Coffee With Dan

Right first of all as much of a sausage of silliness; I’m actually moderately smart and don’t let the media influence me with their fuckery

As far as I can gleam:

– yes it’s infectious and but mortality rates are only high for a) elderly or b) those with underlying health conditions/immune suppression but can affect anyone and if that’s you yes you need to be smarter (as I will be with my Dad & sis)
– in comparison its around 10X more lethal than flu BUT the actual mortality rate (full range of ages/sexs etc and understand how the media use this statistic!) is around 1% overall
– masks seem to increase protection around 5 fold from being passed ON if you have it, ‘out and about’/non close contact doesn’t make much difference but horses for courses
– KNOWINGLY putting yourself at risk even if you aren’t in higher mortality/infection bracket isn’t smart
– wash your hands throughly 20 seconds front and back with soap and running water (same length of time for hand sanitsizers but need to be 60% alcohol) soap and water is great!

And the main one

CRITICAL THINKING

– look at your media sources and their reference
– understand the agenda and political leanings as well as the fact that governments and regulators ARE putting in measures that may be out of your control
– not all media is equal
– apply logic and reason to proven facts not hyperbole
– don’t share without checking your facts and the above

With that in mind I’ve seen the following happen to clients:

– events & meetings have been cancelled
– travel to masterminds cancelled
– income hit due to the above
– reticence to invest ‘just in case’

So far

My advice is apply logic to all your thoughts and as whimsical as I am I apply critical thinking to ALL I do

Do the same 😘

If it’s affecting your business; share and let’s see if we can – as a group help you

Any suggestions or tips for riding this out – I remember swine flu and SARS media panic – the above musings should help

Understand many of those you serve WILL be swayed by the media and social shit storm so you need to fact that in to what you do especially if travel is required internationally IMO

Few ideas for coming periods

– have virtual options; if events live stream/recordings
– understand how to use and leverage tools like zoom; get mic/pop filter/ backdrop to ‘level up’ your game
– if you do mainly in person stuff; now might be a smart time to see IF you can create/leverage digital assets
– if you’re travelling internationally see what THAT countries policy is and weight it up; they may restrict travel/you might (and I say might) not be able to go home etc so think about family/assets/cash etc
– look at where your products come from can you source elsewhere (if struggling to get from China as an example)
– think of how you can serve still serve people with your current role; how could you suggest changes IF needed
– if you are worried Maybe use this as time to spend more time at home work on projects, catch up on admin, reading etc but don’t let it ruin your life
– be supportive of those who are panicking and have adult discussions
– stay fucking calm

^^^ few ideas off top of my head

(And if you LEVERAGE the illness yourself somehow = you’re a 🔔🔚)

But let’s brainstorm ideas and suggestions from a business point of to get through this

AS WITH ALL THINGS (fml)

– be nice
– discuss as adults without insulting
– don’t be a dick

Thx

PS the only leverage I would use this for is to suggest to your significant other to stay in with look at memes and hang around in your pants eating bed snacks

And if you don’t maybe use it to suggest to someone you fancy and would use the like to see without pants on you could use the line ‘let’s this out and keep our germs just between us’

^^^ I wouldn’t be me if I didn’t have some filth in here 😈

read more

***CORONOVIRUS BUSINESS AND LIFE GET SHIT DONE & SUPPORT THREAD***

Let’s get through this TOGETHER

This thread is dedicated to sharing

– ideas
– best practices
– suggestions
– biz opportunities (not dick moves)

For how to not just survive but THRIVE during this time

Equally

If you are STRUGGLING and need some ideas for your life and business?

ASK

And let’s see if we – as a GROUP – can help

ALL OF US ARE IN THIS TOGETHER

I’m not being ignorant I’m taking precautions and shoring up areas in my business and life but I am NOT going to be a miserable fuck and I AM going to do what I can to help as many folks get through this shit show and THRIVE out the other side ok?

Time to step the fuck up

NOW is the time to help your fellow man and not be a selfish prick

If you have some ideas that can legit help?

Share em

We are stronger together and chaos is where I do my best work

Hence

Time to shine

Oh and one thing I swear to fuck if there is ANY negativity or nastiness I will YEET a Fucker out of here in seconds

Let’s be decent humans and help one another

The ‘MAKE BANK – Stay At Home’ edition is still going ahead and we crack in this Sunday night

If you ain’t joined yet? Join here:

https://www.facebook.com/groups/2808895279197390/?source=unknown

Rest of you?

Share
Suggest
Advise
Help
Step up
Ask

We got this

read more

If you believe it you CAN achieve it…(and this could be the pinnacle of my life)

And two days what I believed in – with all my heart, for 7 years, I finally achieved a goal of mine I’ve had since my early 30’s

As I’ve got older?

