Action Is What Changes Your Life For Good
I can’t stand whining
Let’s face it life, more often than not, decides to bend us over and give us a seeing to – and not has life not even had the decency to take us to dinner, but not even bothered to use a bit of spit or give us a hug after…
But sitting around moaning about the hand you have been dealt doesn’t really do much for you does it?
Yeah a bit of ‘woe is me’ whining is acceptable and fair and by all means blame the world…for a bit
But then you need to put on your big boy/big girl/gender neutral pronoun pants and just accept your situation is the way it is RIGHT NOW…but it doesn’t have to stay like that
Just start taking action and you will be amazed at how quickly your situation – or at very least how you feel about it – changes
Crack the fuck on then! 😘read more
The Hack To Reputation Management
PRO-TIP about ‘reputation management’ & would you like to be on my ‘go to’ list of experts?
One thing you need to grasp is reputation, especially online – is something you need to manage carefully as it can be lost in a heartbeat
(Such as a strategy call which is a disguised bullying sales pitch, stealing someone’s content and sayings it’s your own and putting In a private group and or simply taking the money and fucking off – all of those have heard of in last 4-8 weeks)
Today and a few days ago, two people started working with friends of mine – I politely (and non publicly) let them know that these folks aren’t the real deal as any good friend would
The funny thing?
Multiple people had said the same things about them (two different people I might add)
Look, we all fuck up – and there are always, ALWAYS people that are never going to be happy no matter what you do
Have I fucked up?
Have I done what I can to make amends and fix things? As much as I can – yes
I know sometimes people take on work or a project solely because they need the money and times are tough
Many of us have done his when we had to
And I am aware of people doing something dodgy once – and they probably get away with it
^^ i don’t advise this I might add
But more than once and PEOPLE DO TALK
Offers of coaching suddenly dry up…
Skype calls and catch ups get ignored/”sorry I’m just snowed under tight now”…
You are not longer tagged in updates…
People slowly but surely distance themselves from you…
It’s cruel, but it’s also human nature – we want to move away from poisonous people and towards people that add value to heir life
I’m a little but fucked (Thailand tummy got me – if it’s not a thing it is now!) so a little low energy and needing all the sales
I was a headhunter and one of the best (really, I have stats still) and recruitment and team building game – as well as my ability to network – is obscene
So My question? (well 2)
1) as someone who can do something (copy, coaching, FB ads, web dev, sales, mindset – whatever) would you be interested in being on a list, curated by me, that I could send all the leads (I average 2/3 requests a day for ‘good people’ and farm out between $20-50k/MONTH of work)
2) as someone that hires people like those
Above, would you like to have access to people who can ‘do the job?’
Thinking modest (purely admin) fee, mixture of profiling tests (kolbe, strengths finder, etc) with reviews and testimonials – curated, not a huge list and with $$ ranges from low to high per category
Was a thought on the flight and wanted to get it out of my head while I still remember!
Let me know below – as always enough interest will make it a thing etc…read more
Your Only Limit Is Your Mind
A little bit of motivation for those that might need it this Monday
Was talking to a friend this morning; they are in a situation that is a bit ‘meh’ – now it’s always hard coaching friends, but I did my best
Theirs background is – how can I put this – a little ‘checkered’ and they have (by their own admission) made a few wrong moves
But haven’t we all?
Humans but their very nature like things to stay the same – change brings the possibility of danger from an evolutionary standpoint
But equally change can bring fucking AWESOME things; new people, new opportunities, new connections, new adventures
Don’t be defined by your past or what you THINK you can’t do; focus on what you can change and just GO FOR IT
You never know what might happen and trust me it’s way more good than bad
Best of luck to you and the rest of your Monday 😘read more
Being grateful for what you have (reposted from personal wall, felt like sharing here)
This is the handwriting of a 32 year old woman. My sister to precise, and mentally she is somewhere between 4 and 10 years old
Why am I sharing this?
Am I trying to get some sympathy for her or my situation?
Am I balls?
You see I was going though my post (I still have some of delivered to my old home address – lazy little sod I know) and totally missed this card from my sister
She likes to write me notes – and all she wants from life is to spend time with me, go to her club/disco and buy clothes
Like having a permanent little sister
There are many opportunities in life that quite frankly she simple won’t have
[Side note – she appears to have some sodding genius level ability with computers. One Christmas she was in her room quiet for too long (always a bad sign!) and she had somehow hacked into my Dad’s iTunes account and downloaded £400’s worth of songs. Dad wasn’t happy but I was strangely proud]
There are times that I have thrown myself a little ‘pity party’ when something hasn’t gone my way, fallen though or been let down/pissed off – am sure you have too
And thats ok, you’re allowed to 🙂
But when I see my sister, get a note from her like this or am reminded of her I realise I really need to shut the fuck up.
