• 12 Oct

    You Will Get There

    Blog Post

    Get up/get going 

    As promised this week is going to be content heavy (and also going to be sharing some things from the team too)

    But I wanted to start the week with some lessons I’ve learned from quite a challenging summer 

    Most days in the run up to dads passing I didn’t want to deal with not only reality but life full stop 

    I know I joke about not being an adult, but let’s be honest I wouldn’t of achieved what I have so far if I was completely incompetent 

    But I did

    Because not only did I have people to that relied on me, my dad wanted me to step into his shoes…

    …and I needed to demonstrate that to him so he knew that all would be ok in his absence

    (I promised him ‘I got this’, and I do) 

    As well as death, I’ve struggled with my own thoughts, drink, being battered emotionally by ‘friends’, people letting new down, heartache 

    But no matter how many time’s I get knocked down – by others or my own hand –

    I get back up

    Yes it’s harder as I get older; the energy of your 20’s is different to that of your 30’s and now 40’s

    But no matter how shattered I am

    I get up and I get going

    I often have to FORCE myself to do the things that I know I need to do to ENSURE that I keep my word

    – It’s not fun or comfortable to start –

    The first few days suck ass

    Then the first week passes, then before you know it’s it’s weeks and months and your flying 

    You just have to keep going

    I said this recently it’s Fucking EASY to smash goals and achieve awesome things when you flying high when you are buzzing, resources are plentiful and your mind is in a good place

    It’s a fucker when the opposite is true 

    But as hard as it is when it’s hard, grind yourself through the work that needs to be done and eventually it gets better

    And if it doesn’t?

    Well, you ain’t through that part of the journey yet

    Keep going 

    If you are smashing life and business and all is great now?

    Awesome!

    Make as much as you can out of this time while you can; but it it ain’t so 

    Be honest with yourself 

    End the pity party 

    And get to work

    Future you will thank you

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  • If you do what you said you would do when you were motivated when you DONT want to do it?

    You will go far

    I am one of the hardest working lazy fuckers I know

    I will work escsescsively and obsessively to never have to do something I don’t want to again

    However

    Age is catching up slightly and am having I said I would do two lots of my stretching daily 

    Today I:

    – did not want to

    – couldn’t be arsed

    – has more fun things to do

    But here I am contorting myself into ridiculous shapes for a man of my beefiness because I said I would

    It is not comfortable or enjoyable or what I would like to be doing in the slightest

    But here we are

    Current me thinks this sucks a bag of dicks

    Future me will be grateful 

    Le sigh lol

    It’s very easy to have grand plans, lofty goals, massive transformative ideas and so forth and it’s pretty easy to work towards them when your motivation is high

    But when you don’t want to do it forever reason and then you FORCE yourself to do it in spite of how you feel

    That’s when the magic happens

    And it’s a lot like strengthening a muscle, you progressively get stronger and the load you can tolerate gets heavier; what was previously a challenge and miserable becomes easy and light

    Doing what you said you would do when you don’t want to do it will change your life

    By all means have fun, rest, enjoy life…

    …but I find ‘earning’ it by doing what I don’t want to do gives me quite a glorious ROI but physically, financially and mentally 

    Little food for thought for the weekend…

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  • Ya ever get fed up of all the doom and gloom merchants on social?

    Don’t get me wrong life and business has changed and possibly will stay so for a long time 

     ⁃ some for better, some for worse – 

    But I’ve seen a fair few posts saying how theres no one buying, that clients are deserting them etc 

    (Some completely valid but those that have adapted have done ok to great and TBH some people aren’t buying from certain ‘coaches’ as people now see what they DONT get)

    I digress

    But I wanted to share with you what happened with an email I sent out last week 

    Now I think in the last year I have talked about working with me 121 four times

    That’s it

    It’s something I do because I ENJOY it and not because I NEED it 

    I get a kick out of people achieving THEIR goals as much as I enjoy achieving my own

    And because I don’t NEED it, I can be selective with who I work with; if we don’t ‘click’ it’s a polite no; my energy/time is hyper precious esp since the goat climbed his final mountain

    – our time is the most precious possession we have – 

    Usually?

    I get between 5-10 replies over 2-3 days 

    Last week?

