When You Were Younger
What did you want to be when you were younger (and share ‘young you’ pics fro trolololz if you dare)
This was me at 31
If just quit a slightly intense relationship (now friends again, me and my weakness for ladies that lift lol), my job as a PT back in london
Had (I think) 5 grand cash saved and a few empty credit cards
Since I was 19 all I had wanted was my own gym
Had – of course – no fucking idea how to do that lol
Anyways I ended up maxing out 6 credit cards and getting my my first one in Somerset
(Have a few now – still running and not by moi – automated AF)
Then I wanted to be a copywriter
Then own an agency
Then an author
But if you go waaaaaaay back to my teens (bar wanting to be an astronaut as a kid) I wanted to be an engineer
An aerospace engineer to be precise
Did my A-levels (non UK peeps higher education from 16-18) in double maths, physics and design…
Was accepted into a 4 year degree to design planes n engines n wings n shit then (because needed to for family reasons) went into work, then headhunting and the rest is history
Goes to show that you can always change
Don’t have to be doing in the future what you are doing now
Can always retool
Can always change
Just takes a bit of effort eh?
Anyways – are you doing what you set out to to?
Had your life taken the path you expected?
What’s your story?!
(And see if you can beat shiny chest dan for an old school pic!)read more
Two Methods I’ve Used To Change My Life
Two simple methods I’ve used to change my life; and how YOU can use them to change yours
There’s a question I get asked all the time
‘Aren’t you worried about about dying?’
(and that’s really asked not internet BS post ‘people always ask me’ blah blah fuck off lol)
My hobbies include motorbikes and jet skiing; the ones I have are massively overpowered and ridiculous fast
I plan to add free-fall skydiving (the goal is wingsuit), drag racing and paragliding in 2019/2020
Nothing much scares me
I don’t fear death in the slightest anymore
And as a result I feel a peace that I’ve struggled to find since a young lad
Let’s face it we all have the thoughts where we thing ‘no one thinks like me’
We all question our choices and past and run the ‘what if’ scenario generator in our minds
Ya know what?
Soon as I STOPPED that – I started growing
I started enjoying life
I started LIVING
If you spend your life over analysing, constantly worrying or in fear you are using up a fuck tonne of mental energy that COULD be used to create the life/business/body/relationship you want
Instead of squandering away the most precious resource you have – your time – on shit that does nothing for you
There’s two zones that you need to, IMO, move towards
In the what it zone
I would advise, depending on your tolerance to risk, moving towards the ‘fuck it’ or ‘plan it/do it’ zones that I spoke about in CWD earlier
The ‘fuck it’ zone?
That’s my happy place
If I allow myself to think too much I simply talk myself out of it
1. Get an idea
2. Act on it
Generally go with gut feeling and majority of the time it works out
Sometimes it doesn’t and fucks up spectacularly
But mostly awesome
This is good for the procrastinators amongst you
You don’t nee another plan/blueprint/course/coaching call you simply need to fucking ACT
The ‘do it’ zone is better for the overwhelmed amongst you
Y’all gonna need a bit of time to not stress yourself out; get a plan that doesn’t overwhelmed you together that ISNT perfect but DOESNT stress you out
Doing something daily that moves the needle is you’re bag
Stop trying to plan EVERYTHING
Get an idea
Get a basic plan/framework
Adjust workload up/down as needed
Ultimately both work and you DO need to work to achieve better things and stuff and businesses and lives and bodies
– nothing good comes easy –
But as soon as you stop worrying about what could happen and just start fucking living and doing and enjoying the journey and NOT the destination?
You will be amazed at how (relatively) quickly things change for the betterread more
Can You Be F*cked?
When it comes to sex, honestly….can you be fucked?!
This is something I’ve been pondering for a while
(And felt ‘appropriate’ for a late night CWD discussion)
I remember reading a blog from some tech billionaire dude and he spoke – eloquently – about how he sees Sex as a nootropic
It was fascinating
Cards on the table?