I have a functioning brain
I have a body that works (but is far too sodding hairy!)
I am allowed to live by myself – i don’t need a carer or to be kept safe because I don’t know a situation would harm me
I have my freedom
Anna won’t be able to have these to a large degree, and quite frankly I realise how lucky I am to simply be in a position to live and influence my life in any way I choose
Im 100% in control of my own destiny
Become a multi-squillionaire?
Down to me
End up with fuck all, homeless, alone
Also down to me
Sometimes its worth thinking about how lucky YOU are to be fully in control of your mind, thoughts, business, body, relationships, friendships
Because one of the things that breaks my heart is that she will never be able to experience many of the things that I am fortunate enough to do
Even just being able to go to the shops and buy something is something that Anna can’t do safely
And yes, she is the reason I will continue to push my body and sanity to its limits to achieve a level of success as I want to make sure that she is safe when we are older
We are all – in our own way – lucky fucks
We are alive
We can make shit happen
And we can make a difference – IF we want to
No real point to this post – no rallying call to action, rousing ending or salient take away points
(and yes she will get to see this as even though she doesn’t have a Facebook account, mum will show her this)
Just after opening this today what a lucky bastard I am and felt like sharing
PS APPENDUM FOR COFFEE WITH DAN FUCKS – don’t need any sympathy or that shite, just wanted to share my musings as this hit me quite hard – in a good way especially after all the donations you guys have made to springboard/charity that helped herread more
Your Network Is Your Net Worth
Your network is your net worth’ as tired a cliche as it is…
Having a strong network of folks who are more successful than you, peeps who are doing the same (but kinda different) and ladies/gentlemen/gender neutral pronouns who want to buy your things and stuff
= rather spiffing
I’m going to address the peeps to sell your wonderful wares to on another day
But here are sublime shortcuts to get ahead with successful, influential or socially savvy individuals
This post is somewhat of a ‘buffet’ of ideas; the first section is free methods (that may take a bit of effort) and the second section are paid methods
Pick and mix as you see fit daily, and I’ll give you a some actions to take if you see fit 🙂
– read their content and leave meaningful comments that show you have absorbed and going to take action (‘I needed this’ as a FYI = sucks balls)
– share their content and tag them, and explain to your peeps why they should read
– send them a testimonial of how you have used their content to achieve X or Y
– if you run groups or have an email list, offer them a chance to promote/share their content
– find out what they are into and send them links, forward emails etc
– an opportunity that could make them £/see someone who could use their help; introduce them, broker a discussion, tag em in
– BUY THEIR SHIT
^^^ THE FASTEST WAY TO THE TOP
Honestly investing in someone’s products and services is THE way to get attention
As with anything (as a rule) more you invest = more their attention you get
I’ll use myself as an example:
But my book?
I’ll thank you
Invest in ‘Espresso with Dan’ I’ll coach you and take you seriously
Either over time (be a long term EWD member), have a call with me, be a private client or consulting client
You have my attention
I really hope I don’t come across as a cock womble but time IS precious and as I get older more so; hence the more you invest with me
Then more of my life (because that’s what it is) attention and help I’ll offer you in return
Equally I’ve had people offer to throw money at me; but I find that vulgar – if you think you can ‘buy me’ and in turn control me?
