• what used to make me happy then and now

    I was sitting in the gym today

    Couple of young ‘BRO’s’ next to me; was funny overhearing them talk about big lifts and trying to figure out how to make a girl like them and getting on it on the weekend

    Shit I probably used to care about

    I just don’t anymore

    What used to make me happy?

    • closing all the money
    • being ‘jacked’
    • VIP at clubs
    • sex/‘dangerous’ women
    • getting wasted on a weekend
    • eating myself (nearly) sick on junk food binges
    • what people thought of me/being cool


    • hanging out with the family/making Anna smile (I’ve always liked this tbh)
    • a long motorbike ride with music on
    • heading out to sea on the jet ski and killing the engine
    • the silence of a spa or good film
    • truly changing someone’s life
    • finding a new meme
    • making someone laugh

    ^^^ that list isn’t exhaustive (and money is still fucking awesome and I’m sure I’ll like ladies again one day after the ‘clamnesty’/if I can be bothered again)

    Shit that I used to feel I needed to be happy just doesn’t do it for me anymore

    For me once I achieved it the ‘happiness’ was often short lived and off on to the next bigger better version

    What about you have you found what makes you happy now?

    Have you found it changes as you got older?

    I’m just intrigued

    What makes YOU happy?

    read more
  • ***Daily Dose Of Dan***

    Seriously, this is some of the best advice I can give you

    Stop expecting a certain outcome


    If it works – whatever it is?


    If it doesn’t?

    Who gives a shit

    Learn to let go 🙂

    Stop worrying about stuff you can’t control
    Watch a cartoon
    Have a wank
    Sleep away the afternoon
    Lick a lamppost

    Whatever tickles your pickle just stop stressing about shit coz ya gonna end up dead one day so why so serious?!

    read more
  • Being Selfish Doesn't Make You Bad

    Taking time out to work on your business…

    To improve your health….

    To make yourself happy…

    Is far too often seen as selfish; if you are one of the people that give give give then there will be a point you say:


    And walk away, burn the bridges and be a you that – let’s none honest – isn’t really you; it’s just how you react to stress

    Don’t let yourself to get that point

    Sometimes you have to say to those close to you – and sometimes yourself – stop

    You need to ‘give’ to you, look after you, focus on you so that you can serve, give and show up

    Tonight, I want you to do one thing

    Think of an area of your life that is giving you shit, causing you stress or making you unhappy

    Think of ONE action you can do to fix that/make it better

    Then remove ANY shame it guilt around being selfish

    Write it down

    And tomorrow YOU DO YOU

    It may seem difficult at first, especially if you are naturally a ‘giver’; but you have to get your house in order before you start helping others

    You’ll never reach your potential otherwise

    Good luck!

    read more
  • Neediness; one of most unattractive qualities in life or business

    I read a lot of books and am a big fan of Mark Manson and long after I’d read his more known stuff I found an old one of his


    Was about the world of relationship coaching that he had updated since he wrote it

    I like to learn from a variety of sources





    And so on

    And have always found that the dating/PUA/relationship coaching books always have a great crossover to marketing

    Whether you like it or not?

    ‘The Game’

    Is an excellent marketing book as well

    But anyways back on point, one of the chapters in ‘Models’ was on neediness

    Neediness is an utterly unattractive quality

    I know because I have been that person


    Always wanting attention

    Had to have contact all the time


    Low value

    Low status

    Whether it comes to life or business neediness is not attractive

    If you NEED someone

    They will pull back

    If they WANT you

    They will make the effort to be with you

    If you want to be wanted


    Being your own man or woman

    Having principles that you stick to

    Keeping your word

    Doing what you say will do

    Establishing boundaries

    Gives you value
    Gives you worth
    Makes your desirable
    Makes you want able

    It’s the same in business

    I’ve been very fortunate to have an excellent training in sales – any decent salesperson knows that if you act desperate to close

    You barely do

    (And yes this works with the opposite sex as well – both ways)

    If you act needy you simple won’t get what you want in life


    Now don’t get me wrong TENACITY is admirable

    You won’t often close often on the first time ; you often need multiple attempts to sign someone up, get a call booked in or make a sale

    But if you act like that deal is the only thing between you keeping a roof over your head or being on the streets

    Your prospect will smell it a mile off

    My advice?

    This is one of those times where you do need to fake it until you make it


    Or simply think

    IDGAF ??

    It’s really that simple

    Be cool
    Confident in your own abilities



    Seriously knowing your god damned value in ANY relationship

    And trust me if you stick with it?

    Shit gets good

    Like, REALLY good ??

    Innuendo aside; no one wants neediness in their life – but you do (personal or professional) want to be wanted

    And if you aren’t where you want to be right now?

    Maybe ask yourself:

    Am I being too needy?

    If you are – following the above might help….


    (Your welcome)

    PS This was from a piece I wrote in 2017; and this was a T-shirt that was sent to me

    As a straight man living in Brighton this was not my best ‘lead magnet’ for ladies methinks ??

    read more
  • Question? Are you gonna commit to reading this post and putting ideas into action?

    Once again, drop the word “reading” in the comments before you continue…

    Yesterday’s post – once Facebook decided it was finally going to play ball – was all about getting yourself out that funk where things are okay, but they’re not great.

    Those times when life’s just a little bit too plain sailing

    Where things are so smooth it takes that edge it takes that fire.

    It takes the feeling of having your back against the wall.

    So you don’t have that great drive and desire to really smash it.

    Oh, how lucky we would be if life was always that way.

    Even with the best plans, the best intentions, the best skills, the best prep

    EVERYTHING in place to make you a success.

    Something comes up,

    It could be something small.

    It could be something huge.

    It could be something in your control

    or it could be something completely out of your hands.