My goals have evolved:

Firstly it was all about saving my ass and trying to get a business off the ground…

Next trying to make it as entrepreneurial in my own way…

Then it to scale and grow to be able to – as much as I could – change the world…

Some of the things I have achieved?

Insane

– #1 best selling author for YEARS on Amazon in business, entrepreneurship and self help
– #1 most downloaded audiobook that was so popular Audible/Amazon paid for my traffic
– Delivered coaching and consulting personally over 3000 businesses
– Top podcast in health and business multiple time’s
– Changed 100’s of 1000’s of lives for the better

^^^ and there’s more but that’s my past

Your only as good as your most recent successes

Old you?

Needs to be refreshed with new goals, new ideas, new achievements

And one I’ve been working to for 7 years?

– this Monday just gone –

I finally did it

I’ve lost count of how many times I have triedC and failed

Honestly?

I felt like giving up

This wasn’t for me

Who the fuck was I to dream such grand dreams

But I’m a tenacious little Fucker; I didn’t give up

I didn’t quit

I tried and tried and tried again

And when it finally happened?

I didn’t really know how to feel; kinda star eh really – it’s been a dream for so long?

It was now reality

I had achieved what i thought I never ever would

Yeah I know loads of people brag on social; whether is this 6-figure launch, that 7-figure income, cars, holidays…

– whatever –

But I made this happen

Me

Yes I had a little bit of help but I took my thoughts – made them real – and I reached the very top

And if you would like to see what I’ve done and, should you feel like it, share the joy and congratulate me?

read more

Do you show your ‘lighter’ side on social? (And why you should have a bit more fun if you want more profits)

I just did this post on my wall

A happy little throwaway post with some gentle poking at the fitness ‘influencer’ world while taking the piss out of myself at the gym

I’ve always liked to have fun/lovingly troll those in my world

I learned this from my dad

Yes he was very good at his job
Yes he served his key accounts well
Yes he had a good product

BUT

He also would ‘take the piss’ in a gentle and very personal way

My musing is this

If I take the take to create/send you something that’s funny/makes you laugh/gives you a wee pokey pokey

Means I think about YOU as a person

What gets you going and what make you smile – aka – I’ve taken the time to get to know you and your world a bit better

I’m not talking about being a full on joker and fucking around – y’all have to deliver

But proper buy more when in good humour (a Dan Kennedy quote I believe) and why on earth would you want to work with a miserable fuck?

So don’t be afraid to show who you really are – warts and all – people but into YOU more and, as a result, often buy from you more

Toodle pip

Dan ‘booty pop’ Meredith

read more

I am pleased to finally share with you the final piece

When I started out writing this – I wanted to share with you the ‘breakthroughs’ I had from taking a trip down memory lane where back to where I lost it all

If you missed those?

Part #1 is here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/coffeewithdan/permalink/2459878084130510/

Part #2 is here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/coffeewithdan/permalink/2461852747266377/

Part #3 is here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/coffeewithdan/permalink/2463808823737436/

This all started out with me feeling – as Teggles is want to say- ‘some type of way’

Business was good…

Health was good…

Life was good…

But I felt there was something missing and something that I felt I needed to reconnect with and get clarity on

I did

And I promised you that this final piece would be the ‘pay off’ for you

But I hit a wall

This last piece has been one of the hardest pieces for me to write and as someone who is a prolific content creator?

I am not used to being ‘stumped’

Thats when I asked you what if you could wave the proverbial ‘magic wand’ what you would like to make you happy

(If you would like to see what people shared, this was the post imaginatively noted as post ‘#3.5’: https://www.facebook.com/groups/coffeewithdan/permalink/2465491273569191/ )

For those of you that took the time to reply?

I thank you

It gave me the inspiration to wrap this up in a way that – I feel – is befitting to the time you have taken to read this far

There is something about truly reconnecting with your past that is both incredibly grounding, and powerfully transformative IF you allow your subconscious to do its thing…

…and take the time to process the thoughts and feelings you have

As you read, I went down to pretty much nothing:

My confidence was shattered…

My ego had taken a savage beating…

I felt like I was totally ’invisible’ and had let everyone – including myself – down…

…At that point in my life I felt like a total failure

But that was some time ago and I have achieved so much since then its been insane

As you may of noticed with my writing, I do struggle to show off some of my successes as when others struggle, It can – if not written correctly come across as either vulgar or a bit of a ‘humblebrag’

– Im just not about that life –

But I think its important to be honest and open where I am now, especially seeing how far I fell and where Ive come from

The next bit might make some of you think ‘fuck you Dan’

And thats OK

I know when I was in the shit I looked at successful people and there were more than a few negative emotions

But if you think that?