A lot of what I have done in my past (lifting weights, clothes, going to bars/clubs, playing rugby, getting £££ – has (in part) been to attract the opposite sex
(I was not confident in who I was or my personality back then and sought like a magpie to ‘feather my nest’)
It was – at one time in my life – a big focus
I can’t be fucked
(Forgive the pun)
I’ve been studying philosophy a lot more, and reading books that – in part – discuss things like the meaning of life, having a purpose, consciousness and so forth
And I’ve seen so many people fucked up by feeling they have to look or act a certain way, having hearts broken by infidelity, needing attention from what they go for (gender neutral AF there lol) or people playing games or just messing with their heads
It’s important of course
But – forgive the copy – fuck me, it sometimes seems more effort that it’s worth
Yes it’s fun
Yes I enjoy it
Yes it’s human
But we are programmed to want it
We get a nice hit of oxytocin (don’t get that from ‘solo’ fun, #fact)
Sometimes it seems it’s such a focus in society, yet there’s so much more important stuff (IMO, hence wanted a debate) in the world than rubbin midsections together
It all seems so silly sometimes
(I know quite a few very attractive, successful, eligible entrepesingletons who have remained horizontal jogging free for quite some time and they seem rather happy and it doesn’t bother them, they seem peaceful!)
If you have been here for a while, you will remember the sheer fuck tonne of singlepreneurs there are
We seem to be a rather challenging bunch
That and – again from observation please do educate me if I’m wrong
Many men seem to be operating more out of feminine energy
And many ladies operate from a masculine energy
People don’t seem to know what to do, where they stand or what they want
(And it’s very easy to fuck up nowadays hence I know many who just simply don’t bother as it isn’t worth the drama)
That and our society is very ‘instant gratification’
From porn that you had to find in a hedge when I was a kid now a click of your finger
Fuck me I hate that shitty app
Wanna know something – a programme called JAM by Chris Morris (channel 4, 15+ years ago) basically predicated this as a spoof and a satire on how morally bankrupt people were in the future
Anyways lots of points above
Sex is a part of life
I believe in the 4 ‘pillars’ we promote
^^ that last one (friendships, family, kids, relationships, sex)
Is one I’ve seen many struggle with
Don’t get me wrong reading back through may seem like I’m a bit bitter or something
Happy as a clam, forgive the pun
But I get so much more from helping others, from work, from doing fun things – that and would choose a ride on DucatiBAE over riding anything else
That and have found the HTBFA course so fucking rewarding; I’ve not given anything else a second thought
It’s been nice tbh
Just been thinking more about humans, life, why we do the things we do – and don’t – and this was a musing sparked by seeing the throngs of folks doing the Saturday night mating dance
Rather memes and some orange fudge
Anyways wanted to get a discussion going, we are all adults – and I learn from you and we all learn from each other
Interesting to see what the denizens of CWD think eh….
As Always respectful chats, no slinging mud at anyone’s beliefs or genders
Worlds a confusing place at times
Talking and learning
How we grow innitread more
From Breakdown To Breakthrough
[A valuable read for anyone who DEMANDS more from life]
From cracked to crushing life; lessons from my pain for your gain
I can still remember it as clear as anything; I had a pretty tough New Years and some personal stuff that was beyond kicking my ass
I was on my knees
Literally in fact
Now as you know, I’ve struggled with my demons and he panacea was often at the bottom of a bottle of distilled grains or potatoes
I quit the drink a year ago, but still had the urge
If you have ever struggled with a ‘bad habit’? You’ll know what I mean…
That ‘little voice’…
The nagging ‘hunger’…
The pull of something – or someone – that you KNOW is bad for you tagging you inexorably towards your own downfall…
Fucker ain’t it?
Anyways that first 6 months was PURE will power and spite
Then what happened over New Years happened and then the familiar dark passenger came along for the ride once more
I couldn’t of felt more of a last down…
If I tried
Hardly a fucking ‘hero’s journey’ is it?!