    I received 38 replies in less than 24 hours  and that’s with the caveats of:

    – It’s a robust 4-figure investment for 3 months 

    – The fact it’s done in MY style (which is custom/consultative and not some formulaic ‘fit-my-box’ bullshit)

    – There’s only 1-2 (maybe 3 if I find a last minute ‘banger’) spots

    – There’s no diary link to book a call; you had to reply (and in depth) 

    – It won’t be starting until my family duties are handled 

    Why am I sharing this?

    Simple

    1) This post in itself is a brilliant soft sell; it’s a way of me reminding you what I have to offer

    And

    2) You should model what I’ve done it and use it in your world

    But the fact is I WAS surprised at the sheer amount of people who are in an investment mindset

    The lesson for you

    THERE

    ARE

    PEOPLE

    OUT

    THERE

    WILLING

    TO

    INVEST

    IN

    YOU

    IF

    YOU

    ARE

    PREPARED

    TO

    MAKE

    THEM

    AN

    OFFER

    Of course you kinda have to be vaguely good at what you do and put something together that people actually want

    But seriously you can listen to the miserable media and cockwombles on social media who are moaning every fucking day

    Or you can just crack the fuck on anyways because I GUARANTEE you there are people in YOUR market RIGHT NOW making bank and living the dream

    You just gotta be prepared to work a bit harder for it – but I assure you it IS there

    And if I can help?

    Well, please refer to the subtle pitch above and drop me a DM

    If not?

    All I can say is I implore you to crack on; yes life can like you are shafted…dry as well…at times

    But the more I think ‘fuck it’ and just get out there in as positive and meaningful way as possible?

    The better my life gets and everyone else I touch

    #lol

    Hope y’all had a good Monday!

    D

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  • 2 Oct

    The Future Gets Better

    Blog Post

    Now REALLY is the time to take charge of your life

    I’ll share with you a little story

    When I first started out I had to hustle a £100 to spend it on a copy course

    When it came to spare cash I had fuck all

    I remember learning of alL these entrepreneurs and copy writers and personalities and experts earning 10’s and sometimes 100’s of thousands a mont

    That seemed INSANE back then

    My logic was simple though, they had to start out somewhere and if I just started – with no idea how or when it would happen – then one day I would get there too

    Wasn’t immediate but a 10k month appeared…and after a few years more a 100k month appeared 

    These were things I didn’t expect but simply applied the above thought process

    Now, times aren’t great but they are ok ish kinda

    They are likely to get worse before they get better, and the effects of what’s happening NOW will be in YOUR future you

    Future you needs you NOW to start 

    Future you needs you to invest in your skills

    Future you needs you to get good at shit

    Future you needs you to be shameless and get out there

    Future you needs you to ditch the excuses and get shit done

    Future you needs YOU

    Because future you doesn’t want to get fucked in the ass by current you’d decisions, or lack of

    I promise you RIGHT NOW it will NOT feel worth it

    There is rarely an immediate reward 

    It is often uncomfortable 

    You will get knocked back and knocked down

    But

    If you keep going, and this sounds like such bullshit and I HAD to experience it to believe it 

    IF you choose to crack on? And keep going no matter what?

    The future DOES get better

    Food for thought…

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  • 28 Sep

    Consistency Leaves Clues

    Blog Post

    Consistency leaves clues (do something nice for future you)

    This morning I’ve done thing things I don’t want to do

    – I am doing them every day – 

    Right now?

    – unpleasantness 

    – not very good at them 

    – simply don’t want to do them and they smell and are rubbish heads 

    BUT

    I know if I keep doing them, yes every day, that one weeks I’ll feel better and In months I’ll feel great

    – and then they will be habits – 

    This group you are part of and the things I have achieved have been down, in part, to stubborn consistency 

    It’s doing things WHEN you don’t want to do them for a long period of time – which doesn’t sound ‘sexy’ I know – that leads to rather fab results

    As well as having been around online for a bit now, I won’t won’t into it but have a rather odd visual memory 

    I can remember things in crazy detail and posts and chats from ages ago like it’s a picture or video I’m playing back

    There are people who I met online who were just starting out of waaaay ‘behind’ of where I was

