Coffee With Dan

GRATITUDE (and a challenge for you, if your game….)

^^^ I see that a LOT online, and people talk about it a lot but I wonder how many ACTUALLY show it – and will explain this turbo-fruity pic in a sec

What do I mean by that?

Well it’s pretty simple really…when did you last take a moment to thank someone, to be grateful, for something they did or for being in your life?

It could be your partner…

It could be a member of your family…

It could be a client (for investing in you)…

It could be your coach/mentor for supporting/helping you…

It could be an employee or contractor for doing a great piece of work…

But why not pick up the phone and call them, send them a message, shoot them a video – your choice

And just thank them for whatever it is they have done

I did this with my parents, mentor, and a few close friends lately. There was NO agenda, I just felt that these people deserved a moment of my time to let them know how much I appreciated them, what they have done for me….and what they have tolerated ha!

Which brings me to this picture, now Pat Divilly is a fair bit deeper than me, but we had a great weekend – honestly It was good to just kick back and have some fun (there wasn’t a work agenda)

But as we were waiting for Big Papa Nige to take us to Bristol airport, he came back upstairs with a bottle of Goose and a thank you card (gloriously pink) to thank me for hosting him

^^^ honestly I was made up by this!

So think how you could make someone else day, and think how that in turn makes YOU feel

This is especially powerful if you are in a little bit of a funk yourself

Be grateful

Let people know

So the challenge?

Pick 5 people

Send ‘em a message WHY you are grateful for them being in your life (in whatever capacity, and it doesn’t have to be all emotional and shit – could just be thanking them for what they have done with/for you)

Let me know what happens?

Dan

PS The Pic? Well Pat’s s tough Irishman, so I decided to make it as camp as possible just because it looks deeply wrong….enjoy!

Abundance (and my take on it – episode link at bottom)

Its a word that gets banded around a lot like clarity, passion and what have you

But whats YOUR take on it?

I used to be horrifically scarcity minded, saving for what **might** happen….but often didn’t

As soon as I realised there are more money and opportunities than I could EVER possibly realise is when my life truly changed

Someone sets up a ‘Coffee with X’?

NO problem

Someone sets up a new Gym in my town near my facility?

NO problem

One of my clients (copy or coaching) goes to work with someone else?

NO problem

Why?

Because there are MORE than enough people and pennies to go around!

The thing that can’t be replaced is YOU

Thats the ‘secret sauce’

And if someone goes elsewhere?

Then you have served your purpose, and the NEXT person, place or business they go to is what serves THEM better

Bets thing that has happened to me?

I am NOT attached to the outcome

If it goes my way, or not

Im really not worried

Why?

BECAUSE MY MINDSET IS ABUNDANT

If I lose a partner, colleague, business opportunity – whatever – its all good! There will be another 🙂

My RAS (reticular activating system) will kick in and Ill soon be spotting the opportunities and connections and will be back on track in no time

There is truly, 100% more out there than you could possible hope to claim for yourself, let go of the issues and go get what is yours

you don’t need permission

you don’t need to ask

there are no forms you need to fill out or committees to get approval

Just go get whats rightfully yours, because I promise you if you approach it with an abundant mindset – you WILL get it 🙂

D

Listen to Podcast:

https://itunes.apple.com/gb/podcast/dgd009-abundance/id1074328306?i=363619169&mt=2

What do YOU accept?

This is an extract from THE book that flipped my switch almost exactly two years ago:

‘What To Do When Its Your Turn – And Its Always Your Turn’

This page, was one that I have tried to live by since I read it

Can you think up a better list than this?

I know I cant

ME and Pat Divilly chatted about where we were and the journeys that we have both had to get to where we are

Has it been easy?

Has it balls!

But thats the thing, each of us had ‘something’ inside us that drove us forward, to want to make a difference – but could we tell you what it was to start with?

I don’t know about Pat, but I knew I couldn’t

Take a moment

Think

Have you always ‘felt’ you were destined for more, yet right now you arrant realising it?