Just remember where I once was and bear with – because it will all make sense as this comes to a close

As I write this, Im looking out to sea from my beachfront home, wearing a £13K watch, with a selection of fast-as-fuck, best-you-can-get toys to play with once this is written

I have been able to pay off my parents mortgage

I have more money than realistically I can spend

I have multiple businesses, a multi-country best selling book and clients all over the world

I don’t cook for myself

I don’t clean for myself

I am able to provide care and support for my family as/when needed

I have a team that handles all the things I’m not good at that

I have a job that makes a difference and that I love

I have more time than I know what to do with sometimes

This is not me just showing off, they are simply facts

I have achieved more than I thought I ever would:

– launched a business generating £330,000 in 48 hours
– partied at the Playboy mansion with Branson
– Wrote a book that has sold hundreds (yes hundreds) of thousands and changed countless lives
– co-headlined my own event with Gary V
– had the #1 book and podcast in multiple categories for TIME (not 1-day wonder ‘hacks’)
– dated models, actresses, porn stars and women realistically way out of my league (alright there were some bad choices in there too but you know #YLOL
– been all over the world and had all manner of adventures
– raced sports bikes at Silverstone
– run multiple businesses with often nothing more than a mobile phone

^^^ these are just the ones that come to the top of my mind

Think I’m a dick?

Well, thats your right (and I’ll be coming back to all of the above at the end – I think you’ll be surprised)

But just over 10 years ago I was hunting for food out of bins and being spat on while I contemplated ending my own life

Every single thing I have, own, or have achieved

It was down to me

Of COURSE I had help with teams and mentors and coaches and other epic humans that have been part of my journey

But

There have been no hand outs
There are not rich relatives
There has been no investment

Its been credit cards, hard work, trading time for ££££ and being prepared to make a sacrifice to achieve a life that I didn’t think I would have and WITH NO GUARANTEE IT WOULD WORK

Its hard to sacrifice for a future you that doesn’t exist, and with no idea when or sometimes IF it will work out

Back when I was totally in the shit?

The LAST thing I wanted to do was work – fuck I didnt even want to get out of bed!

Thinking and feeling that you are the biggest piece of shit failure ever is one of the most horrid experiences because its just you VS your own thoughts

Those thoughts make you want to curl up, hide from the world and often simply not exist

But I did and Im lucky to be here now to tell you the tale from, right now, a pretty good position

For me the ‘pull’ of my sisters future meant I couldn’t quit – I didn’t have a choice

Many of you have the same things with family and dependants or debts or health or whatever ‘reason’ you need to keep going

For me that was a big one

Yes there were a few ‘false starts’ but when I eventually got into my groove

But I got lost a good few years ago

The money and success got to my head; I started to chase fame and shiny things and £££ for the sake of it

It nearly broke me

Because I wasn’t happy

Everything I did was to fill the hole inside me that felt I wasn’t good enough, wasn’t lovable and was a failure

I worked harder and harder to make more and more and what did it get me?

An alcohol problem, a life that felt ‘hollow’ and it lost me the love of my life

I was completely disconnected and – this will sound insane – I hated who I was

I was helping all these people…

Doing valuable work (really)…

I had the things and the stuff and was able to give money away freely…

But I was at a loss as to who I was – I hated the ‘me’

I worked so fucking hard that where I thought being able to flash the cash around that I had never had would keep my (at the time) long term GF happy and make up for the fact that my folks and sister never saw me

I didn’t like who I had become but everyone else was so happy and I had the money I had always craved so I thought

‘Fuck it, who gives a fuck about me anyways’

So I kept working…

And I kept ignoring the feelings…

And I kept spending and partying and living the life that a ‘nobody’ like me should never ever have

You would of thought 2 little heart attacks would make me reconsider my lifestyle choices?

Na, I didn’t give a fuck

That Dan?

He could live or die as far as I cared

I didn’t even expect to make it that long, let alone be a success, so fuck it – Ive changed/saved lives, made a difference

If I go now?

Who gives a shit

Mad eh?

But thats how it was

There were people in the ‘PLANET DAN’ world, my mentor, a few friends who stuck by me when it got tough

(When you make it – and Im sure in your own way you will – you will be AMAZED at the amount of people who you classed as friends turn their back on you, or try and stab you in yours)

It was hard for them
It was hard for me

But they stuck by me, gave me the help and support I needed, and I got through it

That was some years ago now, and Im happy to say such episodes (along with the alcohol) are a thing of the past

You might be thinking:

‘Whats this got to do with the previous story’

Well, I’m coming to that

The whole point was to how you the highs and lows of my journey

I started out with something

Then I lost it all

Then I made it all back 10-fold

Then I nearly lost it all again

Then I made it even bigger and better than before

The last few years have been stable and steady

No new book
No crazy new products
No massive tours

Slow, steady, consistent work

I had to prove to not only myself but those around me that they had ‘backed the right horse’

And I like to think I’ve done that

The last few years have been – give or take – all about reconnection

With who I am, what I stand for, and what I want to do with my life

And ya know what?