    Ting is

    If you don’t have ways of dealing with things

    Whether its internal in your head physical out there in the world.

    If you don’t have some think in place that helps you deal with it, it’s going to knock you back

    It’s going to take away that consistency, momentum, drive and passion from you.


    if you get enough knock backs.

    If you get hit enough times

    Eventually you’re gonna go down for good.

    Let’s face it, you are human

    And being human.

    That is only so much you can take.

    And it’s through not having pathways out of those setbacks.

    By not having ways to get around things like those you

    By not having the tools to deal with the mindset issues that crop up time and time again.

    this the reason why so many great people with a whole heap of good to offer to the world don’t get anywhere.

    So that’s what today’s post is all about.

    It’s about how you can deal with anything that life throws at you

    what to put in place



    how you handle yourself and how you can keep on going no matter what comes up.

    And finally

    how to take any of those negative feelings

    the fear

    the rage

    the spite

    the overwhelm,

    Turn them around on their head and use them to you your advantage

    Let’s dig in.

    – have a support network

    Think you can just go it alone?

    Deal with everything that life’s gonna throw at you and just brush it off.

    Keep on putting it under the rug

    it’s okay

    you’re okay

    it’s no big deal

    just crack on with it.

    Good luck with that one.

    If you try and do it alone You’re an idiot.

    Yet, it’s something that we have a habit of trying to do.

    We try to just deal with our problems

    We are the problem solvers after all

    We try to find the answer find a way find the way forward figure it all out.

    Because if we don’t, who will?

    We convince ourselves that it’s not a big deal

    We can handle it

    That other people have got bigger problems

    And if we just keep on pushing will find a way

    So we push and we push and we push until we break down

    And none of that is necessary

    The thing is

    On top of thinking that we should be able to deal with everything.

    That we should be smart enough

    That we should have it all handled because hey, everyone else does

    On top of all that

    We beat ourselves up and we put ourselves down and we just don’t think we’re worth it.

    We don’t think that we are worthy of help.

    We don’t think that we deserve to be cared about.

    We don’t think that we deserve support


    We think that’s our job

    and our job alone.

    Nobody should do that for us.

    So it can be so hard to ask for help

    share the load.


    and we take on more a more a more

    we carry a bigger weight on our shoulders

    and I’m telling you now

    if you carry that weight

    if you keep on adding more and more stuff without getting any help without having any support without having people to help you figure things out,

    it’s going to break you.

    It’s just inevitable.

    Some point somewhere along the line that way is just going to get too much and it’s going to absolutely crush you.

    The alternative is getting a support network in place

    Support inside your business and sport outside of business because both sides are just important

    and both areas are areas where you’re going to have things come up.

    You’re gonna have problems, you’re going to have issues

    Having the right support in place to actually be provide practical help, smart guidance, emotional support and different ideas is key to seeing you through whatever comes up.

    That is the key to not breaking under the weight and the pressure and stress and all of the things that you’ve got going on in your life.

    I have said it before and I’l said it again

    Each hit takes its toll.

    And you get to the point where even the little ones, just the little tiny things are enough to set things off.

    You don’t want to get to that stage.

    So here’s what you need today.

    First up,

    you’ve actually got to be able to get support.

    Because right now if you’ve not got it in your life, the chances are that part of that is down to you thinking that you’re not worthy of help

    Before you get thinking of who that can be whatever you need support and what its gonna look like.

    The first thing you need to do is realize that yes, asking for help is something I really need to do. And getting the help is something that I’m worth having.

    And it’s hard believe me I know it is hard

    Because asking for help

    shows a little vulnerability.

    It also means you reach the realization that things aren’t so great

    It can be scary to admit to yourself,

    Let alone to anyone else

    To let them see the crack in the armor.

    The imperfection

    Believe me

    When you’ve got the right people around you

    letting them in

    letting them support and

    letting them feel valuable

    does wonderful things

    and yes

    you are worth help.

    So what exactly does help look like and what kind of support network should you be looking to put in place?

    There’s 2 sides to it.

    Practical support and mental/emotional support.

    Some people will be able to provide both kinds.

    Others will be a case of one or the other.

    Take an a4 piece of paper and turn it sideways.

    Top half – practical

    Bottom half – ideas and emotional

    Split it into columns for business, relationships, family, mindset, health etc.

    Basically every area of your life

    And give them a score out of 5 for how well you’re supported emotionally and practically in those areas.

    What you want to go to want to do is look where your low scores lie. 1’s and 0’s

    There will be a reason for those gaps.

    Those gaps will show the areas but you probably avoided

    Are you completely on your own in those areas?

    If you are, that’s something that you’re going to want to address.

    Beyond that

    Take some notes with a little detail of the support you have and what you can do to improve things or simply strengthen your relationships with those who support you.

    – systems and back ups

    Now we’ve covered the people you want to have around you – now it’s on to the things to get in place.

    So that things – for the most part – can continue on the way they should no matter what happens.

    For this you need systems.

    This does not people you need all the tech in the wold and have automations doing everything.


    What I mean by having systems is knowing what’s supposed to happen, when it’s supposed to happen and what to do when things fuck up.

    It’s about knowing your MED (Minimum Effective Dose) which is basically the things that if everything that could go wrong is going wrong and there’s only a couple of things you can do – these are the things that you absolutely must do.

    It’s about having multiple marketing channels incase one goes down (I’m looking at you Facebook)

    Getting an account set up with multiple payment merchancte, stripe, square, and more – in case one you use decides to put a hold on your account.

    It’s about backing up your email database so you can transfer to another platform and don’t risk losing it if your current gets shut down.

    It’s about knowing that if you get into a slump – this is what you need to do to pull yourself out.

    If your cashflow gets tight – this is what you can put out to get some quick cash in.