    Those that kept consistent and didn’t flip flop what they were doing every few months are genuinely doing great now

    I was running through my friends list and a good chunk of these peeps were at best modest if any success and are now most low six/mid 6-figures and a few 7+ (as a biz overall not just them)

    Doing the same shit they did 6 years ago but got better and better and kept growing

    Here’s something I’ve found 

    If you’re a reader there will be a time when you need to move on from business/marketing/personal development books

    Because you will know the basics, what works and some great models and how to apply them 

    For me a lot of inspiration comes from history (it’s tends to repeat itself), philosophy (great for when your mind becomes less ‘busy’ and want more from life once basics sorted) and mainly biographies (and QUALITY – I emphasise that word for a reason) podcasts

    Learning form those who have achieved success in business, spots, science, the arts etc is fascinating

    All of them faced set backs…

    Many of them WERENT naturally talented or ‘the best’ at what they did..

    But they WERE consistent 

    And right now the ability to keep going ON MESSAGE while staying the course will see you sail through to the other side of this shitstorm

    Thoughts?

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  • Do you ‘dress for work’?

    This is a bit of a random one but since dad passed I’ve thrown myself into work and projects that have been niggling me for a while; with a big one being kitting out my flat

    Im turning the living room (it’s hyooge and I live by myself) into a PT studio/mobility room…

    All the tech is coming out of my bedroom so it’s purely for sleep…

    One room is now a mini living room/man cave with massive TV and PS4…

    And the other room is a dedicated spare room and my ‘dressing room’ – am I keep all my leathers and toys in there…

    (Make of that what you will)

    The main idea I am working too is each room has a specific ‘theme’ of work, rest and play 

    But I remember when I did this mad challenge way back in 2015 where one of the things (it was aimed at those of us who work from home/freelancers where you ‘dressed up’ for work every day even if you were at home

    The goal being a mindset shift as in right now it’s time to get shit done 

    Thoughts?

    I think I might try it once a week or so because I Defo feel more ‘business like’

    (Usually it’s shorts, flip flops and a vest/T-shirt #zeroeffort lol…and that’s on a good day if I don’t see anyone I’m basically feral)

    Oh and if you’re wondering what this pic is, I was at a friends wedding and their kids wanted to fight me

    They lost and learned a valuable lesson 

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  • 27 Jul

    The GOAT Needs Me To Step Up

    Blog Post

    It’s time I do what’s best for present me, so that I can best serve future you

    In short, I’ve not been myself for a little while

    Now I’m hardly the most ‘subtle’ person – but I don’t think it takes a rocket scientist to see, feel, and KNOW this

    I’ve built this small world, you’re a part of it whether a friend or follower or client or simply here for the infotainment

    Hence this post today

    You see, the word ‘authentic’ gets thrown around a lot but if I’m not going to walk my talk than what type of leader am I?

    The TRUTH is I’m floating, kinda-robotically, through my days…

    Trying to force creativity and productivity….

    And this is becoming progressively harder as each day I’m faced seemingly with another brutal event that makes me face truth I am struggling to come to peace with…

    Those of you that are in EWD or closer to me already know this; but my dad – aka the goat – is fighting (and he is fighting!) a losing battle

    The picture above is myself and the 🐐 enjoying a sunset recently – and as much as I don’t want to face reality – I know we don’t have as many of these left as I would of hoped to…

    He is (along with my mum) my hero and if you have followed me for even a short while you will know how much my family means to me

    – this wasn’t something we were expecting to deal with after the all clear in January –

    Anyways…

    Dexter has always told me that you’ll discover your friends and truths in life when the world is ON TOP OF YOU…

    (I learned this, the hard way, during my struggles with The Goose a few years back)

    But this time I’m going to trust my team and Dex and do what – I believe – is the right thing to do

    As Dex said to me:

    ‘You’ll never regret the time you spend with pops as you look back but it could be devastating if you don’t realize and act on it now’

    Hence I’m going to step away from the day to day for a short while

    I’m not going to force a smiley face anymore for the “sake of business” – It’s disengenuous and cheating you