All the shit I listed above (the £££ and the things and the stuff and the selfies and the baller lifestyle)

Won’t make you happy

If you think it will?

I implore you to find out for yourself

In fact I truly hope everyone makes it at a crazy level just once because it will help you find out who you truly are

Because for most of my life?

I wasn’t happy
I had never felt worthy
I’d always felt like an outsider looking in

Wanna go one layer deeper?

Sure

I used to think if I was hit by a bus right there and then, bar my family – would anyone really care?

Felt like that for a long time and I thought the success and things and stuff would fill that void inside

It didn’t

And the more I tried to fill it with stuff?

The darker and deeper it got to the point where I nearly destroyed everything

Which brings me back to the trip to London, and this picture and what I’ll be sharing with you

When you get a level of success, life is easier

You don’t have to worry about bills

Shit you don’t like doing you pay other people to do

You have way more time on your hands than you ever expected to

All of which is fucking awesome

But if you chase money and fame and success ONLY, at some point in your life, you are going to come crashing down

I know so many wealthy people who did JUST this and they fucking hate themselves and their lives

I went to London because life HAS been relatively easy for a good few years now and I needed to reconnect with the struggle because THATS where my strength came from.

Going over the edge into the abyss and dragging myself out the other side shaped me into who I am today.

AND

Its what I need to tap into once more to be able to best guide you through whatever shit life has thrown at you.

If you truly give a fuck, you need to be able to empathise with those at all levels.

And not be one of those ivory tower bell ends with an instaperfect feed and no grasp of what the real world is like.

…because everyone at every level has shit going on.

The Dan of today?

Very different to Dan back then.

I needed to put myself back in time to anchor myself with who the ‘new’ Dan is

What do I want from life?

Its pretty simple:

To bring people together
Help others achieve a better business and life
Connect people in a disconnected world
Have fun doing it on my own terms
Make a difference

I want to have enough money so my family can have a life they deserve, I can have some fun (and never hang up my own washing #fuckthat) and that I have plenty left to invest in making the world a better place

What I’ve learned is

ALL the toys
ALL the £££
ALL the sex
ALL the flash holidays
ALL the ‘fame and followers’
ALL the selfies with famous people
ALL the shit

WONT MEAN SHIT, if you aren’t happy – and however long I am left on this planet; I want to make as many people happy as I can

Equally

I’m not about to tell you to give up on big goals, sell all your possessions and live a life of monk.

Fun AND profits

Pleasure AND purpose

Achieving more than you ever dreamed of AND enjoying the journey along the way.

Creating opportunities to see, do, feel, experience everything you’ve ever wanted

That’s what I want for you.

Because those who strive to achieve more in life? You are my people.

Not people who are happy to settle for a life that’s “meh”. Always waiting for the weekend to roll round so they can take a couple days off from the life they hate.

And DEFINITELY not the Crispin’s and Tabitha’s of life who had every little thing handed to them on a plate and look down on normal people like a piece of filth on the bottom of their shoes.

People like you who know the struggle and have the heart and courage to take on what life throws at you.

Who go on through the ups and downs.

Playing the hand you’re dealt whatever that looks like.

And working harder than anyone else around them balancing business, relationships, family and more.

Because when you finally get there financially AND you’ve nailed the happiness thing?

The pay off is truly spectacular.

Ive realised my gift (for want of a better phrase) is not just bringing people together but helping them DO more, ACHIEVE more and BE more than they ever thought they could

And I’m fucking good at what I do

The vehicle that is entrepreneurship is one I have driven for many years and I know what Im doing

I want to help them to earn what they need to earn, do what they need to do and be who they need to be so they CAN be happy whether that be an extra £1000 a month of a 7-figure empire

That choice is down to you, how hard you want to play the game and what you are prepared to gamble to make it happen

It can happen

But to achieve that?

To a degree, you are going to have to struggle and you are going to have to sacrifice

Change (especially from a place of ‘im fucked’) isn’t easy

Its going to take time
Its going to take effort

I truly believe you CAN have it all, but if theres one thing Ive learned from all my highs and lows is that if you want something that you dont have?

You are going to have to work for it

There are sacrifices that need to be made

But heres the brilliant thing, its not forever

– it really isn’t –

If you TRULY give it your all you can massively change your life

People think it weeks and months whereas they should be thinking in YEARS

Is that sexy?

