Coffee With Dan

Abundance (and my take on it – episode link at bottom)

Its a word that gets banded around a lot like clarity, passion and what have you

But whats YOUR take on it?

I used to be horrifically scarcity minded, saving for what **might** happen….but often didn’t

As soon as I realised there are more money and opportunities than I could EVER possibly realise is when my life truly changed

Someone sets up a ‘Coffee with X’?

NO problem

Someone sets up a new Gym in my town near my facility?

NO problem

One of my clients (copy or coaching) goes to work with someone else?

NO problem

Why?

Because there are MORE than enough people and pennies to go around!

The thing that can’t be replaced is YOU

Thats the ‘secret sauce’

And if someone goes elsewhere?

Then you have served your purpose, and the NEXT person, place or business they go to is what serves THEM better

Bets thing that has happened to me?

I am NOT attached to the outcome

If it goes my way, or not

Im really not worried

Why?

BECAUSE MY MINDSET IS ABUNDANT

If I lose a partner, colleague, business opportunity – whatever – its all good! There will be another 🙂

My RAS (reticular activating system) will kick in and Ill soon be spotting the opportunities and connections and will be back on track in no time

There is truly, 100% more out there than you could possible hope to claim for yourself, let go of the issues and go get what is yours

you don’t need permission

you don’t need to ask

there are no forms you need to fill out or committees to get approval

Just go get whats rightfully yours, because I promise you if you approach it with an abundant mindset – you WILL get it 🙂

D

Listen to Podcast:

https://itunes.apple.com/gb/podcast/dgd009-abundance/id1074328306?i=363619169&mt=2

What do YOU accept?

This is an extract from THE book that flipped my switch almost exactly two years ago:

‘What To Do When Its Your Turn – And Its Always Your Turn’

This page, was one that I have tried to live by since I read it

Can you think up a better list than this?

I know I cant

ME and Pat Divilly chatted about where we were and the journeys that we have both had to get to where we are

Has it been easy?

Has it balls!

But thats the thing, each of us had ‘something’ inside us that drove us forward, to want to make a difference – but could we tell you what it was to start with?

I don’t know about Pat, but I knew I couldn’t

Take a moment

Think

Have you always ‘felt’ you were destined for more, yet right now you arrant realising it?

Well guess what

That’s EXACTLY how I felt for most of my adult life, and still to a degree feel it now. Honestly If I wake up in the night for a pee, find myself in a queue, on hold on the phone, walking to the shops

POP

That comes into my head

It permeates my very ‘being’ as it were, in fact its all I often find myself thinking about

HOW

CAN

I

DO

MORE

I keep hearing the phrase its not about the destination, its about the journey (and have written a long assed blog post about that Ill share sometime) – but I am inclined to disagree

I want to get to the destination, and I want to get there as fast as possible and have as much fun, and do as much good shit as I can

And when I get there?

I take a few ‘metaphorical moments’ to enjoy myself, get my bearings, plot a new course on my ‘map’ and set course for the nest destination

I don’t see life as a journey, I see it as a series of destinations that I have decided to visit – and its up to me – and me alone to get there

And as long as I can follow these little guidelines, I think Im doing ok

So if there is a little voice inside you telling you to be more

Then fucking be more!

You need NO, zero, none, fuck all permissions to ‘go for it’ – that’s what held me up for years and years; waiting for someone to say ‘its OK, you can do the thing’

You don’t need that

You just need to DO

Today, if you are in this position – take some time to think what you could do if all the perceived obstacles, fears, shitty thoughts and ‘stuff’ that is holding you back was removed

What would you do next?

Write that shit down

Then tomorrow, you do it

You in?

Two words that can change your world

Responsibility
Discipline

Here’s how I scale and grow businesses.

I use the 60/30/10 method for picking and choosing what I work on(along with what I call ‘blast and cruise’ and the 12-week year principle)to:
. gauge profit

. success and ultimately

. freedom

(more…)

What could YOU do in 28 days?
I have realised lately that I CAN’T work with people (closely,as in 121)for long periods of time…
Why?
Because if they can’tdo it in a month, or at the MOST 3 months?
In my opinion…
They are lazy as fuck!!
I have a system called ‘blast and cruise’.
I truly think we (as humans) are limited by our own stupid fuckingbrain that tell us what CAN’T be done…instead of realising the fucking POWER we have above ournecks to be able to achieve ANY shit we desire.
The best things I have achieved in:
. life

. business

. health
I have had a fast, aggressive, focussed turnaround -and as a result? THAT SHIT WORKED!
Look, I am truly fucking pissed off with the towering cockjockeys online who promise the earth and as soon as you pay?
They vanish!
I will HAVE to tell you the story of the c*nts who took my for my LAST $1000 and then vanished with their shitty ‘online MBA’ programme… that reminds me, I need to look those cocks up and let them know I’m not a little bitch anymore!
So here’s the thing
(It’s the reason why I came up with my GRITprogramme. Maybe it’s for you, maybe it’s not)
Iguarantee if you fucking FOCUS for 28 days, you can achieve some epic shit.
I UNDERSTAND SOME OF YOU HAVE NO MONEY.

THINK what you could achieve if you actually went balls/ovaries deep?
. how much weight could you lose if it’s ALL YOU FOCUSSED ON

. how much business could you generate if it’s ALL YOU FOCUSSED ON

. how great could your relationships be if it’s ALL YOU FOCUSSED ON
28 days…
Make a decision.
Shit or get off the pot.
End of.