    Ultimately you chose to follow me, and I owe it to you not to waste your time

    Yeah sure I can ‘limp’ along with recycled content, ‘engagement questions’ and nihilistic memes; but a new friend remarked the other day (after me telling them what I *actually* did) that they would ‘never of known that if you hadn’t told me’

    Which makes what I’m doing make even more sense

    Hence it now time to invest the time I have wisely NOW

    Yes I’m aware I may lose a few £££’s doing this but I’ll gain so much more

    And for transparency purposes so some fucker doesn’t try and ‘cancel’ me during a time like this:

    Of course will spend every waking moment my father can handle – and that he wants – with him

    Massaging his legs, watching sunsets, telling old stories, writing his book, watching ‘The Office’…

    …but he sleeps a lot

    And I need to stay sane for him – and future mum, sister, team, clients and y’all as well

    – you can’t pour from en empty cup eh –

    Hence time in between I’ll be online shooting zombies and digital fuckers…

    I’ll be tearing it about with DucatiBAE…

    Sometimes I’ll vanish off into the woods or the the seaside and just sit and think…

    But what I won’t be forcing information upon you that is incongruent and quite frankly pulled out of my arse

    So here is what you can expect from me and the team going forward.

    First from me;

    If you are in EWD you already know the plan; and if you want to get in touch privately outside of the DM’s email me with ‘EWD’ in the subject and I’ll get back to you

    I’ll only be checking my emails three times per week but it gives us a bridge to one another and keeps me away from social media day to day

    I will send a weekly UPDATE to everyone in my world sometime Thursday or Friday each week in CWD & on email

    Not sure what this update will be; but once a week I’d like to share something of use from my journey that, I hope, you will find interesting

    Usually I can knock this out in a simple setting, but for now I’ll say when the mood takes me/creativity hits?

    I’ll create

    Finally, on the days I’m feeling best self, I’ll pop in on here or wherever I fancy

    🙂

    Sometimes this will be a meme and other times a moment of clarity I want to share I think will be valuable

    But nothing will be scheduled

    (Equally if I don’t reply to a tag or DM please don’t be offended; I’ll do my best to get back to you soon as I can)

    Next from the team;

    Tega & Lianne-Carla have already stepped up and will continue to do so; they will be joining me every Thursday in EWD and will be taking over day to day duties in CWD

    CarlChrisEmmaZak & Greg will be supporting them in this endeavour

    (I am very lucky to have such amazing humans in my world)

    Dex has agreed to step up and pool from his extensive knowledge in the VC world; if you are in EWD or CWD you do have some very useful stuff to look forward to

    If its personal?

    Then please speak to my assistant Sarah as she will be helping keeping me on track during what’s likely to be a challenging few months

    (The above humans I trust implicitly and what has taken me the best part of 7 years of non-stop continues effort is safe in their hands)

    I’m closing I want you to know that this will be temporary

    Life goes on

    But I want to be present while his energy and spirits are high and while he is fighting like a mofo; I also have to do what I have to do to keep going myself

    I won’t apologize

    Neither will I ask for sympathy

    Myself and my family have loved sharing our lives with you but this one, this one is for us alone

    I’ll simply say I’ll be back consistently as MY FULL SELF soon, I just simply don’t know when that may be

    I’m hoping for many, many months but it’s better to plan for the worse and hope for the best; and this way I can be around whenever I’m needed and won’t ruin our – as in mine and yours – online ‘relationship’ with a less-than-Dan

    I just can’t churn out content when my hearts not in it; I’ve seen people do it too often and ruin what they have created

    I owe it to you to be honest

    This post might seem a bit overkill but this is going to be my ‘statement’ should anyone question where I have gone or what I am doing for the next period of my life

    – for once I am, I think, being smart –

    🙃

    Meantime I’ll step aside day to day and let the great team I surround myself help those of you in my worlds

    My legacy will be in how I lived not in what I say; I would hope each of you would do the same should life serve you up the same shitty circumstance

    I’ll still be here most days watching and reading your posts while everyone rests in the small hours, and I’ll be smiling when I see you all sharing wins and helping one another – while having a giggle doing it- which is all I’ve ever wanted tbh

    I’ll come back stronger than ever ready to step up and lead as never before

    But for now?