Is it fuck

But would you like to have an amazing life with an abundance of cash and opportunities and fun and adventure

Well, you can

But you’re going to have to work for it

And you are going to have to work when you don’t want to…

You are going to have to do things that you don’t want to do…

You are going to have to make sacrifices to get ahead…

And when the work is done, you will – in time – be amazed at what you can achieve

You are going to experience highs and lows and probably question yourself more than you think

You will – eventually – get all that you desire

But always remember why you are doing it, what you are doing it for and whats truly important to YOU

Which brings me to this picture

I love my family

But for a long time I was disconnected to them due to the fact I thought my only worth was work and to work

Hence Ive spent the last few years reconnecting on a deeper level with them because – quite frankly -they are fucking awesome

We have endured Dads’s cancer, Anna’s liver tumour/broken neck and all manner of life stuff

It happens

But we got through it

And I love them more than anything; the sacrifices I made allow me to help them and be there for them and spend time with

Yes there were some years in the wilderness, but Im back now

Im happy
Im healthy
Im present

^^^ three things that I wasn’t for a long time

Connecting with who you are, what you stand for and what you belief in is something that is crucial to not only success in business but success in life

We all lose our way at times; we chase the shiny objects, the £££, the success – and we should

But we must remember who we are and what we stand for

Thats the ‘North Star’ to a fulfilling life

Its why I wanted to reconnect with that Dan because this is who I am

I give a fuck, I really do

Sure I have my off days; the ‘big sad’ comes to visit me from time to time and I do/say dumb shit

I am human
I fuck up

But I equally am – at 39 – the most sure of who I am, what I believe in, and what I want to achieve from my life

If you already know that?

Thats fucking fantastic

If you don’t?

Don’t worry

I didn’t for a long time

But work on it; because when you find it it will change your life

In closing?

Well, fuck knows lol

I promised the ‘big pay off’ and it ended up being a monster; it has been hard to write and Im sure some will think I’m a twat over posting this

Is what it is

But I feel its important to be as honest as we can with those of use that choose to invest their time, money or energy in us – especially when its so easy to ‘fake it’ online

The above?

Thats me

Thats how I felt
That what I did
Thats what I am

And I wanted to thank you – however you came into my world – for being a part of it

I will continue to do what I can to serve you as best I can

I will fuck up at times – but we all do

Last week helped me remember why I do what I do on a deeper level, and I wanted to say thank you for placing your trust, time and efforts in me

Its appreciated more than you know

So thats it

My story from fuck all, something, nothing something and beyond

If nothing else I hope its showed you what can be done by an ordinary chap who decided he wanted more from life

If you have enjoyed reading this, or got value from it – its been a bastard to write but I hope its been useful

I’d be grateful to hear what you got from this, and I’m happy to answer any questions you might have

Thank you once again for reading

Means a lot

Dan

read more

What do you do to ‘toughen up’?

This last weekend has been a tough one for many; it’s highlighted some of the issues that social media give us

I saw a post on my feed (scrolled to fast) where someone said that this will keep happening to a degree and that – as individuals – we also have to look after ourselves

A degree of mental toughness is extremely useful

I’m not – 100% NOT – saying that you should become hard or cold or anything

But working ON your resilience and mental toughness is key to help you get through shitty time’s

I’ve done a few trainings on this (my best ones from memory being in GRIT 1.0 and GRIT: The Evolution) but I’ll go live later this week to share some strategies that have worked for me and those I’ve taught

If you have any good ones to share, let’s hear them

Equally if you are struggling and feel comfortable to share here?

Let’s see if we can help you through it

read more

What goes on in our heads impacts EVERYTHING

You can’t escape your own head.

Believe me, I’ve tried

🙃

The ONLY thing you can do is work with what you’ve got so that it fires you up instead of bringing you down and getting stuck in the cycle overwhelm, procrastination, limiting beliefs and self-sabotage.

First thing I’ve gotta say is no fucker is immune to this.

Not me

Not you

Not that motivational coach with the perfect life and a perma-smile

Being a human – it’s hard work.

Just because normal everyday existence of being a human isn’t punishment enough.

Some of us decide to become entrepreneurs

Lol

Crazy hours. Check.

Hard to connect with people not like us. Check

Opening ourselves up to massive critisism. Check

No guarentee of income. Check.

Daily battles with value and self-worth. Check

The list goes on.

No wonder most of us are tapped in the head.

Depression, ADHD, bipolar, suicidal feelings and more all effect a higher number of entrepreneurs than they do the general public.

That’s a fact.

If you’re going through things – know you are not alone.

Even at the lighter end of the scale

Stuff comes up.

We hold ourselfs back.

We worry about what other people are going to think

We self sabotage every time we get close to our goals

And

The greatest tool we have – our brains

Is the one thing that truly works against us to stop us progressing.

With that in mind – here’s a few of my top tips for taking control of your mindset

1 The power of the braindump

As I say, what is in our heads is what holds us back.