I realised I had come close to losing it all – and possible my life – not even 6 months prior to this
Aaaaand they do say breakdown comes before breakthrough
So I did
I had so much pent up rage and anger and sadness and regrets as well as felt my life was no longer my own to control
I felt taken advantage of…
I was mentally battered via supposed trusted confidants who had ended up being ‘snakers ’n’ takers’…
I was pushed past my limits and I was fucking DONE
Roll forward to now:
Life is pretty fucking good
In fact, life is FUCKING AWESOME
Because for the first time in my ENTIRE life I attacked the root cause of the head trash that was holding me back
I had managed to achieve a surprisingly successful empire from pretty much nothing but will power and work ethic alone
But at the expense of other areas of my life
Now my mentor Dex has a huge part fo play in this, because we came up with a way to:
Get my physical and mental health on point so I looked and FELT good with enough ‘gas in the tank’ to get shit done daily…
My productivity nailed the fuck DOWN to work on only what I needed to work on…
Reconnect with who I am as a person, what I stood for (and didn’t) and rebuild old relationships and create new ones from scratch…
AND the big one?
Business grew without killing myself in the process by a profit margin of 32%; as well as adding in 3 new streams of revenue, new team members, opening another gym
Not bad eh?
Ya see, I’m a complicated fuck
I know this
As flawed as the next man
But I’m also – and some of you may struggle with this next bit – actually kinda smart…
Due the the fact I do have some lovely folks who have my back, and the crazy memory thing I spoke about; I remember all the things
(Well the ones The Goose didn’t destroy the neurones for banwaysy lol)
I see people launching and selling shit they ain’t even done before
Let alone had success with
Which is why I’ve done some things they way I’ve done them
For example; ‘Espresso With Dan’
Usually we open every 3 months, we decided 6 months was better this time
Because the first three months of the year I was a human fucking guinea pig
Kill or cure
Sink or swim
Death or glory
The next 3 months I was PROVING what we had created worked and massively improved the 4 areas that – from my perspective and 10’s of 1000’s of hours of coaching have taught me are crucial for a happy, productive and wealthy life
– Health (physical, mental and spiritual – yes I said spiritual!)
– Wealth (assets, cash, business growth, leverage and scale)
– Productivity (getting shit DONE; having more time & energy to pursue life and business pursuits as well as personal development)
– Connectivity (family, friendships, relationships – biz & personal, dealing with limiting beliefs/inner head trash. Being part of something bigger than you. Giving back & loving life)
I have this, I think (in this really permutation anyways)
And I wanted to make sure that I had conquered pretty much every fuckery I had let rule my life
I took full control of ALL aspects of my life
I OWNED it
And I made it 100% what I wanted; healthy, happy, wealthy, fun, free and on my fucking terms
I truly believe that ANYONE can take what I’ve learned and make massive changes in their life; because I would be an incongruent piece of shit writing to you now If I didn’t eh?
This could end up being my ‘magnum opus’
But I need people to come with me on this journey to prove what I have done for me and my private coaching clients can be done for YOU as well
This WILL be a thing
A BIG thing in my world moving forward
And I would like to invite you – if you feel there is more to life than you currently have – to join me
Is this free?
Is it fuck
But for this first ever group there will be a reduction in costs (in return for comprehensive feedback), free membership to ‘Espresso With Dan’ for the duration, and private coaching with me monthly to ensure we are on form
Everyone I see is churning out the same old tired crap; and the system I’ve created IS different
We attack the root causes FIRST
Try burial a business on fucked up foundations
My job is to gut the ones you have, and help you rebuild something that will actually LAST and allow you to build the life and business you want on top of them – as well as kicking the living shit out of the negative self talk, and helping you get control over your thoughts and feelings
Like I mentioned the other day
Had bit of an epiphany
Fun and profits
Get shit done
I finally fucking have it
To create well rounded entrepreneurs who get to experience the life, business, health and relationships THEY want on THEIR terms – and have a fuck tonne of fun doing it
And if that sounds like a ‘mission’ you would like to be part of?
There’s nothing to pay right now
We had 69 applications yesterday – I sent this to my list after the massive live stream I did
Going through them tomorrow
If you would like me to send you the link to find out more?