    I’m out

    The GOAT needs me to step up for the family
    so step up I will…

    Thank you for being a part of my world, I appreciate you more than you know

    See you soon

    Dan

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  • [post #3 of 4] The curious and unexpected benefits of 13 days social media isolation

    Clarity

    This is honestly perhaps the biggest thing I got from being away – for a bit – from not just social but everything

    I was forced to take stock of both a) what I have and b) what I have not

    For a long time for all I wanted was peace; I found myself going though all the fun things I had done in my past and – relatively less ‘fun’ in the last few years

    Old dan had LOADS of fun; it was a properly wild ride but a ride that was dangerous and likely would of brought about my early demise

    New dan was very much at peace and more family centric and very stable…but I’ve also realised he’s a bit boring

    Lockdown hasn’t helped; but I seem to of ‘misplaced’ some of the things that helped me get to where I am today

    Dex mentioned it on a post the other day; I built what I have now on 100’s of 1000’s of miles flown/trained/travelled as well as 100’s of meetings and events and talks and all sorts

    That’s something I haven’t done for a while and – on reflection – something I have missed

    But I wouldn’t of realised I had missed it if I hadn’t had the time to thing and process why I was feeling the way I was – that and why I was a touch ‘low energy’

    Completely removing yourself away from distractions and ‘quick hits of happiness’ like social media gives I think all of us need to do from time to time as it helps us just be alone with out thoughts and make conclusions without influence

    As well as the above, the lack of social made me examine what I wanted from life and realised if I’m going to attract the partner and new freedom of my dreams – much like I have the clients and business of my dreams – I was going to have to focus on new areas of my life and make positive changes in due course

    Many of us seek validation (it’s subconscious for ‘normal’ folks) and with lockdown many of the things I USED to thing were important are in fact quite a lot of bullshit

    It’s why if you’ve followed me personally you will of seen a few ‘pokey’ posts about the complete nonsense I see paraded online

    It’s such bollocks isn’t it?

    People with their Humblebrag posts – STFU – that isn’t how you live life; you’re just trying to appear a certain way to make people think a certain thing about you

    I say this fully owning the fact that I have done that myself!

    😀

    So it’s made me think – I have no answer yet – what I want my life to be like not only now but in the future

    All the goals I wanted to achieve in my early 30’s I’ve hit and surpassed

    Every single one

    So the time away from the social noise – although I don’t have them YET – has made me think I need new goals, new projects and new passions in my life

    I don’t know what they are yet; but that’s the fun of both entrepreneurship and life itself

    Goals are BRILLIANT and – I always will be – a goal focussed individual

    But if that’s ALL you focus on you miss out on the journey which is when you look back and reflect (as I did) you realised that was the best bit of all

    Not so much of a conclusion on this one, but one that I thought you would be interested I hear from someone who has been grinding away for many many years at this

    Oh and this pic? Just over 4 years old and was taken before I was guest at the playboy mansion and had dinner and drinks with Richard Branson

    Like I said, the journey was quite fun 🙂

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  • What goes on in our heads impacts EVERYTHING

    You can’t escape your own head.

    Believe me, I’ve tried.

    (It was called ‘Grey Goose’)

    The ONLY thing you can do is work with what you’ve got so that it fires you up instead of bringing you down and getting stuck in the cycle overwhelm, procrastination, limiting beliefs and self-sabotage.

    First thing I’ve gotta say is no fucker is immune to this.

    Not me

    Not you

    Not that motivational coach with the perfect life and a perma-smile

    Being a human – it’s hard work.

    Just because normal everyday existence of being a human isn’t punishment enough.

    Some of us decide to become entrepreneurs

    Lol

    Crazy hours. Check.

    Hard to connect with people not like us. Check

    Opening ourselves up to massive criticism. Check

    No guarantee of income. Check.

    Daily battles with value and self-worth. Check

    The list goes on.

    No wonder most of us are tapped in the head.

    Depression, ADHD, bipolar, suicidal feelings and more all effect a higher number of entrepreneurs than they do the general public.

    That’s a fact.

    If you’re going through things – know you are not alone.

    Even at the lighter end of the scale

    Stuff comes up.

    We hold ourselves back.