    Again I want you to take a piece of paper and brain dump all the shit that can go wrong in your life, business and relationships.

    Then next to each one drop down an idea/ action plan to help minimise or eliminate the issue.

    It doesn’t have to be complicated but it can really save your ass.

    – Finding the positive in the negative

    I have consciously decided to spend a lot more time on my own without electronic devices, people or any form of stimulus and aggressively work on my thoughts

    Everything from triggers to limiting beliefs to self-sabotaging behaviours I have gone through each and every fucking and examined why I do the things I do and ask one simple question

    Does this serve me?

    Whereas before I wouldnít even consider the positive effects of what I perceive as negative ëstuffí, thanks to the time I have spent on my own?

    Now I do

    So what lessons have I taken from this painful journey

    For starters I have learned that you can ALWAYS find a positive even if it FEELS negative, and you will get what you focus on

    Now I mentally walk through and WRITE DOWN (this is key btw) all the positive things that have come from the encounter, issue, relationship – whatever it is

    And when I find myself on a little negative feedback loop?

    I have have them on my notes on my phone and if I find something shitty bubbling up with regards too whatever situation it may be?

    I just read the corresponding note

    Another thing I have found is that pain IS temporary IF you take action; donít get me wrong when life throws you a curveball you are allowed to feel crap and throw yourself a little pity party..

    But ONLY a little one and ONLY for a little whileÖ.

    After that? The KEY thing to getting over setbacks is ACTION

    Sitting around feeling sorry for yourself doesnít do shit, and as hard as it may be? What you need to be is DOING and NOT thinking in times like this. Brilliantly, the more action you take the better you tend to feel as time goes on

    Finally, learn to not only embrace painÖbut CHASE it

    This may sounds rather fucked up, but I am just putting to bed a great book, ëPrinciplesí by Ray Dalio, and he has a simple equation


    It may seem sadistic to chase painful situations, and without reflection and subsequent course correction

    It is

    But we can learn a lot from failed business venturesÖ

    Our pride and joy products floppingÖ

    Relationships and friendships falling by the waysideÖ

    Failing at things we knew, just KNEW that we would win at but didnítÖ

    Because most people do anything to avoid pain, I know I did for many a year – far too fucking long to be honest

    Now I embrace it for what it is

    I know I donít want to experience it again, so I learn what I did wrong to ensure (to the best of my abilities) that it doesnít happen again

    That and I see it as like weight lifting, the more you experience over time AND get though the other side, the more that ëdealing-with-pain-muscleí grows and the stronger and stronger you get until one dayÖ

    Öyouíre in pleasure

    – having a toolbox of strategies

    As you know, you can’t stop life from coming at you with a hit.

    All you can do is your best to stop the shit you cause yourself from coming your way.

    Your best?

    Not always good enough

    And then there’s plenty of shit life throws at you that is completely out of control.

    You can’t prevent life from coming at you.

    What you can do is prepare for it the best you can and have a selection of tools you can whip out at a moments notice to help you navigate the fuckery.


    With the right set of tools

    You can go beyond simply scrapping your way through life by the skin of your teeth.

    To actually using the negative to propel you forward.

    This is something I have used in EVERY area of life.

    Few examples..

    Was deeply unhappy with my looks and build, so I got hugely into fitness then personal training then gym ownership then fitness copywriting

    A negative

    Into a positive

    Was quite isolated and lonely when I started out as an entrepreneur, so set up a virtual coffee shop – aka ëCoffee With Daní; which as you know has become quite the thingÖ

    A negative

    Into a positive

    Some more?

    Was told I was shit at Rugby – so I worked harder and played for my university at the national level

    (I wasn’t necessarily any good but I was still on the pitch haha)

    I had the ‘I don’t think you will make it’ head shit when I went into the corporate world and told I would be sacked EVERY DAY if I didn’t hit my call targets – ended up being #2 (only lost out to an MD) out of 6000 head-hunters UK and Europe world

    Someone laughed at me when I started out at the gym, so ended up doing (really) a modelling shoot at 6.4% body fat and competed in powerlifting

    Was told (due to some inherited traits from Big Papa Nige) that my writing wasnít good enough to earn from – well fuck you Iíll write a bestselling book and get PAID for my words

    Anyways I share the above – all true – from my life, as everything truly fucking awesome I have worked forÖ

    BUT, it has been harnessing the power of spite and rage and sadness and envy that has given me the explosive fuel to do the work (either on myself or externally) that has given me most of what I have

    Yet hardly anyone talks about it

    And I don’t see almost anyone showing you how to leverage this ‘dark energy’ for extreme good and massive life changes

    And in 2018/2019 I went all in on this concept…and this happened

    • An additional £118,050 in profit OUTSIDE of my current businesses, in new markets and not previously done before
    • Dropped 13lbs, stopped smoking (I started only this last year due to stress), quit junk food
    • Rekindled a very important relationship, removed 3 toxic ones with my ‘satisfaction’ score (Iíll explain that shortly) being 7/8 out of 10 most days
    • Consistently get 6-8 hours sleep, and the quality of which has improved (compared to 3-5 fractured)
    • Launched one new business venture in a new vertical, and have mapped out two new ones in competitive markets which will be launching later this summer
    • Have taken control my life even further; with new systems and structure for my days that gives me more mental clarity and freedom than before
    • Grown as a leader for my team creating new opportunities for my core team WITHOUT negative impact or emotional strain






    And this January – after months of refining – I revealed everything I know about harnessing the darkness

    Their results?

    100K+ deals closed

    Toxic relationships terminated

    Businesses finally launched

    Egos ditched and powerful connections made

    People FINALLY experiencing freedom from the shitty thoughts they had and turning it into life changing ACTION


    Look, I have done this for a long time right?