Drop me a comment below
At the very least learn from the fact that it’s never to late to change and take ownership of your life
And if I can help? Lemme knowread more
You CAN change…
…if you want to
Was me 3 years ago to the day
It’s not secret I have had a long running issue with the drink that – I’m proud to say – I’m 11 months (a year I will be behind proud!) sober
I used it to mast a lot of self worth…
And self hatred….
Since I was in my teens
And I was fucking good at hiding it as well! I could nail a bottle of vodka a day; and still run multiple businesses, have a life, go to the gym – proper functional alcoholic lol
But ultimately it was going to bring me down
It nearly did
I almost lost everything
See, when you are ‘normal’ (well as normal as I can be lol), and you don’t think you are going to amount to much – but you keep fucking trying and one day
Suddenly you’re a thing
It messes with your head
I never expected to have ANY of this
I don’t feel ‘special’
I’m still the same Dan I was since I was a kid
People I’ve known since the start of this ‘online thing’ are surprised I’m still ‘me’ if that makes any sense
I share this with you today because many of you will think you aren’t worthy of X or Y
And – quite frankly – that’s bullshit
If vapid celebrities, compete fraudulent fucksticks and utter cock wombles with staged photos, lambos and models can make a shit tonne of cash?
Why the fuck can’t you?
And that’s the thing
IF you believe you can and IF you put the work in
In a shit place right now?
YOU CAN FUCKING CHANGE
You know what did it for me?
Which – you have as many people who rely on you as I do?
I didn’t want to appear weak
I didn’t want to let people down
I didn’t want to worry people
But that ^^^ ?
Was all in my fucking head
When I finally asked those close to me for a hand – it was like a fucking special forces team swung into action
From my family, team, mentor, friends – you name it – they picked me up…
Dusted me off…
Smacked me around the head…
Then put white arm around mind and said ‘let’s share the load for a bit’
And the rest is history
Without those people (and you know who you are I’m not going to tag you – ya know I love ya more than anything) I don’t know where I would be today
You NEED people around you who give a shit
You NEED to be with people who will help you when you can’t help yourself
You NEED people who don’t judge and just want the best for you
Are worth their weight in gold
In this group?
1000’s of them
The amount of times I have seen complete strangers swing into action in this group for someone in need
And if you need a more focused, more caring, more giving version of this group?
That’s what ‘Espresso With Dan’ is, And what it’s all about
We are shutting up shop tomorrow night – and I’m conscious it’s not for everyone for a variety of reasons
But if you could do with a bit more support in life and in business right now?
You’re welcome to join us:
And if not? Please – I implore you understand this; you can be, five or take, anyone you want to be
Just don’t try do it alone, OK?
PS ayes I do have a Big assed hairy chest( I used to care what proper thought of me looking the way I do
Shaved it off for years
Now I don’t give a fuck and love WHO and WHAT I am
^^^ I couldn’t say that a few years back
Amazing how things can change eh?read more
The Story of Two Dan’s
Vindification of an (ex) scumbag; the story of two Dan’s, D.R.S. and how a to be a man
I WILL FUCKING END YOU
What I said to Danny Clarke once
Came from the world of MLM – which for me is already a red flag
Danny made a mistake
Danny was coming from a dark place and took actions that – in all honesty – weren’t ‘him’
Dan (aka me) has been mentored well
If someone screws you for a $
You spend $5 to get it back
(And please note Danny never did that)
But if I think you have fucked me, taken advantage of been a sneaky fuck – to me or any decent human
I will fucking come after you in more ways than you don’t want to know
I’m old school
I don’t like bullies
I will proactively go out of my way to fuck you up so you don’t do it to anyone else
(Side note – if YOU have ever been hurt – PM Me – I enjoy fucking over bad people ha)
Danny – as he said on a post – did something that wasn’t him
I – as a man – will ALWAYS give someone a second chance if they apologise
And danny is – and I’ve not told him this – is someone I would genuinely like to class as a true friend one day
Because when you fuck up
You have two choices
Man (or woman) up
Or be a little pussy (or soft cock)
I’m proud to say Danny chose option 1
And as well as being a fucking epic customer and client
He took the time to figure out where I am
And send me a very expensive bottle of champagne
Fair play my man
And to the rest of you?
