

They will pull back

If they WANT you

They will make the effort to be with you

If you want to be wanted

Confidence

Being your own man or woman

Having principles that you stick to

Keeping your word

Doing what you say will do

Establishing boundaries

Gives you value
Gives you worth
Makes your desirable
Makes you want able

It’s the same in business

I’ve been very fortunate to have an excellent training in sales – any decent salesperson knows that if you act desperate to close

You barely do

(And yes this works with the opposite sex as well – both ways)

If you act needy you simple won’t get what you want in life

Ever

Now don’t get me wrong TENACITY is admirable

You won’t often close often on the first time ; you often need multiple attempts to sign someone up, get a call booked in or make a sale

But if you act like that deal is the only thing between you keeping a roof over your head or being on the streets

Your prospect will smell it a mile off

My advice?

This is one of those times where you do need to fake it until you make it

ACT LIKE YOU DONT NEED IT!

Or simply think

IDGAF ??

It’s really that simple

Be cool
Relaxed
Charming
Confident in your own abilities

AND

Know
Your
Fucking
Worth

Seriously knowing your god damned value in ANY relationship

And trust me if you stick with it?

Shit gets good

Like, REALLY good ??

Innuendo aside; no one wants neediness in their life – but you do (personal or professional) want to be wanted

And if you aren’t where you want to be right now?

Maybe ask yourself:

Am I being too needy?

If you are – following the above might help….

??

(Your welcome)

PS This was from a piece I wrote in 2017; and this was a T-shirt that was sent to me

As a straight man living in Brighton this was not my best ‘lead magnet’ for ladies methinks ??

DanM

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