    People got results

    People got breakthroughs

    People experienced changes

    People made shit happen

    GRIT: RED Edition (for me) is the simplest system I know to:

    – overcome your own bullshit, limiting beliefs and ëhead trashí

    – get a handle on your situation, OWN it and FIX it FAST

    – leverage the dark thoughts and energy that you have for GOOD and POSITIVE outcomes in your life

    – quite the negative people and traits and actions that hold you back and fuck you up

    – MAKE YOUR LIFE WHAT YOU WANT TO BE (if you are prepared to face a few harsh truths THEN turn that into action)






    When I came up with the concept of GRIT: RED it had to be:

    1. Simple

    2. Easy to action

    3. Something that I could realistically stick to (with all my other commitments)

    4. Would allow me to (eventually) see massive positive changes on not only my life, but those I served, interacted with and employed

    5. Allow me to be a better human, live a better life, be happier, wealthier and healthier (both physically and mentally)

    So thatís what I created

    A simple system that (I think) anyone can follow but more importantly helped me understand why I did the things I did, and what I could realistically do to control them, so:

    I tried

    I failed

    I tested

    Over and over and fucking over again until I got the ërecipeí just right

    That recipe?


    Now as you can probably tell from the energy and enthusiasm from my words, I believe in the so strongly that this product I believe is going to be one of the most transformational and powerful programmes I have created thus far

    (I believe it will surpass the success and sales of my post popular ever training, the original ëGRITí)

    I am PROUD AS FUCK of this

    And for those of you that want me to show you how to do what Iíve done, and how YOU can harness your darkness to create nothing but light


    The cost for all of that?

    A one time investment of only £195


    In closing: if you are finally ready to take ownership of your life, quit making excuses and do all that you can to make 2019 YOUR year and also me to show you EVERYTHING I have learned to change my life – and hopefully yours

    NOW is the time

    If you have ANY questions about the course?

    Send me a DM & I will be happy to answer

    Ultimately you only have one roll of the dice, so why NOT have all you feel you deserve and be free of the thoughts and actions that have held you back

    If not?

    The principles I have outline above when you harness negative energy to LAUNCH THE ROCKET…then pivot into positivity

    You can change your world fast

    read more
  • 10 May

    Overcoming the Fear of Death

    Blog Post

    In every loss, there’s an equivalent pain and sorrow. Now, how does anyone overcome the fear of death?

    1 year on; thoughts on life, what you make of it and an open invitation to change yours…

    So 365 days ago today my grandad passed away

    I’m always mindful of such personal posts; with people sometimes thinking the worst that such things are being leveraged for likes and social love

    (FYI I’m as good as can be; he passed knowing he was loved a long life and was peaceful in the final hours – and I got to say goodbye. All is ‘ok hun’)

    But I treat FB many times like a journal. I’ve needed to process some thoughts for a while and – examining my posts over the last week or so – it’s clear I have not been myself

    To coin a phrase from a wonderful human:

    ‘I’ve been feeling some type of way’

    Knowing that this coming up has been on my mind; I’ve been reflecting over the year that was

    That, and timehop has been breaking my heart reminding me of a life of mine that once was, but alas – is no more

    Now I know that I’ve spoken more than once about dying and death; and how I’ve used the knowledge of my own mortality as a motivator

    It once was my biggest fear and I couldn’t sleep at night as a young lad due to thinking about it

    – had to have a light on and fall asleep to music –


    I’m very much ok with it

    – totally at peace with my eventual parting from this world –

    I’m not religious (And if you are, that’s great) but I believe in energy and matter and from what we came from, one day we will become again


    But I digress

    When it comes to death?

    I don’t actively chase it of course; but as I remarked to a fiend this morning should what’s left of my life be snatched away from me in an instant?

    I’ve lived a good life

    I’ve made a difference

    I’ve done things that (honestly) ‘someone like me’ didn’t think they would ever do

    On the balance sheet of my overall existence?

    I like to believe I’m firmly in the black; and like to think I would leave the world a better place than when I arrived

    That brings me joy

    But equally lately I’ve been examining my life; there’s no secret that – now – I would like to meet someone and have a family one day

    I want to see more of the world

    I crave adventure; to do things and stuff that can only be experienced by the you own senses

    I have (albeit a bit of a ‘hack’) planned how I can get into space which I have dreamt of doing since I can remember as have been fascinated by the cosmos

    I want to meet all the people

    Help all the humans

    Write all the books

    Share all the content

    Do all the stuff

    I fucking love what I do for work and the fact that Im an actual author to this day – makes me more happy than you can imagine

    (And the people I get to work with are the reason I show up daily and love to work)

    But I’ve also come to realise that in certain areas of my life?

    Played small

    Scaled back

    Shied away from what I truly want to do

    One year on?

    I am proud of the fact I’ve kept of the drink, attained a degree of stability, helped 1000’s and been there for some key people in my life when they needed me the most

    – I kept my word –
    – I stepped up –

    It’s fair to say in some aspects that 2017 and prior Dan could not do that consistently

    As someone very dear to me said:

    ‘You are looking for light in dark holes’

    As I sit here typing this I realise that there’s so much I have yet to do

    So much that I want to do

    Hence today in honour of my grandad, my family, my mentor, my team, those that invest and support me

    The chains are off

    I’m done

    I’m totally fucking DONE

    I’m done with not doing the things that light up my fucking soul

    I want to feel things again

    I crave new experiences

    I want to work

    I want to create

    On a level I have not yet achieved

    Because my life’s work is not remotely yet done

    I simply want to DO and BE…well…


    And like I said – I’m DONE with the ‘cages’ in my life – both real and mentally constructed – that even someone who has a book called ‘How To Be F*cking Awesome’ has, from time to time, to break free from

    No matter how good or strong or stoic or powerful you think you are

    There are areas that, deep down, you KNOW you need to attack but your brain keeps you back, wants to play it safe

    And quite frankly?

