Confidence Is Attractive
Confidence; it gets you paid and it gets you laid….
(And how do you ‘level up’ someone who has little/none)
^^ this was adapted from a post I saw from one of my ex private coaching clients Chris Laub in his copy group
I hadn’t seen it (since I had been laid up for the last 48 hours) but was tagged in as an ‘anomaly’ in that when I came onto the copywriting ‘scene’
I came out swinging
My service and work
Even if it wasn’t (and 700k a month for my clients would say they were pretty good)
I instilled confidence in my clients because I was confident
They felt they had made a ‘smart buying decision’ and how I made them feel about their investment was just as important
If you act like a little bitch that’s what your are going to be treated like
A little bitch
No one is attracted to weakness
Confidence – in life and in business – is sexy
People are drawn to confidence
To big have and be around
Believe it or not?
I was a shy little soft cock for a long time
It’s only when I was forced to go out on the street every day (when I was a headhunter) and I had to get an email address
(This may sound batshit but bear with)
Reason being they thought I was in my mid 20’s
I had just turned 19
They didn’t want me there
They wanted me out
Because I was such a little bitch I accepted it and did it
I was scared
I needed the money
I had no other choice
So every fucking lunchtime I had to get an email address – that they would email – if it bounced back
I was sacked
So every day I had to metaphorically cradle my tiny little balls and go out and somehow persuade a
Fucking stranger to give me their email
It was hell
But I did it
And was one of the best things I’ve ever done
Works with the opposite sex too
Is anyone attracted to weakness?
I say no
Huge turn offs
Same in life
Same in business
Confidence kills in all aspects of life
Now, I’m fortunate to be able to work with hundreds and thousands of people – and this confidence issue I see time and time again
So how the fuck do you help someone be confident
Not ‘fake it till you make it’
How do you help someone own their shit, and become the person they want to be instead of being crippled by their lack of confidence
I think it’s a massively important area and being confident (NOT arrogant – that’s for another discussion) is key to getting ahead in life
(Oh and I chose this pic because I look handsome as fuck – and even if I didn’t – I’d act that same way anyways ha. I posted this on my wall a year ago today thought was epic and wanted to share here)read more
Anyone else doing ‘STOPTOBER’ this month (aka going alcohol free?)
Or do you struggle with drinking and could do with a place to talk/share freely?
Thought I would use the group to do some good
It’s no secret that I used to have a bit of a problem with drink (as an ‘FYI’ both of these were consumed in 2 days 4 years ago!)
I’ve now been sober for 20 months and not only do I not miss it – but am day to day the happiest, most conscious and stable I’ve ever been
Removing drink from my life was a GAMECHANGER
Don’t get me wrong I had some AMAZING (and funny/filthy) times when I was drinking but it got to the point where it no longer served me hence it’s gone
I made a promise and I stuck to it
Now the group is for entrepreneurs who want to get shit DONE; but I’ve tried all manner of things and seen ups/downs with alcohol
So wanted to open up the group for an open discussion around this for anyone who is a) doing the challenge or b) wants to talk about their relationship with alcohol
I am NOT a licensed medical professional so can’t/won’t give any advice in that vein i can just share my experiences and some things that worked for me
Equally if anyone is struggling with this – sometimes just talking about it makes a huge difference
If you want to share anything whether that be your experiences with going sober, any struggles you might have or questions
Feel free to comment below
(And if you can offer advice too that would be welcomed)
Bit of a different CWD post but one that – I think – could be usefulread more
What You Can Learn From My “Special” Sister
NO SHAME = EPIC LIFE (what you can learn from my ‘special’ sister soaking me for £160+ lol)
So I decided to give my folks a break, said would take Anna shopping
‘Have whatever you want Spud’
And she has
It’s amazing what she all of a sudden ‘really needed’
Because of the way her brain works she petty much doesn’t have any shame or filter
She wants something?
She asks for it
(And if it’s me unless she is being a little shit, she gets it lol)
All the epic things I have in my life are generally because I have gone
And just gone for it, tried or simply chanced my arm
You never know what you might get
Stop talking ya self OUT of opportunities and just fucking go for it
Little bit of cheek
Little bit of charm
Little bit of effort
Goes a long way
(Am taking her home before she rinses me for any more, gave her £20 for sweets – I got £1.80 back 🤣🤣)read more
Do Some Sh*t For YOU Today
DO STUFF THAT MAKES YOU HAPPY (not what you think you ‘should’ do)
The entrepreneur life can be a fucker at times – well – life full stop can be a total bell end eh?
As someone who’s newly completely cracked with the likes of mini heart attacks and so forth…
…you need to do things to chill you out and make you smile
ON is important
So is OFF
If you don’t have an outlet to blow of some steam, have a giggle and switch off
– you’re gonna have a bad time –
Always good for this
(And us Brits have NO choice not to this weekend – even though I haven’t been employed for several years I can’t ever bring myself to work on a bank holiday!)
