Coffee With Dan

***Daily Dose Of Dan***

‘Are you alright mate?’

Was what a friend asked me last night, and my first thought was:

‘Course, fine…why?’

Then we had a bit of a chat on messenger and – he was right

On my personal wall and in here, some of my posts have been somewhat tinged with anger…

I’ve been shorter with people…

Friends who’s status updates I usually would chuckle at or ignore, pissed me off…

I’m not a violent person at all, but have had an intense desire to get in the ring and kick fuck out of someone/get the fuck kicked out of me…

Dealing with the shit in your head?

Honestly is hard

I’ve been lucky to have some good friends who have helped me work on this. Before I would deal with all my problems with crazy behaviour, travelling or the goose

Now I’m forced to deal with them

It’s caused me to take a pause – to NOT press the ‘self destruct’ button and just relax

Deep down?

I’m a happy little dork who likes museums and stationary and pebbles beaches and pizza and boobs and Brighton

I don’t really want for much

I’m lucky that what I do, somehow, helps thousands of people every day – and every day in my inbox or email I get wonderful messages from people who I have helped

Which, is another issue as taking compliments, taking the thank you’s from people I still find hard

I’m just me

I do my best

But it IS time to let go of a lot of shit; I’m not going to delete the ‘FILE OF RAGE’ – but the people in it?

I now forgive

Believe it or not this came to me this morning after a session in the float spa, because I found myself:

– unable to relax
– chest breathing
– focusing on negative things
– pissed off that it was taking so long to finish
– grinding my teeth

When in reality

– I have my health (back)
– I have a wonderful job/career that I love
– I have all I need
– the people that have done me wrong are to blame, not me

I’ve still got my teeth, I’ll still say how I fell and if someone steps out of line I have no issue putting them back and – being honest – enjoy rather feeling angry: it gives me energy to propel me forward…

…but now I’m just going to get angry at the RIGHT things now

Time to let go 🙂

I’ll do me

You do you

And if I can help you on that journey? I am actually truly Humbled and grateful.

Seeing as I now have a wealth of energy and time on my hands, i will add as much value in here, in EWD and with my private clients – and those that I’m grateful who follow me – as I can

It’s an honour to do so – I mean it

Have a great Sunday

Dan

PS my testosterone has DEFINITELY come back with abundance since no more drink…If only I had a natural release of this ‘pent up’ side of me… 😉

PPS as well as floating – I’m going to spend all the monies on stationary, books, the arcade, a coffee walking along the beech…some boobs might happen if I’m lucky! Lol – bye!

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Would you like to save $1000, $2000 or even as much as $5000 on expensive coaching courses? (while spending jack shit on advertising?)

Well I’ll do my best to show you how 🙂

I have had some people come into my world, though EWD and 121 coaching – as well as hearing some rather shocking horror stories in CWD for what has been sold as ‘business mentoring’

Their model?

So simple its almost offensive that they charge for it!

The advise I am about to impart?

Is HUGELY valuable

I will, of course, litter it with humour and a touch of sarcasm but if you would like a coaching or consulting business, with some simple steps to take to make it happen?

Im happy to share

(PS this is honestly a model some dodgy fuckers are charging thousands for…bless!)

1. Be good at something

If you are going to be a business coach = have a successful business

If you are going to be a mindset coach = be qualified

If you are going to be a PT = be skilled

If you are going to be a consultant = have a track record of helping business

If you DONT have the above? Offer to work with people a) for free or b) for a % of sales AFTER you have done the work for testimonials and then begin in earnest

2. Put out content

Facebook
Youtube
Livestreams
Blogs
Podcasts
Write a book
Instagram

There are SO MANY WAYS to get your content out there; you have NO excuse NOT to do it

Worried your content will be shit to start with? It always is! But you get better by doing this every single day. Not sexy but it works. Commit to learning and honing your craft and putting it out every day

You won’t get much traction to start with, but no one does

This takes times accept that

3. Leverage my IPP method

I = influencers
P = peers
P = prospects

INFLUENCERS
Connect with influencers in your world. As a rule buy their products, invest in them = quickest way to get the attention of the right people

This is what I accidentally learned (and only figured out when looking back) with the likes of Dexter Abraham, Ryan Lee, Ryan Levesque, Ben Settle, Andre Chaperon, Joe Polish, James AltucherMichael Lovitch & Hollis Carter, and Shaa Wasmund as an example

(worth every penny IMO)

I HAPPILY paid to play (often when I didn’t have the money and lied my ass of to them to tell them that I did lol – you know this NOW) – and although this wasn’t my intention, now as I have grown – I realise IF you want to get someones attention, invest in their world = the quickest way

(and being a tenacious little pricks eh Dex & The Ryan’s lol)

That or drag your ass on a plane any offer to go see then no matter what the cost of ‘ball ache’!