Well guess what

That’s EXACTLY how I felt for most of my adult life, and still to a degree feel it now. Honestly If I wake up in the night for a pee, find myself in a queue, on hold on the phone, walking to the shops

POP

That comes into my head

It permeates my very ‘being’ as it were, in fact its all I often find myself thinking about

HOW

CAN

I

DO

MORE

I keep hearing the phrase its not about the destination, its about the journey (and have written a long assed blog post about that Ill share sometime) – but I am inclined to disagree

I want to get to the destination, and I want to get there as fast as possible and have as much fun, and do as much good shit as I can

And when I get there?

I take a few ‘metaphorical moments’ to enjoy myself, get my bearings, plot a new course on my ‘map’ and set course for the nest destination

I don’t see life as a journey, I see it as a series of destinations that I have decided to visit – and its up to me – and me alone to get there

And as long as I can follow these little guidelines, I think Im doing ok

So if there is a little voice inside you telling you to be more

Then fucking be more!

You need NO, zero, none, fuck all permissions to ‘go for it’ – that’s what held me up for years and years; waiting for someone to say ‘its OK, you can do the thing’

You don’t need that

You just need to DO

Today, if you are in this position – take some time to think what you could do if all the perceived obstacles, fears, shitty thoughts and ‘stuff’ that is holding you back was removed

What would you do next?

Write that shit down

Then tomorrow, you do it

You in?

Two words that can change your world

Responsibility
Discipline

Here’s how I scale and grow businesses.

I use the 60/30/10 method for picking and choosing what I work on(along with what I call ‘blast and cruise’ and the 12-week year principle)to:
. gauge profit

. success and ultimately

. freedom

(more…)

What could YOU do in 28 days?
I have realised lately that I CAN’T work with people (closely,as in 121)for long periods of time…
Why?
Because if they can’tdo it in a month, or at the MOST 3 months?
In my opinion…
They are lazy as fuck!!
I have a system called ‘blast and cruise’.
I truly think we (as humans) are limited by our own stupid fuckingbrain that tell us what CAN’T be done…instead of realising the fucking POWER we have above ournecks to be able to achieve ANY shit we desire.
The best things I have achieved in:
. life

. business

. health
I have had a fast, aggressive, focussed turnaround -and as a result? THAT SHIT WORKED!
Look, I am truly fucking pissed off with the towering cockjockeys online who promise the earth and as soon as you pay?
They vanish!
I will HAVE to tell you the story of the c*nts who took my for my LAST $1000 and then vanished with their shitty ‘online MBA’ programme… that reminds me, I need to look those cocks up and let them know I’m not a little bitch anymore!
So here’s the thing
(It’s the reason why I came up with my GRITprogramme. Maybe it’s for you, maybe it’s not)
Iguarantee if you fucking FOCUS for 28 days, you can achieve some epic shit.
I UNDERSTAND SOME OF YOU HAVE NO MONEY.

THINK what you could achieve if you actually went balls/ovaries deep?
. how much weight could you lose if it’s ALL YOU FOCUSSED ON

. how much business could you generate if it’s ALL YOU FOCUSSED ON

. how great could your relationships be if it’s ALL YOU FOCUSSED ON
28 days…
Make a decision.
Shit or get off the pot.
End of.

Want to know how to grow your business without being a cock:
. make an effort
Invite someone for dinner and fucking pay-send someone a book they will like-bust your balls and travel to see them -like 5000 miles of bastard effort
. stop being so fucking serious
All my best work and connections have been at the bar or at the beach-have some fucking fun
. have some humility
We all start somewhere-but not being a suck up and being genuinelyinterested in PEOPLE goes a long way -don’t act Bertie Bigballs even when you are.
. stop bitching
It’s fucking easy to bitch about X or Y who are doing Z-why not focus on building your own tribe, your own brand and stop caring so much about what other people are doing.
. back yourself
Remember, no-one is going to save you –no-one is going to do it for you -you’re going to have to step up and do it for yourself self sooner or later.
. be prepared to not be liked
Simply put, people will give you shit at sometimes–I have heard this more than once.But if you are not being criticised,you probably aren’t marketing hard enough or are being too passive.