Take solemn time, and it’s NOT selfish, for you
When I don’t do this?
– sleeps shit
– I get ‘tetchy’
– head gets fuzzy
– don’t enjoy life so much
As long as I do a few things (and I’m crazy low key it’s bike rides, gym, spas, films and books – that’s it!) each week for me?
= HAPPY DAN
So my advice
Do some shit for YOU today
And if not?
(If your struggling for WHAT to do, feel free to say I’ll give you some suggestions 😈)read more
Where Are The Men Standing Up For Women
***IN RESPONSE TO A ‘CHEEKY’ POST***
So I woke up to a rather nice female bottom
Alas it was 2D and in here and from an old advert
And advert that – in fact some years ago – I believe I posted on my wall
In today’s current climate
Maybe nopes innapropes eh?
The chap who posted it is a very good friend and is a great entrepreneur no malice was meant – and has consistently been a valued member of the group AND helped others willingly
But I’m sensitive to y’all
I’m a massively heterosexual, high-testosterone MAN
I’m proud of being a man
I love being a man
And I fucking love women (we all know gators/lifts weights/likely crazy blah blah lol)
But I equally am mindful of ALL genders and we never mean to offend
And that pic – I can see – could of caused offence to some hence for the fact this is a group about getting shit done
Equally this is a group for adults and I will always encourage people to be, speak and act however the fuck they want
As long as there is no genuine malice behind it
Learn and move on
Anyways this is In response to the comments ‘where are the men standing up for women’
Here I am
And I’ll stand up for anyone that needs it
And here’s my ass – believe it or not the only butt shot I had
Balance = restored
(Discussion welcomed below and anything that’s private DM me)read more
7 Tips To Kick Procrastination In Its Stupid Fvcking Face
I shared this on my wall some time ago, and as I’m totally chilled AF (earned, check out comment #1 lol) felt this was a useful post for those who *maybe* need a bit of a nudge to do the things 😉
It’s a right bell end isnt it
We all – to one degree or another – suffer from it…even me lol
Which is why, considering it’s Sunday, I’d thought I’d share with you how I get shit done
These 7 little things I’ve done for a period of time that’ve worked really well.
(Oh And I came up with seven because everything has to be seven when you’re doing things on the internet. lol)
Shall we then?
One: The 3 Second Rule
I learned this from a filmed called ‘We are the Millers’. In the story, the main dude is talking to a younger boy who’s got a lady he likes – but too scared to talk to her. He basically says ‘you’ve got three seconds to catch your breath and go ask her out’.
And it’s no different when it comes to doing stuff in business. If you come up with an idea, a concept or a thought where you think ‘fuck it – I want to do that’, you’ve got three seconds to talk yourself out of it.
So what do I do?
In those 3 seconds, I’ll quickly message someone who can help me with it, I’ll write a post on facebook or I’ll call one of my team members and say ‘fuck it we’ve got to do this’
Bless them, both Tega my second in command and Dex my mentor have been at the mercy of the 3 second rule numerous times. I have an idea and I simply take action.
Imperfect action is the key to success. Most of the things I’ve done, I’ve had no idea what i’m doing.
I’ve just given it a go and figured it out as I’m going along.
Two: The Dentist Appointment.
If you’ve read my book you will be familiar with this one – it’s so simple but it WORKS
I learned this from one of my very first coaches, John Logar.
A Bit unusual but if you go to the dentist, you block out 1 hour of your time. That’s one hour you’re doing absolutely fuck all. Why? Because you’re having your fucking face drilled 😉
No calls – No messages -Nothing.
When I had my marketing agency, we blocked out one hour everyday (even if we didn’t need to) for new business development. And as a result, we built a huge business pipeline which is why I’ve managed to scale up so quickly.
Before I knew it, we were making $50-60k a month. I’d recruiting team members to help and I was working just 2-4 hours a week.
Use time blocking, turn your phone off, and get focussed. Use an alarm to tell you when to start and when to stop. This is extremely important for getting shit done.
Three: My Sunday Braindump & 3-5 System
This is the productive section of HTBFA and if you haven’t bought my book yet… it’s about £10 on Amazon.
Equally this is the basis of my ‘I GET SH*T DONE’ planner which is a physical thing which you write in; was a bastard to make but it’s awesome
Save me going over old ground, here’s a snippet from ‘How to Be F*cking Awesome’…
‘As I’m a simpleton, I get rather frustrated and overwhelmed with all the shit in my head. So I decided to do a brain dump. It took me 2 hours and resulted in a mammoth list of 169 things to do. I thought fuck this I’m never going to get this done – this is what most people do – they remain overworked, bitter fuck whitts. You my friend are not a fuck whitt. ‘
Keith, one of my personal training clients at the time taught me a really simple system – not just that, but keith had a business that turned over 40 million a year, had a wonderful house, wife and lifestyle – I wanted to be Keith.