Money tight? Commit to commenting, liking and sharing their content regularly – be respectful, funny, insightful and charming – make yourself known and add value to THEIR content

I would suggest you try to get to as many events as people like this put on, meet them in person and

Do NOT promote yourself

PEERS
Connect with other people like you – who do the same job, and have the same client base etc

Some people who are friends and peers (and influencers in their own right – plucked at random as they are good peeps and Im waiting for the quad-shot coffee to kick in), often are the likes of Justin Devonshire, Scott Oldford, Stephen Somers, Jamie Alderton, Mitch Miller, Shane Hunter, AJ Mihrzad, Vincent Dignan, Chris Burgess, Mike Samuels, Neil Bannister/ Joe Kensett and so on – again top of mind list & hope you don’t mind being classed as a peer/friend as I have learned something great from you, and you are *proper* mate!)

(when I case a PT – i connected with other PT’s, when I was copywriter, I connected with other copywriter s and so on)

PS ALL the people above are legit, have great products, and worth investing in FYI

PROSPECTS
Thes are people who a) would like to be doing what you are doing, b) could benefit from your services and c) could learn from you and although they may never invest in you – will be advocates for your work

Show up daily
Serve them
Reply to comments
Put out interesting and infotaining content daily across multiple channels

It may be tempting – especially when money is tight – to PM people to get them on a strategy call (aka the dick move) IMMEDIATELY when you add them; however when you take the slightly slower approach your build a breadth AND depth of ‘fans’ and people who have consciously invested their time in your world

Thank them for sharing, give your time and attention with MEANING

4. Give away your time and skills freely…to START with

When I first started? I shared as much content as I could:

I would offer to put on free webinars, write guest posts, deliver 100’s (was close to a thousand) of ‘turbo coaching calls’ for anyone that wanted my advice or I felt I could add value

I would speak at the opening of a bag of chips, let alone the stages I am asked to speak on now

When you are starting to expect sales, clients or commissions RIGHT out of the gate? Will set you up for disappointment

Of course you will get people interested but I have found this is off the BACK of giving value first

You do, one day, need to transition to a paid model and get paid what you are worth, and once you have the skills, the testimonials and the social infuelnce that is, in my opinion, the time to charge your worth and increase your prices thusly

5. Commit

This. Takes. Time.

No one, and I mean NO ONE does this overnight, quickly or without effort

Yes of course the likes of paid advertising will speed things along and if, IF you have a solid track record OR your product really is ‘the tits’ then this can be a great way to speed things along

But the reality is there is no shortcut – thing 12-18 months if you are mental like me, 2 years+ for a normal person… 😉

I have literally given you a very simple, step loaded approach to growing a business online, exactly how I have done it

Now, here come the do’s AND DONTS (all of em, no order)

1. Don’t add someone as a friend, then send them a message for a strategy call (which is a sales cll in disguise) = THE BIGGEST DICK MOVE OF THEM ALL – lol
2. If you can’t afford to work with an influencer? Be creative – send gifts, offer your time and services for free, have fun with it – some of my close team have gotten my attention by doing some mad shit!
3. Do invest in digital courses, IMPLEMENT them, then give the creator feedback and a testimonial
4. Be patient – for example I get 200-500 inbox messages a DAY, I always make time to get back to everyone but its NOT quick sometimes – if someone is a client, they will always get first priority so be mindful of who you are approaching
5. If you ask someone to invest in your services and they can’t afford them – be nice! We all start somewhere, from fuck all in my case 😉
6. Always take time to comment on peoples comments and tags – it means a lot
7. Start as you mean to go on – consistency is KEY – show up every day
8. Don’t offer free training and then pitch, its shitty – be upfront on what you are offering and if there will be an offer to work with you/invest, no need to be a Sneaky Mc Sneakerson
9. If you are going to go #ballsdeep with a pitch? Do some research; take time to find out about what the person you are messaging likes, dislikes, follow them on social for a while etc – make it a bespoke and custom message – NO canned messages!
10. Be cool – we are all on a journey, we all have similar wants needs and desires; be respectful and mindful of what people are doing, where they may be in life, what THEY may have to deal with day to day – a little bit of empathy with regards to who you are talking to/messaging goes a LONG way