    FUCK playing it safe

    It’s shit

    I share this because I’m sure that there are many of you that *should* be happy with lot in life

    But why should you?

    Why can’t you have more success and impact?

    Why can’t you experience a deeper love?

    Why can’t you have the freedom to spend with those you want to be with and do what you want to do?

    Why can’t you do the thing you’ve always wanted to do?

    FUCKING WHY!?????????

    The answer I believe is simple

    And it’s a statement that, I hope, next time you think you can’t do or be or have something you mentally tell yourself this instead

    ‘Why not?’

    So in celebration of a life well lived, and a tip of the digital hat to those who refuse to settle and want more from life

    I’ll come back to this statement in a year

    – timehop this time will be my friend –

    I expect my life to of changed considerably; and if somehow it hasn’t?

    Call me out on that

    Because how on earth can I expect to lead without leading by example?

    If this message resonates with you

    I would, truly – human to human – love to know below what you would like YOUR life to look like in 365 days time

    You have one roll of the dice, so why not live the life extraordinary?!

    It’s too short

    And I refuse to settle

    And you shouldn’t either

    I wish you the very best of luck; you can do more think

    Really you can

    read more
  • Time, What is the value of YOUR time

    It doesn’t matter how much you earn or how successful you are, Father Time cannot be cheated

    I see so many people on here bickering and being shitty and wasting so much precious time and energy over complete bullshit that doesn’t even matter

    I invested wisely in some ways

    Wasted poorly in others

    Made me realise what’s important and what’s not and that – moving forward what I will aggressively push towards…

    …and equally, retreat away from

    If no harm is being done?

    Live and let live

    Because ultimately?

    Life is precious

    And life is short

    The more I spend time online the more I realise that the world offline is where I need to invest as well as ‘double down’ on these people that value me and visa versa online

    Not wasting it on negative fuckery or with people who either add no value to our lives or just take take take

    It needs to be spent on people who value us

    Respect us

    And want to be with us

    As I’ve gotten older I’ve realised that there are truly good people who even though aren’t in my life per second anymore or are ‘virtual’ (aka my digital brothers and sisters)

    Still, make the time to make the time when it matters

    Equally, there are people who proclaim to be there for you and when you need it


    Shit like that used to get to me but now I realise it’s just people being people

    No need to be angry

    Just step forward and make peace with it

    And my advice – which you can take or leave because, let’s just be honest – I’m just a dude from Facebook

    Whether you are religious or not

    Whatever your beliefs are

    Our time on this planet is brief and can be cut short at any time

    You have a finite investment ‘pot’ in your time

    Invest wisely

    Waste sparsely

    Enjoy your time and your loved ones people of FB

    And don’t forget to do what makes you happy

    One roll of the dice

    It is important that you know “What is the Value of your time”


    Don’t waste it


    P.S I posted this a year ago today when I went to see my Grandad for the last time,  it popped up on my FB memories and I felt would be good to share here

    read more
  • Speed KILLS

    So yesterday while I was doing a 121 day, I realised there was a ‘chink’ in my armour that if I could fix – quickly

    My overall progress would accelerate rapidly


    So while we were wrapping up (and well within acceptable business hours) I found 4 people that could serve my new

    Now because of the way I am?

    I HATE being crap at stuff

    So for me at the start of anything new skill wise (or if I look/feel like shit) then I will go for a private or intensive option

    I messaged all 4 people at the same time

    I wasn’t ‘known’ to them (this need was on a local level) so just an ordinary lead – enquiring as they told me to – via message

    All 4 read the message

    Only two got back to me saying they would reply first thing

    (I don’t think Midday is first thing lol)

    One chap got back to me 7am

    I wasn’t up but replied straight away – worked out a package – and signed up


    When I was in the building stages of my gyms, copywriting, agency and consulting business

    Leads were RARE

    And when they came in – qualified, not ‘toe dippers or enquiries – I DIVED on it

    Especially if you are in a service business speed IS crucial

    Don’t get me wrong you shouldn’t always be on, have defined hours/boundaries and set limitations

    (And if you don’t have them you can’t blame someone for not adhering to them/going elsewhere if tot don’t work C hours etc)

    I was an EASY sale

    I said in the message:

    • ready to start now
    • have checked your prices and stated which one I wanted
    • was totally flexible with my diary

    I’d like to think I’m an ideal client

    And due to SPEED one individual has a new client who will invest long term in them and 3 others who simply couldn’t even bother to reply?


    If someone is interested in your their emotion = high and their likelihood of buying = high

    ESPECIALLY if they have sought YOU out (not ads or funnel or promo or something incentivised or required sales strategy)

    Those that act fast?


    So if you’re the sort of person that actually gives a crap about growing your biz and acts fast?

    You have nothing to worry about because the majority or people just simply don’t


    read more
  • UGSD 2 of 4: Why Kinda OK Is Not OK

    UGSD 2 of 4: Why Kinda OK Is Not OK

    Before you begin., same drill as yesterday. Drop the word reading in the comments to show you’re here, you’re in this and you’re actually gonna Get Shit Done…

    Yesterday I spoke about how to take action.

    The things you need to think about and put in place in order to actually get somewhere with it.

    You see life.

    It has a little habit of being a spiteful little bitch.

    And just when you think you get and someone just when you start to make some progress. Just when you started to make a difference and see some changes and actually create some habits

    Life comes along to rain on your parade and set you back to square one.

    Yesterday’s post gives you exactly what you need to deal with that before it happens so you can power on through.

    If you missed it I’ll get Lianne to drop the link in the first comment so you can go read after this.

    Today, I want to talk about something a little bit different.

    I want to talk to you about the thing that stops you from even getting to that point.

