Coffee With Dan

Stop giving a shit about what people think!

I used to care SO much what people thought.

What did it do for me?

Bollock all…

Now?

I do my own thing.

Dance to my own beat.

Couldn’t give a tuppenny fuck what people think anymore and as a result?

Life is good.

Now be honest with yourself -how much of what you do is because of other people?

How much do you care about what people say about you?

Do you embrace your unique talents, quirks and downright weird side?

If no?

Why the fuck not?

Life is so bastard short.

Why do you care so much about what other people think when they in all likelihood are too wrapped up in their own shit!

Peace out.

Here’s the right way and the wrong way to ‘network’ online (social media) -an overview and practical tips you apply immediately.
Today, I had an awesome conversation with someone who had recently discoveredme, and I had noticed that they had liked a fair chunk of my posts.
So I sent them a message and said ‘hello’.
No agenda.
Not trying to sell anything.
I *JUST* genuinely wanting to connect with another human, who is in the same world as me.
That in turn leads to a call and now we will hang out and work together, allfrom having a genuine interest in getting to know the people who like my work.
Now,I’ve said this before -and this is the wrong way to network, or grow your online influence:
. add person as friend

. send ONE message (some don’teven send that) with a vague and cut/paste‘hello’

. pitch your fucking coaching programme
…mainly, because you look like a towering cockwomble.
Honestly, I know I can be accusedof dumbing it down at times, but copy this = real connections and longer-termrelationships.
See someone you want to connect with?
. add them as a friend

. wait for them to accept

. when they have accepted -shoot them a PERSONAL message -have a read of their wall, what they like, and reference WHY you added them

. have NO agenda

. be a fucking human!

Equally, if that is a little too direct for you, try this:
. follow those people you wish to connect with

. leave meaningful comments on their post, fairly regularly -but not SO often that you look like a stalker

. share their content, take them, reference WHY you shared it -again not often, ONLY if you actually rate what they have written

. interact with on public message comments

. add as friend

. be a fucking human!
Honestly, does that sound that hard?
My friend Justin Devonshire taught me an amazing phrase that ‘Your Net Worth Is Your Network’.
Do I have an amazing network?
I would say so.
Do I class these people as a means to an end, a $ sign, or someone I can get something from?
Do I fuck!
If that happens -great!
If not, don’t give a shit -the fact I have a meaningful connection means more to me than some short-termgain.
That and I actually like people!
So,next time you add someone on FB -have some manners if they accept and at least shoot them a little message.
Trust me -this goes a long way.:-)

I have lost count of the amount of times I have spoken to some truly talented people,who have this ‘great idea’ that they have been working on for months, if not years.
Yet I have never seen it:

• could be a book
• could be a digital product
• could be a physical business

But it stays in the planning stages for, well, ever.

These are the people that are going to look back one day and think…

‘CRAP’

Why didn’t I just do it?

So far,on my travels and having met all the clever and successful peeps I have,none of the buggers really had a clue that they would be doing what they were doing now.

They took an idea, did some research, then went in…
#ballsdeep

I have in the last year set up a total of 8 business ventures, and 4 of them (gym/studio, iamthefitnesscopywriter.com, Coffee with Danand my coaching business) have been a success.

The other 4?

Meh.

Went nipples north.

The thing is I used to be attached to failure -when things went wrong I thought I was a screw up.

Now?

I have a simple system.

I give myself 12 weeks / 90 days to do the following:

• research
• launch
• make a profit
• automate
• step back

If after 90 days I’m doing too many hours, it’snot profitable and quite frankly if it’s annoying me?

I tank it.

Shut up shop.

Move on.

There is no emotional attachment to it -I mean you can’t hit a home run every time right?

12 weeks, 3 months, 90 days -from start to finish.

Easy and peasy.

One of the BEST pieces of advice I can give you is:
95% of opportunities say ‘NO’ to

With a caveat…
I had been 100% guilty of saying ‘YES’to everything and when you start out it’s mega-tempting to say yes to everything -especially when the coffers are empty:

• do you want to JV on this
• let’s launch this new product
• how about we pitch X to Y
• podcast, should definitely be doing more podcasts
• and so on

There comes a point where there is only so much of you to go around -and you can become something I learned about in my headhunting days -a ‘busy fool’. (more…)

Sometimes,I get a bolt out of the blue that reminds me of the humble beginnings of my entrepreneurial journey…

What am I talking about?

Well how does the idea of turning sideways and Indiana Jones style inching along the wall to get INTO the shower cubicle sound like?

Or having 8 mini heaters in the winter, wearing jumpers and tracksuit bottoms to bed?

How about sharing your living space with every shape,size and speed of spider known to man?

How about banging your head EVERY FUCKING NIGHT when you go to bed?

Or pooling your cash together to figure out of you had enough to get food the next day, and rushing into Morrison’s just before closing when you realised you had enough to buy yourself a treat for a quid from the reduced section?

Sound fun? (more…)

This is a recent ‘philosophy’ that I have been trying to live my life by, and its rather simple to be honest – and as a result my happiness as gone up many times over.

But since going online there is this insidious ‘underbelly’ that is really starting to get on my tits – and there are some sneaky little shits that out there.

You see with my philosophy? Its VERY simple: (more…)

Effort, goes a long way.

In this online world, it’s super easy to send a FB message, an email or a cheeky tweet.

But to offer to drive/train/fly to meet someone for a coffee?

It’s -sigh, sorry for using this phrase -next level stuff. (more…)

#BEMOREDAN

^^^ I’ve decided to make this a thing -care to join me?
Firstly, I have not let anything get to my head.

A few folks used this in a thread -namely what would they do is they were me or had me there telling them what to do

Apparently, saying ‘fuck it’ and just doing it anyways is the short and simple summation.

How would I define myself then?

Well, definitely a work in progress but the more ‘DAN’ I am -they better my life gets! (more…)

THE BAD SIDE OF ENTREPRENEURSHIP

Here’s the thing… people won’t understand what the fuck you are doing, or why you are doing it.

You will be told (more than once) to get a proper job.

At times, you will be isolated as fuck, and riddled with self -doubt.

People who you loved/cared for/respected as industry friends and peers will turn on you,block you, bitch about you and generally surprise you by their actions.

This hurts more than you can imagine. (more…)