Right, thats it from me – I hope you have enjoyed reading (and if you have been tagged I hope you don’t mind but you is good peoples)

Welcome your thoughts and ideas, and feel free to share this in your worlds if you feel it could benefit people

In a nutshell;

– follow the above
– action
– probably chuck someone a few quid to keep you accountable and push you out of your comfort zone
– don’t be a melt

😉

Off you go now…

Toodle pip

Dan

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I can’t stand whining

Let’s face it life, more often than not, decides to bend us over and give us a seeing to – and not has life not even had the decency to take us to dinner, but not even bothered to use a bit of spit or give us a hug after…

But sitting around moaning about the hand you have been dealt doesn’t really do much for you does it?

Yeah a bit of ‘woe is me’ whining is acceptable and fair and by all means blame the world…for a bit

But then you need to put on your big boy/big girl/gender neutral pronoun pants and just accept your situation is the way it is RIGHT NOW…but it doesn’t have to stay like that

Just start taking action and you will be amazed at how quickly your situation – or at very least how you feel about it – changes

Crack the fuck on then! 😘

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PRO-TIP about ‘reputation management’ & would you like to be on my ‘go to’ list of experts?

One thing you need to grasp is reputation, especially online – is something you need to manage carefully as it can be lost in a heartbeat

(Such as a strategy call which is a disguised bullying sales pitch, stealing someone’s content and sayings it’s your own and putting In a private group and or simply taking the money and fucking off – all of those have heard of in last 4-8 weeks)

Today and a few days ago, two people started working with friends of mine – I politely (and non publicly) let them know that these folks aren’t the real deal as any good friend would

The funny thing?

Multiple people had said the same things about them (two different people I might add)

Look, we all fuck up – and there are always, ALWAYS people that are never going to be happy no matter what you do

Have I fucked up?

Absolutely

Have I done what I can to make amends and fix things? As much as I can – yes

I know sometimes people take on work or a project solely because they need the money and times are tough

Many of us have done his when we had to

And I am aware of people doing something dodgy once – and they probably get away with it

^^ i don’t advise this I might add

But more than once and PEOPLE DO TALK

Offers of coaching suddenly dry up…

Skype calls and catch ups get ignored/”sorry I’m just snowed under tight now”…

You are not longer tagged in updates…

People slowly but surely distance themselves from you…

It’s cruel, but it’s also human nature – we want to move away from poisonous people and towards people that add value to heir life

I’m a little but fucked (Thailand tummy got me – if it’s not a thing it is now!) so a little low energy and needing all the sales

I was a headhunter and one of the best (really, I have stats still) and recruitment and team building game – as well as my ability to network – is obscene

🙂

So My question? (well 2)

1) as someone who can do something (copy, coaching, FB ads, web dev, sales, mindset – whatever) would you be interested in being on a list, curated by me, that I could send all the leads (I average 2/3 requests a day for ‘good people’ and farm out between $20-50k/MONTH of work)

2) as someone that hires people like those
Above, would you like to have access to people who can ‘do the job?’

Thinking modest (purely admin) fee, mixture of profiling tests (kolbe, strengths finder, etc) with reviews and testimonials – curated, not a huge list and with $$ ranges from low to high per category

Of interest?

Was a thought on the flight and wanted to get it out of my head while I still remember!

Let me know below – as always enough interest will make it a thing etc…

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A little bit of motivation for those that might need it this Monday

Was talking to a friend this morning; they are in a situation that is a bit ‘meh’ – now it’s always hard coaching friends, but I did my best

Theirs background is – how can I put this – a little ‘checkered’ and they have (by their own admission) made a few wrong moves

But haven’t we all?

Humans but their very nature like things to stay the same – change brings the possibility of danger from an evolutionary standpoint

But equally change can bring fucking AWESOME things; new people, new opportunities, new connections, new adventures

Don’t be defined by your past or what you THINK you can’t do; focus on what you can change and just GO FOR IT

You never know what might happen and trust me it’s way more good than bad

Best of luck to you and the rest of your Monday 😘

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Being grateful for what you have (reposted from personal wall, felt like sharing here)

This is the handwriting of a 32 year old woman. My sister to precise, and mentally she is somewhere between 4 and 10 years old

Why am I sharing this?

Am I trying to get some sympathy for her or my situation?