More often than not, we get so preoccupied with life and business that these thoughts start to fester away in the background without us giving all that much thought to them until they turn into massive monsters that blight up with procrastination, overwhelm, fear and more.

The first thing you need to do to tackle mindset issues is to get them out of your head and know what you’re actually dealing with

And

Regularly keep your head clear of all the junk and crap it picks up along the way.

You do this, with brain dum

Some benefits of doing regular brain dumps?

1. Ideas

I’ve had some epic ideas because (for me) I actually am present with my own mind
That and the looped music helps ‘distract’ my brain and my subconscious can do its own thang

2. Problem solving

Similar to above – I’ve been able to come up with:
– copy hooks
– solutions to business and personal problems
– rationalise relationships (stick or twist)
It’s been very useful

3. Less rage/generally a bit nicer

I’m simple less angry

Don’t tend to go from 0-100 much

As a rule calm

– for anyone who has followed me for a while, this is novel eh –

4. Less stressed/sleep better

I go to bed kinda ‘empty headed’ now and as someone who’s mind NEVER SHUTS THE FUCK UP….sleep has been a bugger
Less so now

Here’s how it’s done…

1. Do a FULL brain dump BEFORE you switch off, get that shit out of your head and LEAVE IT

2. If you have a problem or something you need clarity on? Write it on a piece of paper to take with you – look at it at points

3. Either NO phone or on airplay mode

4. Have either a looped song, movie score or something like natural sounds (I like thunderstorms) on music

5. Take a book – paper one – with you that inspires you or is of interest; something you WANT to read as opposed to HAVE to read

6. Go buy a a pen and notepad, and a bottle of water (clarity dehydrated is nigh on impossible) and take em with you; any ideas that come up and

WRITE THEM DOWN

Not on your phone, go analogue

Then either a) go to a location where you don’t speak to anyone (coffee shop or train as example) or get yo ass into nature
Or be a massive tart like me and spa like fuck

2. Knowing when to go #ballsdeep & knowing when it’s time to pull back
As I say – entrepreneurs are a special bunch

We will give it all we’ve got and then some on top

And what happens is we will keep going and going and going until we break.

And when we start to break we keep pushing harder to punish ourselves and catch up.

It takes some time to learn to recognise the signs.

I have broken myself plenty of times in the past

Me personally?

I’ll see shifts in how I’m working, how I show up and the content that I put out.

Over time I go from full on content machine to full on sillyness and everywhere in between.

And by learning what makes Dan tick, I’ve come to see where I need to ease back, take a change of scene, mix some more fun stuff in my life if it’s gone a bit work heavy.

This is something I can’t give you an exact image of because it loooks a little different for each of us.

Here are a few signs to watch out for that give a hint it might be time to pull back and change things up before you burn out

– You content gets massively serious and dry OR you can’t do serious content and it’s all fun stuff
– You’ve stopped things like going to the gym and date nights because you’re constantly busy
– Your sleep pattern has shifted and you’re suddenly crashing early or waking up in the middle of the night
– You’ve been doing lots of videos, webinars and lives till now but you just can’t face hitting the button
– You’re suddenly eating everything…or nothing

As I say, how this shows up is individual.

If those come up, evaluate what you’ve got going on and how you can mix things up before you take yourself down.

And if you do go down – take a think back to how you were working and if any sign showed up so you can add them to your personal list of red flags

3 A taste of wealth

5-star luxury, first class service and a workin environment that primes you for success for under £10?!

I’m a huge fan of changing your environment to suit your needs

Let’s face it, working in your boxers on the sofa it’s sometimes hard to get your head into the right mindset

Now this was taught to me by the ever glorious Dexter Abraham – think about it like this

If you want to be productive – wouldn’t it make sense to work somewhere where people are cracking on with work?

If you want to be creative – wouldn’t it make sense to be in a space where you are inspired by what you see and hear?

If you want to be wealthy and successful – again wouldn’t it make sense to surround yourself around wealthy and successful people (and in an environment befitting?!)

Yep 😉

I have worked in art galleries, come working spaces, looking out to sea you name it

But when I need to get my head into business mode?

I simply find a 5-star hotel (and I find dressing smarter helps me get my head in gear too) and set up shop in the hotel bar or lobby

All you need to do is buy a coffee and you get snacks, peace and quiet, wifi and your are around business folk who – like you – are getting business shit done

What it does is it gives you a taster of luxury that you don’t normally experience in your day to day life.

Your barometer for what is possible is set currently wherever it’s at.

Your surroundings, upbringing and life experiences will all have an impact.

By elevating your surroundings with little simple luxuries, you start to tweak that barometer bit by bit.

You start seeing the kind of life that could actually be possible.