    We worry about what other people are going to think

    We self sabotage every time we get close to our goals

    And

    The greatest tool we have – our brains

    Is the one thing that truly works against us to stop us progressing.

    With that in mind – here’s a few of my top tips for taking control of your mindset

    #1 The power of the braindump

    As I say, what is in our heads is what holds us back.

    More often than not, we get so preoccupied with life and business that these thoughts start to fester away in the background without us giving all that much thought to them until they turn into massive monsters that blight up with procrastination, overwhelm, fear and more.

    The first thing you need to do to tackle mindset issues is to get them out of your head and know what you’re actually dealing with

    And

    Regularly keep your head clear of all the junk and crap it picks up along the way.

    You do this, with brain dum

    Some benefits of doing regular brain dumps?

    1. Ideas

    I’ve had some epic ideas because (for me) I actually am present with my own mind
    That and the looped music helps ‘distract’ my brain and my subconscious can do its own thang

    2. Problem solving

    Similar to above – I’ve been able to come up with:
    – copy hooks
    – solutions to business and personal problems
    – rationalise relationships (stick or twist)

    It’s been very useful

    3. Less rage/generally a bit nicer

    I’m simple less angry
    Don’t tend to go from 0-100 much
    As a rule calm
    – for anyone who has followed me for a while, this is novel eh –

    4. Less stressed/sleep better

    I go to bed kinda ‘empty headed’ now and as someone who’s mind NEVER SHUTS THE FUCK UP….sleep has been a bugger
    Less so now

    Here’s how it’s done…

    1. Do a FULL brain dump BEFORE you switch off, get that shit out of your head and LEAVE IT

    2. If you have a problem or something you need clarity on? Write it on a piece of paper to take with you – look at it at points

    3. Either NO phone or on airplay mode

    4. Have either a looped song, movie score or something like natural sounds (I like thunderstorms) on music

    5. Take a book – paper one – with you that inspires you or is of interest; something you WANT to read as opposed to HAVE to read

    6. Go buy a a pen and notepad, and a bottle of water (clarity dehydrated is nigh on impossible) and take em with you; any ideas that come up and

    WRITE THEM DOWN

    Not on your phone, go analogue

    Then either a) go to a location where you don’t speak to anyone (I have a special place socially distant…you have to climb a cliff to get to it lol) or get yo ass locked in a room

    #2 – Knowing when to go #ballsdeep & knowing when it’s time to pull back

    As I say – entrepreneurs are a special bunch

    We will give it all we’ve got and then some on top

    And what happens is we will keep going and going and going until we break.

    And when we start to break we keep pushing harder to punish ourselves and catch up.

    It takes some time to learn to recognise the signs.

    I have broken myself plenty of times in the past

    Me personally?

    I’ll see shifts in how I’m working, how I show up and the content that I put out.

    Over time I go from full on content machine to full on sillyness and everywhere in between.

    And by learning what makes Dan tick, I’ve come to see where I need to ease back, take a change of scene, mix some more fun stuff in my life if it’s gone a bit work heavy.

    This is something I can’t give you an exact image of because it loooks a little different for each of us.

    Here are a few signs to watch out for that give a hint it might be time to pull back and change things up before you burn out

    – You content gets massively serious and dry OR you can’t do serious content and it’s all fun stuff

    – You’ve stopped things like going to the gym and date nights because you’re constantly busy

    – Your sleep pattern has shifted and you’re suddenly crashing early or waking up in the middle of the night

    – You’ve been doing lots of videos, webinars and lives till now but you just can’t face hitting the button

    – You’re suddenly eating everything…or nothing

    As I say, how this shows up is individual.

    If those come up, evaluate what you’ve got going on and how you can mix things up before you take yourself down.

    And if you do go down – take a think back to how you were working and if any sign showed up so you can add them to your personal list of red flags

    #3 – Remind yourself you’re actually fucking awesome

    It’s EASY to crack on when life’s good; posts flow, deals seems to land with ease, shit goes your way

    Then life goes – ‘Hold my beer’ – and decides to fuck with you

    That’s when you want to say ‘fuck it’

    – quit making the calls
    – stop making the pitches
    – gives less fucks about yourself
    – ditch the diet and training
    – content no longer gets created

    And so on

    I know because I’ve been there in my past

    Staring in the mirror

    Looking at my reflection thinking wondering what’s the point of going on anymore

    THAT is the make/break point

    When every fucking fibre of you is saying ‘stop’ – especially when you have every right to

    When you take a step THEN?