Am I balls?

You see I was going though my post (I still have some of delivered to my old home address – lazy little sod I know) and totally missed this card from my sister

She likes to write me notes – and all she wants from life is to spend time with me, go to her club/disco and buy clothes

Like having a permanent little sister

There are many opportunities in life that quite frankly she simple won’t have

[Side note – she appears to have some sodding genius level ability with computers. One Christmas she was in her room quiet for too long (always a bad sign!) and she had somehow hacked into my Dad’s iTunes account and downloaded £400’s worth of songs. Dad wasn’t happy but I was strangely proud]

Anyways

There are times that I have thrown myself a little ‘pity party’ when something hasn’t gone my way, fallen though or been let down/pissed off – am sure you have too

And thats ok, you’re allowed to 🙂

But when I see my sister, get a note from her like this or am reminded of her I realise I really need to shut the fuck up.

I have a functioning brain

I have a body that works (but is far too sodding hairy!)

I am allowed to live by myself – i don’t need a carer or to be kept safe because I don’t know a situation would harm me

I have my freedom

Anna won’t be able to have these to a large degree, and quite frankly I realise how lucky I am to simply be in a position to live and influence my life in any way I choose

Im 100% in control of my own destiny

Become a multi-squillionaire?

Down to me

End up with fuck all, homeless, alone

Whatever

Also down to me

Sometimes its worth thinking about how lucky YOU are to be fully in control of your mind, thoughts, business, body, relationships, friendships

Because one of the things that breaks my heart is that she will never be able to experience many of the things that I am fortunate enough to do

Even just being able to go to the shops and buy something is something that Anna can’t do safely

And yes, she is the reason I will continue to push my body and sanity to its limits to achieve a level of success as I want to make sure that she is safe when we are older

We are all – in our own way – lucky fucks

We are alive

We can make shit happen

And we can make a difference – IF we want to

No real point to this post – no rallying call to action, rousing ending or salient take away points

Nowt

(and yes she will get to see this as even though she doesn’t have a Facebook account, mum will show her this)

Just after opening this today what a lucky bastard I am and felt like sharing

End of

PS APPENDUM FOR COFFEE WITH DAN FUCKS – don’t need any sympathy or that shite, just wanted to share my musings as this hit me quite hard – in a good way especially after all the donations you guys have made to springboard/charity that helped her

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Your network is your net worth’ as tired a cliche as it is…

…is true

Having a strong network of folks who are more successful than you, peeps who are doing the same (but kinda different) and ladies/gentlemen/gender neutral pronouns who want to buy your things and stuff

= rather spiffing

Free:

I’m going to address the peeps to sell your wonderful wares to on another day

But here are sublime shortcuts to get ahead with successful, influential or socially savvy individuals

This post is somewhat of a ‘buffet’ of ideas; the first section is free methods (that may take a bit of effort) and the second section are paid methods

Pick and mix as you see fit daily, and I’ll give you a some actions to take if you see fit 🙂

– read their content and leave meaningful comments that show you have absorbed and going to take action (‘I needed this’ as a FYI = sucks balls)

– share their content and tag them, and explain to your peeps why they should read

– send them a testimonial of how you have used their content to achieve X or Y

– if you run groups or have an email list, offer them a chance to promote/share their content

– find out what they are into and send them links, forward emails etc

– an opportunity that could make them £/see someone who could use their help; introduce them, broker a discussion, tag em in

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Paid:

– BUY THEIR SHIT

^^^ THE FASTEST WAY TO THE TOP

Honestly investing in someone’s products and services is THE way to get attention

As with anything (as a rule) more you invest = more their attention you get

I’ll use myself as an example:

But my book?

I’ll thank you

Invest in ‘Espresso with Dan’ I’ll coach you and take you seriously

Spend £1000+

Either over time (be a long term EWD member), have a call with me, be a private client or consulting client

You have my attention

I really hope I don’t come across as a cock womble but time IS precious and as I get older more so; hence the more you invest with me

Then more of my life (because that’s what it is) attention and help I’ll offer you in return

Equally I’ve had people offer to throw money at me; but I find that vulgar – if you think you can ‘buy me’ and in turn control me?

Well….