    Before you start making changes

    Before you start to take action.

    Before you start to put things into place.

    Do things with your life.

    Put yourself out there

    Get down to the gym

    Whatever it is that you’re going to do.

    Some of you, you don’t even get that far.

    And it’s not because you wouldn’t like things to be better.

    It’s not because you don’t think that your body could look better.

    It’s not because you don’t think your business could be better, your income could be higher, your relationships be more fulfilling.

    The problem it is just not painful enough.

    It’s not hurting you enough.

    It’s not giving you a punch to the guts.

    It’s not stopping you in your tracks.

    You just getting on with life.

    You’re fine.

    You’re okay


    It’s doing kind of okay.


    You’ve got up days, you’ve got down days.

    Hey doesn’t everyone!

    Your body?

    It’s not too bad

    Could do with losing a couple of pounds but could be worse.

    And therein lies the problem.

    You’ve gone got yourself into a happy little rut.

    I’ve been there.

    As you’ve probably seen me mentioned before.

    One of the things that fuels me is spite




    Something to fight against.

    A reason to keep on punching, keep on getting up keep on going forward and keep on smashing those goals.

    So when things are going great.

    When things are ticking along nicely.

    That’s when the rut creeps in.

    And if I’m not careful.

    It takes hold.

    And it starts to impact how I am.

    How I show up in this world

    What I do for you.

    And how my businesses grows.

    People who aren’t like us are happy with a “normal life”

    Going to work, watching soaps, time with friends and family and that all works for them.

    And that is perfectly fine.

    Us entrepreneurs on the other hand simply don’t suit that lifestyle.

    We want to get up, do things, create things, forge our own paths, make our own way and put things out into the world and ultimately create a life we love.


    So we set out on a path

    And as we’re going along that path.

    Comfort appears.

    Coziness appears.

    And all of a sudden that fuel powered you up to that level.

    It just loses its impact because you’re not feeling the pressure, you’re not feeling your back against the wall, you’re not seeing yourself in the mirror and realising you need to make changes fast.

    You don’t have that massive negative feeling to drive you.

    See, negative feelings are very powerful.

    They are things that can either hold you back, or propel you forward and that’s something that I’m going to be talking about in an upcoming post.

    But for now, what I want to talk to you about is the time where you haven’t got that massive driver.

    When you haven’t got that emotional pull that got put that rage that fury that spite. When you’re kind of just, okay.

    The Happy Little Rut

    Silent, yet deadly.

    Because that is the place where dreams go to die, where your grand vision of what’s possible for you in your life turns to nothing.

    It becomes that thing that you were going to do.

    The idea that you had.

    The body you gave up on.

    The point where you tell yourself that you’re okay with being single and there’s no one left out there for you, who could put up with you.

    It’s the point where you go from being it out, change the world to “meh, whatever”

    You fall into this feeling of being satisfied.

    Yet unsatisfied

    Where things are okay, but not okay

    You lose your spark, you lose your creativity, you lose your energy.

    How do you turn that around.

    How do you get you back.

    How do you pull your head out of your arse and actually get on with creating something that is more than okay.

    Something that is truly fucking awesome.

    I’ll tell you how.

    How To Get Out Of A Mehphisode

    Ever gone through one of those times where you just simply can’t be bothered.

    Everything is just


    It’s not that you can’t do anything.

    It’s not as though you’ve got any great obstacle in your way.

    It’s just, you don’t want to.

    You aren’t down and depressed in the dumps,

    The world’s not falling apart.

    Life’s not ending.

    Everything’s pretty neutral.


    Nothing’s really happening.

    Nothing’s really inspiring.

    There’s no big thing that you want to make happen.

    There’s nothing that you’re looking forward to.

    And you’re not really creating anything either because the tank is empty.

    Those times are what I’ve dubbed a mehphisode after going through it myself at a while back.

    There are a few things that you can do to help pull yourself out there and get you back into the game

    Now first thing before anything else, you’ve actually got to recognize that you fall into that spot.

    Sometimes it takes a while

    If you are someone who is a regular content creator, pay attention to what you’re putting out there.

    Because as things like this come up, you’ll start to notice a shift in what you post

    and what you’ll do is you’ll find yourself writing things which aren’t inspired

    It’s like your voice has been shut down


    what also happens is you have a drop in depth.

    Quality posts suddenly disappear for face of the earth because you simply haven’t got it in you.

    Now when that happens a day here or there, that’s fine.

    If it’s been a few days

    and you you notice there’s a shift in your content

    You’ve not got that power, that edge, that spark, that passion.

    That is one of the biggest warning signs a Mephisode has appeared.

    When it happens.

    Realize that it’s not forever and the whole world isn’t going to fall apart just because you’ve slipped.

    The first thing you’re going to want to do is rather than push yourself through

    it’s actually to step away

    Take a moment to actually re energize yourself and refill the tank

    because the chances are you’ve been sucked into work for quite a while and you’ve not been taking the time out that you need.

    You’ve not been reading so much

    You’ve not been watching films

    You’ve not been getting out that in the daylight and the fresh air

    you’ve not took that time to just be you

    and when you get yourself stuck in work doing doing doing the same things over and over again

    stuck behind the screen

    stuck on Facebook on Twitter on LinkedIn on Instagram

    when you are having conversations with clients with your team that all revolve around work

    then you leave yourself with nothing to draw from.

    And it’s not because you don’t have ideas thought knowledge and wisdom to share.

    It’s because without external things to draw from

    You don’t get that trigger

    You don’t get that inspiration

    and your creativity drops down the floor

    Your mood to


    when you’re not getting out and about changing your scenery and doing new things

    You lose the ups and downs so your mood just flat lines

    That knocks on to everything.

    How you are

    how you show up in the world.