The simple system was writing a list. A list with no less than 3 and no more than 5 important things I need to do for my business. And then I rank them.
One: Super Important (tasks only Dan can do)
Two: Important but doesn’t need to be done now.
Three: Not time bound (someone else can do it)
A lot of people try to do multiple things all at once on different days. Here’s a sample of a typical ‘Dan Week’…
Monday – Planning
Tuesday – Coaching Calls
Wednesday – In person meetings
Thursday – Copy and content creation
Friday – Marketing
Saturday – Social Media
Sunday – Free Day
This is one of the easiest ways to get shit done. If you know each day has a specific theme, it’s super easy to stay on track.
I have goals written fucking everywhere. Little business cards with my goals written down which I’ve stuck everywhere round my house. Everything I do always goes through my filter:
Am I being a busy fool or is this moving the needle?
If there’s something that’s kinda working but really isn’t doing anything to develop my business, that’s just being a busy fool. You’ve gotta be honest with yourself. The filter is based on the art of Kaizen – continuous movement.
I don’t try and smash out crazy to do lists or goals – everyday I ask myself ‘am I moving the needle towards the bigger goal?’
Simple but easy to avoid.
Six: Punishment VS Reward
When was the last time you truly rewarded yourself or punished yourself?
Case in point, by Friday I had everything I needed to do done – content created, emails sent, social media posts written. In my head I’d ticked off a shit ton of priority 1’s.
So as had the whole weekend off and fucked around on jet skis with my old friends from school
And I said to myself, If I didn’t’ get the work done, I wasn’t going to go out to sea. It was that simple.
(And I would of been letting my friends down)
It’s all about becoming self reliant and self aware. Be honest with yourself and if you struggle, find yourself
An accountability partner
A coach or mentor
Join a paid group like EWD
Social proof – whack your goal on social media and hold yourself accountable
Be responsible for your own fucking life. Which brings me nicely onto the final point…
Seven: Take Responsibility
If you’re procrastinating and not getting shit done, that is 100% your fault. If everything is going well and you’re making money, you’ve got a great relationship and your physique/health is on point, that’s also your fault.
Where you are right now is 100% your fault. No one else’s. You can influence exactly when and what happens to you. And to influence it, you must taking action.
That’s it. Seven tips and a couple of resources (if you want them). All you need to do is re read this, take notes, pick a few points to work on and take action.
Hope you find that useful, equally if you have any tips share them below – it all adds up!read more
Motivational Quotes and Whatnots
DO MOTIVATIONAL QUOTES WORK FOR YOU? (And what do you think when you see them)
Had an interesting conversation earlier with a friend who mentioned seeing motivational quotes from a life coach who was maybe 22/23 at best
I joked back saying it’s funny when you see ‘Instagram models’ sharing something quite aspirational while bending over and arching their back like a stripper
Sometimes you look at them and thing
‘What the absolute fuck are you doing sharing that’ lol
(Especially if the imagery or that persons background is utterly incongruent)
Equally there has been times when I have seen a quote or saying and BAM hit me at exactly the right time and made me thing about things in a different way
What about you
Use em yourself?
It’s so prevalent in the entrepreneurial world I’ve never given it a moment of my time therefore thought it would make for a good discussion….
What say you?read more
You Don’t Need Another Plan
What I mean is:
ONCE you have invested…
ONCE you have skilled up…
ONCE you have had the clarity you need…
IF you are using the fact you need another one of the below to get ahead
Start doing THEN invest in more as/when you need
(And if you want to give me £1000 for a consulting session, be my guest! 😘)read more
When You Were Younger
What did you want to be when you were younger (and share ‘young you’ pics fro trolololz if you dare)
This was me at 31
If just quit a slightly intense relationship (now friends again, me and my weakness for ladies that lift lol), my job as a PT back in london
Had (I think) 5 grand cash saved and a few empty credit cards
Since I was 19 all I had wanted was my own gym
Had – of course – no fucking idea how to do that lol
Anyways I ended up maxing out 6 credit cards and getting my my first one in Somerset
(Have a few now – still running and not by moi – automated AF)
Then I wanted to be a copywriter
Then own an agency
Then an author
But if you go waaaaaaay back to my teens (bar wanting to be an astronaut as a kid) I wanted to be an engineer
An aerospace engineer to be precise
Did my A-levels (non UK peeps higher education from 16-18) in double maths, physics and design…
Was accepted into a 4 year degree to design planes n engines n wings n shit then (because needed to for family reasons) went into work, then headhunting and the rest is history
Goes to show that you can always change
Don’t have to be doing in the future what you are doing now
Can always retool
Can always change
Just takes a bit of effort eh?
Anyways – are you doing what you set out to to?
Had your life taken the path you expected?
What’s your story?!
(And see if you can beat shiny chest dan for an old school pic!)read more
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