Want to change the world?
Here we go….
Me and a good friend of mine have a good laugh seeing social updateslike…
‘OMG OMG I HAVE AN IDEA THAT IS GOING TO CHANGE THE WORLD -JUST YOU WATCH THIS SPACE!’
We watch.
Nothing.
Happens.
World stays relatively the same.
The thing is,what a lot of people don’t get is, as you get further along in your career, unless you are a towering arsehole,you often become friends with people who -to all intents and purposes -are yourcompetitors.
The person we referenced in our chat has reached out to me, my friend here (and a few others multiple times) and NEVER pulled the trigger on anything.
Hence, nearly two years since I first came across this person, they are still doing the same thing…
Hopping from
. mentor to

. coach to

. system to

. mastermind…
Yet still doing what they were doing 2 years ago.
I’m not sure about you, but 2 years seems like a lot of time to waste doesn’t it?
So why not try this?
. pick ONE coach -do exactly what they say

. pick ONE course -implement the fuck out of it

. pick ONE group -learn all you can from it

. pick ONE business book -implement the big idea
Just try it
I know for a fact,I HAVE to learn from multiple places as it’smy job to bring what I know to you.
However, unlike the person we were having a friendly giggle at, I will implement like fucking crazy.
Imperfect action beats ideas every damned time!
There is a reason I keep using the phrase ‘go balls deep’.
Firstly, it’sVERY enjoyable!)
Secondly,get a rough idea of what you need to do, get some quick research done and just fucking go for it.
The amount of things I have done (my gym, COFFEE and Espresso with Dan, mastermind, event, books, speaking) that I have NEVER done before -but got the basics dialled in and then just pulled the trigger.
All in.
Balls deep.
Trust me if you start DOING more than THINKING, you will be amazed where you will be 2 years’ time!
Not saving ‘the lizard people’for starters….
P.S.nothing against the vegans, you know me and that woo woo bollocks though 😉

Here’s a quick and dirty way tocommunicate with your audience, create compelling stories using infotainment, a basic set up that makes you look professional:
. start brainstorming ideas
Either carry a notepad or have a little Evernote on your phone and every time you get an idea for something you could teach your audience… Write. It. Down.
Get a stack of them together to start with, then when you have 30+, pick one and write it down on a post-it note or piece of card at the top.
. next,write 3-5 bullet points that are in line with the topic underneath
If you are holding the phone, clamp this between your fingers and the phone so you can use the selfie camera and still see the points.
. press record

. go
I’m now a HUGE fan of doing this as a LIVESTREAM now.
Why?
Because the fear of fucking up, doing it over and over again, and then NOT doing it is simple removed.
Live in 3…2…1
…and you’re on!
Trust me this helps you ‘get over’ the problems you have NOT doing this, because you have just announced to your audienceyou’re showing up on video.
Remember your audience are your audience because YOU have skill, value and something useful to share.
But for the love of God do NOT hard teach!
As a rule,it needs to have a good story ortwo, be infotaining and you want to demonstrate your value but also keep people’s attention and enjoy their time with you.
If you can evoke emotion?
Even better too.
Don’t try and be someone you are not, enjoy it, keep it simple (3-5 key takeaways), don’t over think it -and practice.
Do this.
Every day for 30 days.
Every day WITHOUT FAIL.
And I guarantee you in a month your audience will be more connected to you, you will haveadded value and, your reach will havegrown and you probably will havemade some sales too.
Getting over yourself is quite a good thing eh? 😉
REFLECT ON SUCCESS
Sometimes it’s ok to be proud.
Now and then,you deserve to celebrate the successes.
I won’t say who in caseanyone knows this person, but I have a frighteninglytalented person in my world who doesn’t celebrate the wins often.
Yet,they are bloody brilliant at what they do.
I don’t think it’s good sport to rubanyone’s noses in it-but if you work your assoff, make sacrifices, put in the work and have invested time and effort into your skills?
When you get a win, a high, a goal achieved… you have every right to celebrate.
You do deserve it.
You are worthy.
We haven’t chosen the easiestride when it comes to work -yes,the highs are brilliant-but the lows are bloody awful.
So when you get a win?
You.
Celebrate.
You do deserve good things in life.
You do deserve success/money/happiness/health.
Whatever it is you want.
You put in the effort, you should be able to reap the rewards.:-).