    That’s when you reach a new level of resilience and tenacity that you didn’t think you had

    You find a gear that may not be the fastest or the most efficient but it’s has power and it grinds you through the shitty terrain and on to smoother roads

    I have consciously decided to spend a lot more time on my own without electronic devices, people or any form of stimulus and aggressively work on my thoughts

    Everything from triggers to limiting beliefs to self-sabotaging behaviours I have gone through each and every fucking and examined why I do the things I do and ask one simple question

    Does this serve me?

    For starters I have learned that you can ALWAYS find a positive even if it FEELS negative, and you will get what you focus on

    Now I mentally walk through and WRITE DOWN (this is key btw) all the positive things that have come from the encounter, issue, relationship – whatever it is

    And when I find myself on a little negative feedback loop?

    I have them on my notes on my phone and if I find something shitty bubbling up with regards to whatever situation it may be?

    I just read the corresponding note

    Another thing I have found is that pain IS temporary IF you take action; don’t get me wrong when life throws you a curveball you are allowed to feel crap and throw yourself a little pity party..

    But ONLY a little one and ONLY for a little while.

    After that? The KEY thing to getting over setbacks is ACTION

    Sitting around feeling sorry for yourself doesn’t do shit, and as hard as it may be? What you need to be is DOING and NOT thinking in times like this. Brilliantly, the more action you take the better you tend to feel as time goes on

    #4 – Have A Support Network

    Think you can just go it alone?

    That we should have it all handled because hey, everyone else does

    On top of all that

    We beat ourselves up and we put ourselves down and we just don’t think we’re worth it.

    We don’t think that we are worthy of help.

    We don’t think that we deserve to be cared about.

    We don’t think that we deserve support

    because

    We think that’s our job and our job alone.

    So it can be so hard to ask for help, share the load, and delegate.

    We take on more and more and more

    Carrying a bigger weight on our shoulders

    and I’m telling you now

    if you carry that weight

    if you keep on adding more and more stuff without getting any help without having any support without having people to help you figure things out,

    It is going to break you.

    Some point somewhere along the line that way is just going to get too much and it’s going to absolutely crush you.

    The alternative is getting a support network in place

    Support inside your business and sport outside of business because both sides are just important

    and both areas are areas where you’re going to have things come up.

    You’re gonna have problems, you’re going to have issues

    If you try and do it alone You’re an idiot.

    Yet, it’s something that we have a habit of trying to do.

    We try to just deal with our problems

    We are the problem solvers after all

    We try to find the answer & a way forward figure it all out.

    Because if we don’t, who will?

    We convince ourselves that it’s not a big deal

    We can handle it

    That other people have got bigger problems

    And if we just keep on pushing will find a way

    So we push and we push and we push until we break down

    And none of that is necessary

    The thing is

    On top of thinking that we should be able to deal with everything.

    That we should be smart enough to do it alone.

    You NEED to have support in place to actually be provide practical help, smart guidance, emotional support and different ideas is key to seeing you through whatever comes up.

    Combine support with your own tool box of times and tricks to help you recognise what phase your mindset is in and the kind of action you need to take to get the most out of it and you can really power yourself forward

    Even during times when most other people would fall apart.

    As much as I’m a practical Get Shit Done & fuck anything that’s gonna try and stop me kind of person.

    Without the mindset part?

    Game over.

    There’s only so much a person can grind through whilst fighting their own head.

    I know there are a lot of people struggling right now in the mindset department.

    Even if business is operating just fine and works in lockdown, the whole isolation thing, fear for the future, missing family and trying to look after dependents takes its toll.

    But

    You got this.

    And we

    A.K.A. me and the Planet Dan Team

    We got you.

    And we’ll be doing as much as we can to bring you all the best of our knowledge and skills to keep you going, and getting the best results you can even through trying times.

    All we ask is you let us know when you find things useful and go take action on them.

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