    How you present yourself

    How you feel about your next steps.

    The whole lot flat lines.

    So as I say get out and do something

    go watch a film, go for a walk, go to an art gallery go meet up with some friends who have not spoken to for a while.

    Just do something

    Because that little change breaks you from the pattern that you’ve got into

    It gives you something to draw from

    some thoughts, inspiration experiences, stories think you see things you hear all can be used

    and that is going to make a huge difference.

    Find Your Fire

    So now you’ve broken the pattern. You’ve given it a nice hefty pattern interrupt to help you pull out of that pit of mehphisode

    What’s next?

    Because you’ve had to pull out to get yourself back into the game. Now you’re going to come back into action with whatever kind of action that is, whether it is something that you’re working on your business, your relationships, your body, your mindset, whichever area of life you’re going to focus on,

    and that you want to make change.

    Now you’ve got to find your fire,

    You’ve got to find that thing that is going to drive you

    Even when things are comfortable.

    Now, this is going to vary for everyone.

    There isn’t just one thing that drives us because we are all unique.

    And there’s a lot of talk about finding your purpose, your big Why, what’s the big idea

    More often than not

    People say the thing that they think they should say

    the thing that sounds right, the thing that a good person would want.

    The truth is

    That isn’t always the thing that you really really want it’s not the thing that’s really going to drive you

    It’s not because that thing isn’t important

    It’s just it’s not enough not for you on its own.

    Parents are great example of this.

    When you’re our parent you kids matter

    (so the rumour goes – no Little Dan’s running around as far as I know lol)

    You care about them

    You want to look after them

    You do everything you can for them to give them the best life that you can give them and quite often you put them ahead of yourself

    Sometimes too often

    So when it comes to figuring out your purpose and your why

    thinking that it’s your kids is a very easy answer

    Because it makes a lot of sense

    Everything you do you do for them.

    What about you?

    What about when you kids are grown up and I live in their own lives

    what then?

    And even before that point

    Is there really nothing for you?

    Something you would love to do love to experience love to create love to bring to the world

    Chances are there is.

    And this is more fuel to drive you

    It’s not something that should be left to one side and abandoned

    Because you can – and should – have more than one why.

    As you know

    family means everything to me

    Everything I’ve built has been driven by a desire to is to help look after my sister and parents.

    On a grander scale, to help create something to support other people like my sister


    I have a few personal was as well.

    There’s more than one ‘big why’ IMO

    There’s two

    One for the altruistic you

    (Family, friends, kids, better world, make a difference, charity etc)

    And one for eh ‘selfish you’

    (Shiny things, expensive shit, status, fun, #becausereasons)

    I’m sure you know your ‘altruistic’ why – that’s probably why you started

    But are you honest enough to admit all the shit you want JUST BECAUSE YOU WANT IT

    For me it went like this

    Firstly did all the altruistic shit – helped out family

    Then focussed on helping others

    Next was ME – jet skis and watches and beach front places and treats (I always wanted this)

    Now bored of that and back to seeing how much I can help others, with money and success being a ‘side effect’ instead of a key driver

    Know you why’s – both kinds

    And use them to push you on.

    Whichever one is most effective right now.

    Figure Out What You Really Want In Life

    In the same way that our reasons why we want to do the things we do get clouded

    What we really want out of life can become equally confusing because we’re presented with dreams

    We are presented with rock star lifestyle, working from the beach, big house fast cars, celebrity parties

    All of these things were told that’s what you should aim for

    “This is the pinnacle”

    This is where you want to be get into in life.

    If you have this thing you’ve made it.

    If you look like that you’ve made it.

    If you are with this guy or this girl you’ve made it


    it’s pretty convincing too

    Yay for marketing

    Truth is

    When it comes down to it

    What you think you want

    Might not be what you actually want

    Limos drinks and parties at the Playboy Mansion. Anyone

    Been there

    Done that

    I’ve got stories that probably shouldn’t be told.

    And you know what?

    It’s not for me.

    Some people live that lifestyle

    it’s what they live for.

    Truth of it is…

    What makes me happy is the simple things in life

    Living by the sea, going down to the arcades and chucking a few quid in and

    eating my weight in fudge


    Yes, I do have luxuries.

    I’ve got the bikes, the jet skis’ a cleaner, my meals prepped etc.

    And each one of those things?

    They make a difference for me.

    You have to really take a moment to decide “Do I want this?” and keep going till you figure out exactly what you want out of life.

    Otherwise you’re just chasing someone else’s dreams

    Be Brutally Honest

    Finally we reach the critical part

    We don’t become the person that we could become.

    We don’t get that body we want that life we want.

    And we put up with far more than we should.

    We find toxic people in our lives.

    Energy vampires and time vampires draining you again and again.

    We doubt ourselves on what we can achieve.

    We don’t value, what we can do for others.

    And we don’t charge the prices, that we should.

    Not because of some ridiculous thought that everybody should charge high ticket or that you should get as much as you can from people.

    But because, quite simply, most highly skilled, highly talented and most caring of us.

    Always put ourselves behind others.

    Then on top of it all.

    We’ve lost our resilience.

    You gonna get knocks you are going to get setbacks and sometimes you’re going to get handed your ass.

    And the key is getting back up again, getting back into the ring, taking those hits and keep on going.

    Because unfortunately.

    What happens to so many good people is they get knocked down again and again.

    Every time they seem to make some progress. Every time they seem to get something to work.


    It knocks them off track sets them back, and then they’ve got to get all of their energy and strength back to regroup in order to go again.

    So it constantly feels like you’re taking one step forward and three steps back.

    And no matter what you do, you simply just can’t get ahead.

    Now, we come down to the critical part.

    Because without this.

    You just completely wasted your time.

    You’re going to be wasting your time, day after day, week after week, month after month.