Le jog le fuck le on

This is true of most successful peeps I know

Anyways, here’s a few other paid methods that I have seen work

– find out personally what they love, but it and send it to them

– know their spouse/parents/siblings/children like a thing? Send it to them

– hand written letters and small thoughtful gifts

– invest and through their paid products, coaching, books (whatever) do what they say, share the results socially and offer a testimonial

– donate to a charity or cause that means a lot to them

– offer them experiences and cool shit that may be hard to do (or simply sweet and thoughtful) that they wouldn’t normally be able to do

– be hot 🤣

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The free and paid options aren’t exhaustive, alas I am exhausted and these are the best ones that I know

Some advice:

– tenacity is good, annoying isn’t; if you think you’re being a dick? You’re probably right 😉

– do WITHOUT expecting; if you do any of the above and get ‘butt hurt’ that you don’t get what you want? That’s on you

– peeps who have done ‘OK’ are often some of the most kind and generous people who want to give people a leg up. They are also people who miss messages, forget to read emails and have shitty days. People are people no matter how ‘baller’ they are

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Some actions to take

1) think of someone you would like to connect with deeper or ‘get the attention’ of; DON’T play small – you will be limited by your own perception of who wants to hear from you

(You don’t have to share who it is)

2) pick a method you would like to do from the above, or a strategy you would like to adopt; FYI the free ones take longer

3) think how you can take the idea or approach and make it different; what are you going to do and most importantly WHEN are you going to do it

4) do it lol

Remember;

Shy kids don’t let sweets

Good luck

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The Dark Side Of Success

Someone made a great point in CWD the other day

The nutshell version was that they were chasing the ‘6-figure lifestyle’ and as result their happiness and health suffered as a result.

I would like to say it goes further than that.

When you work a ‘9-5’; you clock off – do the commute home – and as a rule, thats it to till the next day.

Some of us, the very ‘special’ types pursue the entrepreneurial lifestyle – lets face it; its very alluring:

The freedom…

The money…

The success…

But many who reach the upper echelons of this world, the ones who don’t have robust psychology of the sociopath, experience different emotions.

Could you imagine lying on the floor, crying, when all that you want is your mum…ESPECIALLY when you have more money than you could possibly need…

Exactly, who feels sorry for a prick like that eh?

Personally, I wouldn’t of given two shits about that person in a previous life…but then I became that person.

I chased my **dream**, more aggressively than anyone I have ever known; as a result I lost friends, my partner, my abs (you could see them in the good light in the bathroom, I swear), and to a degree – my sanity.

You see what no-one wants to talk about in this world is the profound and deep psychological impact chasing the entrepreneurial dream can have on a person.

No one prepares you for it

Guess what, if you make it, no-one gives a shit either

Sure they want they money, the connections, the ‘fame’ – but no one tells you the price you have to pay.

The piper needs to be paid, and he doesn’t give a flying fuck how you feel – and neither will anyone else.

When you are making your way up the greasy success pole, its natural to look at those above/further ahead of you and kinda hate them a bit…I know because yeah, I did too.

Its human

(don’t feel bad)

But, if you keep going – and you get where you want to be – you start to notice some things:

Good friends in your industry/peers start to resent you for your success – in fact people you would of gone to bat for suddenly vanish from your life.

Sad eh?

I know it was for me

😞

Then there is the feeling you are never good enough.

You can be invited to all the industry bashes, stage events, JV’s and christ knows what – but there is still that little voice at the back of your mind that tells you that you are never good enough, that you’re not worthy, you’re a fraud, and you shouldn’t be ‘here’.

Guess what.

That never goes

I’ve been fortunate enough to hang around a lot of up and coming entrepreneurs; the amount of alcohol & drug abuse, risky sexual behaviour, anger, sadness, rage and un-fullfillment – along with ruined relationships – I have seen is more common than you think.

‘fuck you Dan, that’s B.S.’

Fair comment

To those solid souls who don’t succumb to numbing vices, seem to find themselves working the most crazy of hours – i have more than one well known entrepreneurial friend that is vice free, but has hospitalised themselves with auto-immunes diseases, stressing health issues.

Its all to common to think the grass is greener, and to an extent it is (‘in a way’) – but if you are going to go full-bore into this world (and Im not saying this will happen to you), you need to be aware of the pitfalls as well as the prizes.

As an entrepreneur, your brain is one of the most prized assets you have – yet its also one of the things that is likely to take a nose dive.

The mental health of folks like us is – from my observations only (and I wouldn’t be so vulgar as to make a medical diagnosis) – often an afterthought.

We push, hustle, grind, 24/7, non-stop, work.

Its in our blood.