You will fuck up
You will do dumb shit
You will do things that morally don’t align (time to time)
If you are a good human?
You can always fix it
Carry onread more
Review, Plan, Do
Going From Zero to ‘Something’
I put a post out in Coffee With Dan the other day asking people what they wanted to learn from me.
Or in other words, ‘sucking from the teet of my knowledge’ that I’ve somehow managed to accumulate over the last three years on my entrepreneurial adventure.
And one of the questions that came up over and over and OVER again was how to get something off the ground, how to launch a product or how to create something from nothing.
And I’m sick to death of giving the same answer.
So let me show you a really really f*cking simple system I use to get things off the ground and off to the races.
One: I have an idea
Two: I spend an incredibly short period of time researching on Google or Facebook to see the validity of the idea.
And Three: I Take Action
Now this may seem incredibly – fucking – simple. And the truth is….it is.
Case In Point: Now I’ve been wanting to do stand up comedy for a long time now. So what did Dan go and do?
Dan did a Google search for ‘stand up comedy in Brighton’. Dan found a course. Then Dan immediately messaged the person and signed up. That simple.
When we launched GRIT 1.0, which was the most successful – probably ever – off the cuff training course about personal development and ‘getting out your own way bullsh*t’ course we’ve ever ran.
I came up with the idea. I had a look to see what was on the market already. I wrote a very ‘salesy-esque’ post in Coffee With Dan and I launched it….plus obviously letting Tega there was going to be some ‘stuff’ happening soon which he was delighted to hear.
Here’s something I learned from a film called We’re The Millers. This is in regards to the young chap in the film who was struggling to meet a lady. The main character was giving him some advice from a dating perspective and he called it his ‘Three Second Rule’.
He said you’ve got three seconds to talk yourself out of doing something.
Every single person I speak to has an internal monologue that runs the same old story; ‘I cant’ do that’ and ‘I’t won’t work’. They spend so much time analysing their own bullsh*t, they don’t take any action.
This may seem incredibly simplistic – and you’d be correct.
A lot of people ask me for advice on how to set up a business or how to launch products or how to become a coach…even if you’ve got the skillset. And here’s the answer I tell them…
I really wish I could wrap it up in some expensive course and just take all of the monies for it but it really is not that hard. You have an idea. You look at the validity of that idea and you take f*cking action.
And the best way I’ve found to do that is with money.
For example, when I first wanted to start my gym, I spent a few years collecting credit cards and kept them empty. I went into a Real Estate Agent, and as soon as something came up and took my fancy…BOSH. I snapped it up. Deposit down.
Consider this for a second…
Had I launched a gym before? No
Had I staffed a gym before? Nope
Had I done any of the things I’d needed to do to set up a gym before?
Had I fuck. Nothing.
As soon as you take action, put some actual pennies down and set a deadline; whether it’s in a course, personal training or you want to do something…something happens.
All the bullsh*t thoughts disappear and you’re mind focusses on ‘how do I fulfill this’ rather than ‘this can’t work’.
All the ideas you may have…if you don’t take action, they’re just dreams and thoughts that will stay up in your little peanut and take them to the grave.
My mentor Dexter says this is my genius – surprisingly enough.
Dan is kinda smart but dumb. In other words, I like to think I’ve got a decent brain on me but I don’t think things through too much. I spent a long time of my life just thinking and overthinking about the things that could happen. But you know what matters?
What matters is the fact I took – fucking – action.
It’s really that simple. and I do wish I had some fancy programme I could sell to you off the back of this but I don’t.
It’s dead simple.
Find out if your idea is available. Put some money down. Give yourself a deadline. Crack the fuck on.
Here’s a little secret. Some of the most successful people in the world, some of which I’ve met have absolutely no idea what they’re doing until they do it.
And that’s the fun thing! But a lot of people have lost the joy in figuring things out. None of us know what we’re doing when we start out. You could get coaching, read books and go through courses but ultimately, we’re all figuring it out as we go a long.