And as a little bonus – you could make some connections whilst you’re there that can open serious doors.

4 Just say “Fuck it!”

Now you know I love fight club right? That book and film were responsible for some of the biggest mindset shifts (yes I hate myself for writing that!) I have had as a man

One of my fave scenes?

The one with the shop clerk – where he took his licence, held a gun to his head, and told him if he don’t actually make the changes and did the one thing he wanted to do with his life?

He would come back and

BAM

no more life to live

So back to the exercise; if you had to change, and you had 30 days to do it, and my ass is physically coming for you at he end of the 30 days

What would you actually change?

Come on – show some fucking balls/ovaries: what are you unhappy with in your life RIGHT NOW

AND

what are you going to do to change it?

Or, are you going to be one of those people that pussyfoot brought life blame everyone else for their problems instead of taking ownership and fixing shit

So much of what we are taught from school onwards is about what we CAN’T do

And it’s taken me a long time to ditch that mode of thinking and simply saying ‘fuck it’ and doing more stuff I want to do, with the people I want to do it with, when I want to do it with…

JUST BECAUSE

For those of you that know my story or how this group started

It was never – ever – supposed to be a thing

But now it is

It’s a ‘thing’ that helps 1000’s of pekoe every day and that’s fucking awesome – but that’s a result of me saying ‘fuck it’

Going after what you want in life when you have been conditioned by education, society, peers – whatever – IS hard

Maybe I’m not so smart because I just do stuff; I don’t let my brain talk me out of shit

Sure, I **could** think more, but every time I thought too much?

I never ended up doing the thing and regretted it as a result

Yes of course my ‘act first, ask questions later’ attitude had caused problems time to time

But more often then not?

When I just DO, things get good

Case in point, the when we recently opened ‘Espresso With Dan’

There has been a good few handfuls of people who have reached out the very same week they joined wishing they had done this not months, but YEARS ago

Think how much further they would be ahead if they had just gone for it?

We all rationalise things in our own head

Thinking about the what ifs

Whereas most of us?

Should – more often than not – go #ballsdeep into the ‘fuck it’ zone, ESPECIALLY if they have been stagnant for a period of time

Anyways I wanted to share this, because I took control of my life at 33 – 5 years ago – and only if I’m being TRULY honest with you have I lived it 100% on MY terms – MY rules – MY life for the last 18 months or so

When you stop giving a fuck about what people think and start doing what YOU want to support YOUR life

You will be amazed how fucking brilliant most days are

5 Use the negative to create positive

Negatives have and will come up for you.

They are going to come up again and again.

There’s not a fat lot you can do about them occurring.

How you handle them and what you do next IS under your control

Now you are going to be in one of 2 places right now.

You need a serious kick up your arse to make you shit or get off the pot

This world ISNT for everyone

You want to make it?

You fed up of excuses?

You sick of being poor as piss?!

Sometimes it’s time to say ENOUGH and go all out

G = a fiery hour of teaching you to get some balls/ovaries. This will be ferocious. Because it fucking should be – I expect 20-50% of you that join NOT to come back as I will not hold back – and some folks can’t take that

R = resistance &resilience – how to overcome one and develop the other. I will show you how to understand the shite you tell yourself is killing your progress, and how to develop mental ‘toughness’

I = influencee; attain it, from it, use it – leverage it. You got skills or talent? If no one knows that means fuck all. I’ll walk you through how I do what I do

T = tenacity; a practical ‘how to’ day to day to man/lady the fuck up, keep going and actually make something of your life. This is the nuts and bolts – what you do every day to make it beats any fancy tactic or funnel – I’ll fucking win as I won’t quit. You need to be like this

4 Hours of brutality using the full power of “pre-zen Dan”

When this series was created, it was recorded live over the space of a week.

And in that one week – lives were changed.

People finally stepped up and started doing the things they knew they needed to do.

They stuck a finger up to their limiting beliefs and did the work that had terrified them.

They dropped the poisonous snakes in their life that were draining every ounce of life out of them.

They sent those emails. Made those calls. Had those conversations.

And when they did?

Everything changed.

They got results.

Opened doors to huge opportunities

Had their biggest month in business…ever!

And wondered why the hell they’d been holding back so long.

If this is speaking to where you’re at right now and you are DONE with repeating the same shitty cycles day after day.

Click the link below and go pick up your copy of GRIT

https://coffeewithdan.com/getgrit

Scenario #2 – When you’re good you’re great but it only takes one thing to knock you right the way back.

In that case, you don’t require quite such a brutal ass kicking

What you need is a toolbox of strategies you can pull out at a moments notice when when some of the darker thoughts and emotions appear

Fear
Envy
Spite
Rage
Procrastination
Overwhelm
And more

Will all raise their heads sooner or later

Something will happen in your life.