Le jog le fuck le on
This is true of most successful peeps I know
Anyways, here’s a few other paid methods that I have seen work
– find out personally what they love, but it and send it to them
– know their spouse/parents/siblings/children like a thing? Send it to them
– hand written letters and small thoughtful gifts
– invest and through their paid products, coaching, books (whatever) do what they say, share the results socially and offer a testimonial
– donate to a charity or cause that means a lot to them
– offer them experiences and cool shit that may be hard to do (or simply sweet and thoughtful) that they wouldn’t normally be able to do
– be hot 🤣
The free and paid options aren’t exhaustive, alas I am exhausted and these are the best ones that I know
– tenacity is good, annoying isn’t; if you think you’re being a dick? You’re probably right 😉
– do WITHOUT expecting; if you do any of the above and get ‘butt hurt’ that you don’t get what you want? That’s on you
– peeps who have done ‘OK’ are often some of the most kind and generous people who want to give people a leg up. They are also people who miss messages, forget to read emails and have shitty days. People are people no matter how ‘baller’ they are
Some actions to take
1) think of someone you would like to connect with deeper or ‘get the attention’ of; DON’T play small – you will be limited by your own perception of who wants to hear from you
(You don’t have to share who it is)
2) pick a method you would like to do from the above, or a strategy you would like to adopt; FYI the free ones take longer
3) think how you can take the idea or approach and make it different; what are you going to do and most importantly WHEN are you going to do it
4) do it lol
Shy kids don’t let sweets
Good luckread more
The Dark Side Of Success
The Dark Side Of Success
Someone made a great point in CWD the other day
The nutshell version was that they were chasing the ‘6-figure lifestyle’ and as result their happiness and health suffered as a result.
I would like to say it goes further than that.
When you work a ‘9-5’; you clock off – do the commute home – and as a rule, thats it to till the next day.
Some of us, the very ‘special’ types pursue the entrepreneurial lifestyle – lets face it; its very alluring:
But many who reach the upper echelons of this world, the ones who don’t have robust psychology of the sociopath, experience different emotions.
Could you imagine lying on the floor, crying, when all that you want is your mum…ESPECIALLY when you have more money than you could possibly need…
Exactly, who feels sorry for a prick like that eh?
Personally, I wouldn’t of given two shits about that person in a previous life…but then I became that person.
I chased my **dream**, more aggressively than anyone I have ever known; as a result I lost friends, my partner, my abs (you could see them in the good light in the bathroom, I swear), and to a degree – my sanity.
You see what no-one wants to talk about in this world is the profound and deep psychological impact chasing the entrepreneurial dream can have on a person.
No one prepares you for it
Guess what, if you make it, no-one gives a shit either
Sure they want they money, the connections, the ‘fame’ – but no one tells you the price you have to pay.
The piper needs to be paid, and he doesn’t give a flying fuck how you feel – and neither will anyone else.
When you are making your way up the greasy success pole, its natural to look at those above/further ahead of you and kinda hate them a bit…I know because yeah, I did too.
(don’t feel bad)
But, if you keep going – and you get where you want to be – you start to notice some things:
Good friends in your industry/peers start to resent you for your success – in fact people you would of gone to bat for suddenly vanish from your life.
I know it was for me
Then there is the feeling you are never good enough.
You can be invited to all the industry bashes, stage events, JV’s and christ knows what – but there is still that little voice at the back of your mind that tells you that you are never good enough, that you’re not worthy, you’re a fraud, and you shouldn’t be ‘here’.
That never goes
I’ve been fortunate enough to hang around a lot of up and coming entrepreneurs; the amount of alcohol & drug abuse, risky sexual behaviour, anger, sadness, rage and un-fullfillment – along with ruined relationships – I have seen is more common than you think.
‘fuck you Dan, that’s B.S.’
To those solid souls who don’t succumb to numbing vices, seem to find themselves working the most crazy of hours – i have more than one well known entrepreneurial friend that is vice free, but has hospitalised themselves with auto-immunes diseases, stressing health issues.
Its all to common to think the grass is greener, and to an extent it is (‘in a way’) – but if you are going to go full-bore into this world (and Im not saying this will happen to you), you need to be aware of the pitfalls as well as the prizes.
As an entrepreneur, your brain is one of the most prized assets you have – yet its also one of the things that is likely to take a nose dive.
The mental health of folks like us is – from my observations only (and I wouldn’t be so vulgar as to make a medical diagnosis) – often an afterthought.
We push, hustle, grind, 24/7, non-stop, work.
Its in our blood.
Thing is, we can eat the best foods, take all the supplements in the world, meditate to our hearts content, cut down on red meat, ditch the booze – you name it….but if we don’t take care of the the 8-12lbs that rests upon our neck?
We are as good as fucked.
There is such a huge stigma (especially in the UK from what I have seen) when it comes to psychological issues. The idea of speaking to a therapist is an anathema to many of us in Blighty
(you Yanks have us beat in that regard)
But I ask you, would you rather have a trained professional help you though issues, or would you rather suffer in silence?
Imagine if you break your arm and even when all and sundry can see it is bent out of shape tell people:
Course you fucking wouldn’t.
Yet when it comes to feelings such as:
Low self esteem
So many people simple bottle that shit up; which results in some REALLY bad shit later down the line from what I have seen.