I’m not saying you should do stuff that you’re not good at. You’ve got to have a degree of skill first and have the ability to do what you say you’re going to do.
But honestly, so many people I’ve spoken to who’ve got 8-9 figure empires have absolutely no idea what was going to happen until they did it.
And I said this on a coaching call the other day to one of my clients…
Imagine you want to launch a business, put a product out there or even ask someone out.
You don’t know what’s going to happen until you invest.
Whether it’s your time, energy or money. It doesn’t matter. What matters more is that you choose to invest in it.
Think about your phone or laptop. I can bet right now you’ve probably got 5,10,15,20 tabs open at the same time.
Imagine how much RAM your phone is using trying to keep up with all the ‘stuff’ that’s going on in the background? You’re no different.
Once you’ve invested and said ‘F*ck It, I’m doing the thing’, all those ‘what ifs’ vanish. All your precious thoughts and energy are now focused on how you actually fulfil this thing.
Once You Commit…Good Shit Happens!
So when did things switch for Dan?
I just decided to stop giving myself excuses and put my money where my mouth was. I announced what I was going to do socially to my tribe and did it.
Did I have failures? Of course. But not that many. Definitely more successes than failures.
I’ve written two books now, both of which best sellers.
How to Be F*cking Awesome
I Get Sh*t Done Planner
What did I do? I put my money down, hired someone who know how to create books, paid them and wrote my book in 7 days. I did the best I could. I just gave it a go. I learned on the job.
And that’s my little tip bit today…
Fail first, fail often and crack – the – fuck – on.
Hope that was useful. If not, no worries. It’s only 10 minutes of your time.
How Many Rods Do You Have?
***Daily Dose Of Dan***
I don’t just have one big rod….
(Cc Tega Diegbe)
I have LOTS of rods
Always have done
When I was a headhunter? Everyone just used to hammer the phones
Cold email, direct mail and events
When I was a PT most just put up a poster or walked the floor
I covered the town with billboards, posters, sponsored local events, hand delivered lumpy mail and went door to door on the ‘posh road’
Started with FB, then evolved into masterminds, meet ups, events, other social platforms, books and podcasts
I made sure what I was doing was RELEVANT to my target market
Is this what they were investing in?
Is this where they hang out?
What do they like to go to and do (sponsor it/be there)
If FB closed groups tomorrow?!
Because I’m not relying on one ‘rod’ to catch my fish
I have lots of rods
All over the place
I’m fishing where they are
Do you have multiple ‘rods in the water’
Or are you solely reliant on one rod and luck?!read more
The Key Is To Start
***Daily Dose Of Dan***
We all have to start somewhere – the key thing?
Is fucking STARTING
This pen was from my first foray into marketing myself back in my PT only days:
‘the body you want in the time you have – Dan Meredith, ELITE personal trainer’
What a plum
And you should of seen my flyers!
A5, CRAMMED with text, all about the amazing service I could supply, the qualifications that I have, my background….AAAAAAAANNNNDDDD nothing about the customer
Amazing how things change but the thing is they HAVE changed; one thing that has served me VERY well (and would serve you very well if you are NOT following this) is:
Seriously I have never been to proud or humble to do ANYTHING – if there is someone who is kicking my ass in business/life, doing better than me financially, or they are simply the ‘go-to- person or business in the niche
Ill tell you what I’m going to do?
Find a way to pay them, or work my ass of to prove them Im worthy of their time to get their advice
I see a LOT of coaching/mentor bashing on line…and some RIGHTLY so…but I didn’t even DREAM of showing other people how to do stuff….until I had done it myself – and well for that matter!
What I’m trying to say, as I said in my book, NO ONE IS BETTER THAN YOU – they are simply further along, or have invested more time than you (or a gifted fuck and, well, thats just the way it is)
So instead of looking at those who are doing better than you with green eyes….get in their world and learn their shit
Thats all I’ve done
I look at someone who is doing what I want to do
Then pay them money for me to teach them what they did
Level up Dan-stylee
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