A run of bad luck

A relationship breakdown

Losing a major client

Seeing the epic lives other people are living through the window of social media wondering why you can’t have that.

And if you don’t have the tools to turn that negative on its head – it can consume you

Taking all the fight out of you bit by bit.

That’s why, a few weeks back after running the free rage to riches challenge (which for a free challenge created some ridiculous results for people)

I decided it was time to go balls deep into harnessing the darkness and launched GRIT:Red

Taking on each of those negative feelings one by one – I dove DEEP into why they come up and provided simple actionable strategies for dealing with them when they do.

Those who’ve been through the training have left with a toolbox they can dive into whenever they need it – whatever life throws at them.

Now it’s your turn, if your so inclined

To get hold of that toolbox yourself, all you need to do is click this link https://coffeewithdan.com/rededition

read more

Do you like being told what to do?

I was once a doorman/bar manager at a ‘gentlemens erotic dance boutique’

– aka a strip club –

When I lived up north

At the same time, I was a sales director for a pretty big headhunting firm and in charge (from memory) of a few mill turnover wise on my business unit

I had a base of 70k and took home I think around 120/130 if I remember correctly

Yet Friday and Saturday nights?

I would don the black attire…

Spike up the hair…

(Check out pic in comment #1 🤣🤣)

And do as I was told

Wierdly after a week of meetings, checking KPI’s, spreadsheets and telling others what to do…

…I found it quite refreshing too

All I had to focus on was greeting customers, keeping the ladies in check (I ended up doing this via a packet of liquorice allsorts when they chase out #truestory) and keeping the bar stocked up

That was it

Now I didn’t need the money (it was done in part firstly to stop me drinking and weirdly when I was a PT my entire client base was strippers – I had 14 of em!) but it was a nice ‘break’ from being in charge

What am I going on about?

Let me explain

If you could remotely ‘model’ my approach in any way I think it’s vaguely classed as servant leadership

Liberated from the internet, this seemed to sum it up nicely;

‘In 1998, writer and philosopher Larry Spears distilled Greenleaf’s ideas into ten key servant leadership traits: listening, empathy, stewardship, foresight, persuasion, conceptualization, awareness, healing, commitment to the growth and development of people, and building community’

Kinda an accurate description I would say

I do
I show
I serve
I lead

Mixture of all 4

But I remember what it’s like to be TOLD what to do

Recently, as well as talking more ‘strategically’ with my clients, I’ve found great success by simply telling them what to do

Now you can’t do that without a base of experience and success (IMO) in your niche/vertical behind you

But when your mind is rammed with life and business and clients and family and hobbies and god knows what else is going on (likely at 100mph)

I find it serves people well to be told do this, then that, by that date

Never try make it more than 3-5 times max; ideally one BIG goal to achieve between check ins and some sub goals that – time permitting – we can knock off too

Yes as entrepreneurs we crave freedom

BUT

TOO much freedom can leave you overwhelmed, unsure and expending your energy in a variety of areas that – in all honesty – would of saved you a fuck tonne of time/effort/energy/££ if you would if just sought out expert help to guide you at the start

So if you have been ‘flying solo’ for a while and let’s say in the last 6 months or so haven’t progressed?

Maybe invest in someone who has ‘trod the boards look before you who can tell what needs to be done…

…instead of asking YOU what needs to be done

Just my musings while enjoying an Epsom’s salt bath; be good to hear your take on it as well…

read more

This is the part that many simply don’t share

Every day – especially when you start out – is hard

It is hard for a while, longer than than you think, and utterly not straight forward

Pretty much every ‘blueprint’ or ‘business plan’ is a best guess – hopefully according to previous experiences

You have to do the work
You have to adapt it for you
You have to stay the course

The amount of time things take to achieve people massively underestimate

It’s quite fun having been around a bit

I remember seeing a post from someone who was a fitpro maybe a few years back with their ‘million dollar blueprint’ they were touting

They have not made a million dollars lol

Because if my hearings issues as a kid, I developed a RIDIK visual memory

I remember the things and stuff

What people day they achieve is often grossly over estimated

What I have now is (if you want to look at another way) slow and boring and at times tedious

Same things
Done daily
Improved over time
Repeat

That’s it

Of course life and business gets easier if you improve over time

But it takes time

Hence maybe be wary of those who are relatively new on the scene of that aren’t open with their past

They may be good

But more often then not many of their claims are a little bit ‘glossy’ and their background a little bit wallpapered over

Look for those who have shown a steady degree of progression – it’s amazing what people say that do but can’t (or that they are shady humans masquerading as ‘doing good’ now…)

Yes you can achieve many, many of the things you want

Just understand that it’s gonna take a bit of time and effort

That’s it

It does get easier

Ya just have to do the work

read more