I used to be the same
Im tough, I don’t get sad – fuck that
Yet, when I found myself drinking a litre ‘o’ goose every night to avoid the feelings that I was having…it took me close to a year to realise that that ain’t normal…and Goose is bloody expensive. 😉
So I reached out
Its a damned sight harder than you think…in fact harder than anything I have ever done before.
To tell your partner, family, friends, that you don’t feel right in the old noggin (ESPECIALLY if you have – too all intents and purposes – everything you could ever want) is beyond hard.
But Implore you:
Don’t be like me
learn from my mistakes
If you don’t feel ‘right’ – reach the fuck out
It may feel uncomfortable, frightening or simply fucked up -but its better than finding yourself in your boxers, teary eyed, singing ‘hey jude’ on your balcony at 1am with a triple goose and ginger….not that thats happened to anyone I know…
^^^ see that?
I still can’t even admit that was me!
(wasn’t that hard to guess though…dick lol)
But it was me
At my lowest point
And quite frankly if it weren’t for my family, I didn’t think I had much to keep going for.
Sometimes, you can’t fix the shit thats going on in your head, stress ‘manifests’ (don’t) itself in many ways – the human mind is a complex fucker at best.
(hence if someone wants to ‘fix your mindset’ at least make sure they have some qualifications – they can do more harm than good if they don’t)
Sometimes you just need to out your hand up and say:
‘hey, can I get some help’
And thats OK
And if you’re cool A.F. and have the psychology on par with tempered steel, then I am truly envious and wish you the best
Blaze a trail of glory!
But if, at times, you are feeling backed into a corner….
That there is no way out….
Or you feel low, depressed or simply unhappy.
DONT suffer in silence
Fuck, PM me if you have to – I may come across an an asshole, but Ive been there – and Ill probably still go there from time to time…
I know for a fact that if it weren’t for people offering a helpful hand, Im not sure where I would be now..
Its a tough path have chosen, it gets rocky at times – don’t talk it alone
One Thing You Can’t Cheat In Life
It doesn’t matter how much you earn or how successful you are, Father Time cannot be cheated
I see so many people on here bickering and being shitty and wasting so much precious time and energy over complete bullshit that doesn’t even matter
I invested wisely in some ways
Wasted poorly in others
Made me realise what’s important and what’s not and that – moving forward what I will aggressively push towards…
…and equally retreat away from
If no harm is being done?
Live and let live
Life is precious
And life is short
The more I spend time online the more I realise that the world offline is where I need to invest as well as ‘double down’ on this people hat value me and visa versa online
Not wasting it on negative fuckery or with people who either add no value to our lives or just take take take
It needs to be spend people who value us
And want to be with us
As I’ve gotten older I’ve realised that there are truly good people who even though aren’t in my life per second anymore or are ‘virtual’ (aka my digital brothers and sisters)
Still make the time to make the time when it matters
Equally there are people who proclaim to be there for you and when you need it
Shit like that used to get to me but now I realise it’s just people being people
No need to be angry
Just step forward and make peace with it
And my advice – which you can take or leave because, let’s just be honest – I’m just a dude from Facebook
Whether you are religious or not
Whatever your beliefs are
Our time on this planet is brief and can be cut short at any time
You have a finite investment ‘pot’ in your time
Enjoy your time and your loved ones people of FB
And don’t forget to do what makes you happy
One roll of the dice
Don’t waste it
PS I posted this a year ago today when o went to see my Grandad for the last time
Popped up on memories and thought would be good to share hereread more
What We Fake In Social Media
Fake social media
Fake. Fake. Fake.
I’ve never hidden the fact that I have a unique brain
What I have (hypomania) has taken me years to get under control
It’s a blessing and a curse
One of the side effects is when I’m ‘up’; I can go days without sleep – or very little – have been existing on roughly 2/3 hours a day for 4 days I think now
During this time my mind simply revs faster and faster
I think things through, seemingly making 100’s and 1000’s or connections and solutions
I’ve found myself becoming tetchy during this time and needed a day or so to analyse what I was thinking and feeling
As much as fucking love social media; what it has done for my and so many people in my life
It’s a double edged sword
I see grandiose boasts…
Impossible things claimed as real…
Hollow platitudes with zero depth behind then…
Weak, watered down, copied content…
Fake bullshit everywhere
One thing I’ve tried to do is be as honest as I can; share the realities of last entrepreneurship and share freely
Highs and lows
Wins and losses
And I put my fucking all into what I do; I know I can sometimes be a bit blunt or flippant – but always meant with good nature and a nod towards infotainment
But I’m pissed
I’m tired of people talking such utter Shute on social media
Case in point
You want more?