    And your life is going to suck exactly way it currently does until you’re actually ready to do something about it.

    Comfort makes us soft and accepting.

    We don’t go for what we could achieve.

    Then you see other people who aren’t so good.

    They aren’t so smart they don’t give as much value.

    They don’t create the same results but you could do feed those people

    Yet they are steaming ahead, leaving you in the dust.

    It’s just not fair they get it so easy.

    They can put up the content and get a massive response.

    They get all of the deals and opportunities and clients flocking to them.

    They get to go on all the trips, have all of the experiences.

    They get recognized with awards and PR.

    And with the perfect body, the perfect relationship, and the perfect family on top of that.

    While you’re there, just trying to keep up.

    Trying to make things move in the right direction, and try and keep hold of some strand of sanity left.

    Is it any wonder that you are sat there thinking, can I even do this?

    Is it worth it?

    Is it even possible for someone like me?

    What the hell do I need to do to make a change?

    Because you know, you’ve got something to offer this world.

    Because you know you’re smart enough to make it happen.

    Even if some parts of it confuse the hell out of you.

    You know you’ve got all the right ingredients, but you just can’t make it work.

    It’s not like you’ve not been trying.

    It’s not like you’ve been going for it.

    For months trying different things, learning different tools and strategies.

    But you’re just not getting to where you want to be.

    You’ve taken so many hits.

    Just don’t know if you can take any more.

    So you tell yourself you’re fine.

    You’re okay.

    You’ve got this

    Especially when you’re in Facebook groups with other business owners of entrepreneurs who are all doing there thing, and everyone seems like they’re so far ahead of you.

    So you stay blended.

    Stay undercover,

    Heaven forbid, anyone knew how you really feel.

    You keep on trying.

    You keep on plugging away.

    Reading, learning, asking questions.

    Hoping to finally discover the answer and everything suddenly going to click into place.

    Truth is…

    That ain’t happening.

    Because, whilst you blended in telling yourself that everything’s okay.

    You aren’t being honest with yourself, which means you’re not going to do the things you need to do.

    You can tell yourself, you’re okay.

    You can tell yourself you being productive.

    Whilst you do – you’re going to avoid the things that matter at all costs.

    Because those big scary things – you don’t even want to look at.

    Until you get real with yourself and take a long hard look at the reality of your life.

    You’re going to be stuck in exactly the same place that you are now

    Nothing is going to change.

    You may feel completely alone on this.

    This is something that doesn’t come up for other people. It is not a challenge that they’re facing.

    And I tell you now.

    You’re wrong.

    So many people face exactly the same struggles.

    It’s not spoken about, because everyone has got that big fear of what happens if someone knows.

    Massive imposter syndrome, massive self worth issues.

    And because we are problem solvers -we like to do good, make a difference and fix things.

    So, when it comes to us not being able to do that for ourselves.

    It is so hard to talk about.

    Through working with so many business owners over the years.

    It’s something that has come up time and time again once I’ve cracked the nut and got to the heart of things.

    In fact, in 2016 I got sick to death of seeing so many good people struggling and failing because they’re facing the exact same problem.

    So, I did something about it.

    That thing was G.R.I.T

    A truly transformational training that cuts out all the bulllshit that’s keeping you stuck and gives you the smackdown you need to Get Shit Done and completely change the course of your life.

    If you:

    • Feel like you are stuck in a rut
    • Have always felt like you could do more, but lack the push you need to do it
    • Having doubts about the choices and decisions you have made in life, and want to change but don’t know how
    • Feel lost with what you are doing, and need the equivalent of a kick up the ar*e and eventually an arm around the shoulder?

    Then G.R.I.T. might be just what you need

    4 days covering one ‘principle’ each day

    G – grow some balls ovaries (a cold, hard look at facts and how to ‘toughen up’ and decide if you are on the right path)

    R – Resistance and Resilience (how to overcome one, and develop the other)

    I – Influence (how to create it, show it to your audience and become a figure of ‘authority’)

    T – Tenacity (a practical ‘how to’ to get ALL the sh*t done in the next 30 days)

    Fair warning – it’s absolutely brutal.

    Full on rage-fulled Dan.

    I can guarantee you won’t make it through all 4 days without feeling like you’ve took a freight train to your gut.

    For some of you?

    That’s EXACTLY what you need.

    It ain’t sunshine and rainbows.

    Because that is what’s keeping you stuck.

    This is the harsh truth that’s finally gonna give you the kick up the ass and make those changes you’ve been talking about forever.

    GRIT 1 was one of the best and most popular trainings I’ve offered – for good reason

    Within DAYS of the original training we had

    • 3 people launch a business they have had in their mind for 6 months +
    • One person sell up their life and move, with family, for a dream they have wanted to follow
    • Multiple people give up smoking & drinking
    • Some wonderful humans creating better relationships with their family/kids/friends – as in as of NOW
    • According to the emails and PM’s I have received a cumulative total of (best rounded down) of around £45k in new sales and profit

    Want some of that?

    This is the link you need to get instant access: https://coffeewithdan.com/grit1

    Little too brutal for you?

    Two years after the recording of GIRT came GRIT The Evolution

    At the core of my beliefs the philosophy of ‘GET SHIT DONE’ is still paramount

    Yet the Dan behind those beliefs had evolved and become – I believe – a better person

    Dan 2.0 if you want

    Lessons had been learned.

    Personal philosophies developed.

    GRIT Evolution contains the same core principles delivered in a way that doesn’t tear you a new arsehole – lol

    Click here to pick up G.R.I.T. Evolution: https://coffeewithdan.com/gritevolution

    Whichever you choose you’re gonna finally break through the BS and get yourself unstuck once and for all.


    Which is it gonna be?

    read more

how to be f*cking awesome




coming soon