Thing is, we can eat the best foods, take all the supplements in the world, meditate to our hearts content, cut down on red meat, ditch the booze – you name it….but if we don’t take care of the the 8-12lbs that rests upon our neck?

We are as good as fucked.

There is such a huge stigma (especially in the UK from what I have seen) when it comes to psychological issues. The idea of speaking to a therapist is an anathema to many of us in Blighty

(you Yanks have us beat in that regard)

But I ask you, would you rather have a trained professional help you though issues, or would you rather suffer in silence?

Imagine if you break your arm and even when all and sundry can see it is bent out of shape tell people:

‘I’m fine’

Course you fucking wouldn’t.

Yet when it comes to feelings such as:

anxiety
Depression
Low self esteem
Fear

So many people simple bottle that shit up; which results in some REALLY bad shit later down the line from what I have seen.

I used to be the same

All alpha

Im tough, I don’t get sad – fuck that

‘gay’

Etc

Yet, when I found myself drinking a litre ‘o’ goose every night to avoid the feelings that I was having…it took me close to a year to realise that that ain’t normal…and Goose is bloody expensive. 😉

So I reached out

Its a damned sight harder than you think…in fact harder than anything I have ever done before.

To tell your partner, family, friends, that you don’t feel right in the old noggin (ESPECIALLY if you have – too all intents and purposes – everything you could ever want) is beyond hard.

But Implore you:

Don’t be like me

learn from my mistakes

If you don’t feel ‘right’ – reach the fuck out

It may feel uncomfortable, frightening or simply fucked up -but its better than finding yourself in your boxers, teary eyed, singing ‘hey jude’ on your balcony at 1am with a triple goose and ginger….not that thats happened to anyone I know…

^^^ see that?

I still can’t even admit that was me!

(wasn’t that hard to guess though…dick lol)

But it was me

At my lowest point

And quite frankly if it weren’t for my family, I didn’t think I had much to keep going for.

Selfish eh?

Well, no.

Sometimes, you can’t fix the shit thats going on in your head, stress ‘manifests’ (don’t) itself in many ways – the human mind is a complex fucker at best.

(hence if someone wants to ‘fix your mindset’ at least make sure they have some qualifications – they can do more harm than good if they don’t)

Sometimes you just need to out your hand up and say:

‘hey, can I get some help’

And thats OK

And if you’re cool A.F. and have the psychology on par with tempered steel, then I am truly envious and wish you the best

Blaze a trail of glory!

But if, at times, you are feeling backed into a corner….

That there is no way out….

Or you feel low, depressed or simply unhappy.

DONT suffer in silence

Reach out

Fuck, PM me if you have to – I may come across an an asshole, but Ive been there – and Ill probably still go there from time to time…

I know for a fact that if it weren’t for people offering a helpful hand, Im not sure where I would be now..

Its a tough path have chosen, it gets rocky at times – don’t talk it alone

Dan

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Time

It doesn’t matter how much you earn or how successful you are, Father Time cannot be cheated

I see so many people on here bickering and being shitty and wasting so much precious time and energy over complete bullshit that doesn’t even matter

I invested wisely in some ways

Wasted poorly in others

Made me realise what’s important and what’s not and that – moving forward what I will aggressively push towards…

…and equally retreat away from

If no harm is being done?

Live and let live

Because ultimately?

Life is precious

And life is short

The more I spend time online the more I realise that the world offline is where I need to invest as well as ‘double down’ on this people hat value me and visa versa online

Not wasting it on negative fuckery or with people who either add no value to our lives or just take take take

It needs to be spend people who value us

Respect us

And want to be with us

As I’ve gotten older I’ve realised that there are truly good people who even though aren’t in my life per second anymore or are ‘virtual’ (aka my digital brothers and sisters)

Still make the time to make the time when it matters

Equally there are people who proclaim to be there for you and when you need it

*crickets*

Shit like that used to get to me but now I realise it’s just people being people

No need to be angry

Just step forward and make peace with it

And my advice – which you can take or leave because, let’s just be honest – I’m just a dude from Facebook

Whether you are religious or not

Whatever your beliefs are

Our time on this planet is brief and can be cut short at any time

You have a finite investment ‘pot’ in your time

Invest wisely

Waste sparsely

Enjoy your time and your loved ones people of FB

And don’t forget to do what makes you happy

One roll of the dice

Don’t waste it

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PS I posted this a year ago today when o went to see my Grandad for the last time

Popped up on memories and thought would be good to share here

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