I DO MORE
Fucking HUNDREDS of you wanted to do the content challenge
Only a handful of you actually show up and do anything (fair play to you for doing what you said you won’t do FYI)
Which is – of course – your right
I can’t make you
By the 4th day the lack of action showed totally demotivated me and I NEVER get that
Hence needed time to figure out why I was so pissed
And honestly it’s because I actually do give a flying fuck
But if your actions don’t match your words, then honestly you need to dial down your expectations from life
Because you won’t achieve anything close
How you do one thing?
Is how you do all things
You can kid yourself all you want
But if your not prepared to show up, do the work, and achieve what I truly believe everyone CAN achieve if they put in the time
Please just leave this group now
Because I want this group which will ALWAYS remain free – a promise I won’t break – to be filled with people who actually give a shit
I built a large part of my businesses and career on giving
The responses to questions and poss asking for help and advice in this group – from good people who need help – have been fucking dire
Those of you that take time to help your fellow humans?
I tip my digital hat to you
But to those who just take and take and take?
This is supposed to be a community of people who may not know either other outside the pixels of social media take toke time to be there for one another
By the main thing it’s about is GETTING SHIT DONE
If you are happy where you are in life and don’t want more money…
Or more freedom…
Then I’m truly happy for you and – really – would love to hear how you achieved those things
But if you don’t just want, but fucking DEMAND more from life?
SHOW THE FUCK UP
Contribute (yes you’re worthy)…
Don’t just take…
And the main thing?
Don’t be fake
And what I mean by that is don’t be in this group and say you are going to get shit done and then lie to yourself that you actually are
It doesn’t hurt me
It hurts you
This may all sound a bit harsh but fuck it; it’s my daft bearded face up there on the banner and if a few people get butt hurt because of his post BUT it lights a rocket under the rest of your asses
Entrepreneurship saved my life, secured my sisters future, got a home got my folks and through my work has helped hundreds of thousands of other
I get sad and angry and pissed off with people falling for fake shit and believing this world is easy
It can be fucking brutal at times
But if you stay the course it’s the most rewarding thing you can do that can change lives
But I’m done with the bullshit
I’ll continue to show up
I’ll continue to do & create what I can to help
I’ll be here every god damn day
And I hope you will join me in showing up and doing the work
If you have been kidding yourself
I get it
I truly do
I did myself for so many fucking years
Believed all my lies
Believed all my hype
And it took a close friend to call me out on my fake assed actions as they didn’t match my words
But it changed the course of my life
So in closing
This group will always be about you AND me; it’s a community and we are – as far as I’m concerned – in it together
But if you are here just to take, not be an active (no matter HOW small) member of this community, or want to kid me and you that you are doing the work you say you are
No hard feelings
And to those of you that actually want to get more out of this group, life, money, freedom – whatever it is that’s drives you
I look forward to seeing your honest asses tomorrow
You are worthy
You are valued
You will be supported
You have my word
PS if you are struggling, need help or advice ASK
I’ll ensure no one makes you feel stupid or any less important than anyone else
We are all equal; some of us just a little fitter ahead and have more skills
And for those of us in that category?
It’s our DUTY to helpread more
The Biggest and Cheapest Gift You Can Give Someone
Show that you give a fuck with your actions
We live in a batshit world
Never have so many been so connected yet have felt so alone and under appreciated
It’s a truly mind blowing and brilliant time to be alive; but as I wander around observing life and speaking to humans I continually see couples and families nose deep into phones
Last few days?
I had Teggles down with me
When we went for a walk, breakfast, dinner, bowling, pedicure (and yes straight single men get their feet pampered lol)
My phone = stayed at home
One of the biggest (and cheapest) gifts you can give is your time, presence, thanks and gratitude
Today MAKE time to connect with YOUR humans
The humans that have your back..
The humans that make you smile…
The humans that love you unconditionally…
The humans that pay yore bills…
The humans that show you love – virtual or IRL…
A small gift
An offer of help
A thank you
because it runs out faster than you think and one day you simply won’t be able to
Do it now
Let me know what you do and how it feels
Maybe even use this as an opportunity for reconnect with someone that has fallen by the wayside
Whatever IT is
Do IT today
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