Want to know how to grow your business without being a cock:
. make an effort
Invite someone for dinner and fucking pay-send someone a book they will like-bust your balls and travel to see them -like 5000 miles of bastard effort
. stop being so fucking serious
All my best work and connections have been at the bar or at the beach-have some fucking fun
. have some humility
We all start somewhere-but not being a suck up and being genuinelyinterested in PEOPLE goes a long way -don’t act Bertie Bigballs even when you are.
. stop bitching
It’s fucking easy to bitch about X or Y who are doing Z-why not focus on building your own tribe, your own brand and stop caring so much about what other people are doing.
. back yourself
Remember, no-one is going to save you –no-one is going to do it for you -you’re going to have to step up and do it for yourself self sooner or later.
. be prepared to not be liked
Simply put, people will give you shit at sometimes–I have heard this more than once.But if you are not being criticised,you probably aren’t marketing hard enough or are being too passive.

Want to change the world?
Here we go….
Me and a good friend of mine have a good laugh seeing social updateslike…
‘OMG OMG I HAVE AN IDEA THAT IS GOING TO CHANGE THE WORLD -JUST YOU WATCH THIS SPACE!’
We watch.
Nothing.
Happens.
World stays relatively the same.
The thing is,what a lot of people don’t get is, as you get further along in your career, unless you are a towering arsehole,you often become friends with people who -to all intents and purposes -are yourcompetitors.
The person we referenced in our chat has reached out to me, my friend here (and a few others multiple times) and NEVER pulled the trigger on anything.
Hence, nearly two years since I first came across this person, they are still doing the same thing…
Hopping from
. mentor to

. coach to

. system to

. mastermind…
Yet still doing what they were doing 2 years ago.
I’m not sure about you, but 2 years seems like a lot of time to waste doesn’t it?
So why not try this?
. pick ONE coach -do exactly what they say

. pick ONE course -implement the fuck out of it

. pick ONE group -learn all you can from it

. pick ONE business book -implement the big idea
Just try it
I know for a fact,I HAVE to learn from multiple places as it’smy job to bring what I know to you.
However, unlike the person we were having a friendly giggle at, I will implement like fucking crazy.
Imperfect action beats ideas every damned time!
There is a reason I keep using the phrase ‘go balls deep’.
Firstly, it’sVERY enjoyable!)
Secondly,get a rough idea of what you need to do, get some quick research done and just fucking go for it.
The amount of things I have done (my gym, COFFEE and Espresso with Dan, mastermind, event, books, speaking) that I have NEVER done before -but got the basics dialled in and then just pulled the trigger.
All in.
Balls deep.
Trust me if you start DOING more than THINKING, you will be amazed where you will be 2 years’ time!
Not saving ‘the lizard people’for starters….
P.S.nothing against the vegans, you know me and that woo woo bollocks though 😉

Here’s a quick and dirty way tocommunicate with your audience, create compelling stories using infotainment, a basic set up that makes you look professional:
. start brainstorming ideas
Either carry a notepad or have a little Evernote on your phone and every time you get an idea for something you could teach your audience… Write. It. Down.
Get a stack of them together to start with, then when you have 30+, pick one and write it down on a post-it note or piece of card at the top.
. next,write 3-5 bullet points that are in line with the topic underneath
If you are holding the phone, clamp this between your fingers and the phone so you can use the selfie camera and still see the points.
. press record

. go
I’m now a HUGE fan of doing this as a LIVESTREAM now.
Why?
Because the fear of fucking up, doing it over and over again, and then NOT doing it is simple removed.
Live in 3…2…1
…and you’re on!
Trust me this helps you ‘get over’ the problems you have NOT doing this, because you have just announced to your audienceyou’re showing up on video.
Remember your audience are your audience because YOU have skill, value and something useful to share.
But for the love of God do NOT hard teach!
As a rule,it needs to have a good story ortwo, be infotaining and you want to demonstrate your value but also keep people’s attention and enjoy their time with you.
If you can evoke emotion?
Even better too.
Don’t try and be someone you are not, enjoy it, keep it simple (3-5 key takeaways), don’t over think it -and practice.
Do this.
Every day for 30 days.
Every day WITHOUT FAIL.
And I guarantee you in a month your audience will be more connected to you, you will haveadded value and, your reach will havegrown and you probably will havemade some sales too.
Getting over yourself is quite a good thing eh? 😉
REFLECT ON SUCCESS
Sometimes it’s ok to be proud.
Now and then,you deserve to celebrate the successes.
I won’t say who in caseanyone knows this person, but I have a frighteninglytalented person in my world who doesn’t celebrate the wins often.
Yet,they are bloody brilliant at what they do.
I don’t think it’s good sport to rubanyone’s noses in it-but if you work your assoff, make sacrifices, put in the work and have invested time and effort into your skills?
When you get a win, a high, a goal achieved… you have every right to celebrate.
You do deserve it.
You are worthy.
We haven’t chosen the easiestride when it comes to work -yes,the highs are brilliant-but the lows are bloody awful.
So when you get a win?
You.
Celebrate.
You do deserve good things in life.
You do deserve success/money/happiness/health.
Whatever it is you want.
You put in the effort, you should be able to reap the rewards.:-).

Oncewhen I was speaking with Justin Devonshire,who on a call with a client of his, discussed the harsh reality of what we do as entrepreneurs.
We have some very experienced people here the Coffee with DanFacebook group and equally some very new and ‘green’ folks to this world.
It is NOT for everyone.
You see all the books, the courses, the digital ‘high fives’ from those who are making it work.
But we hear less from those who it isn’t.
It’s all too easy to look at people who are already making it, and even though you hear their back-stories, the struggles they have gone through to get where they are now.
When you have no money to pay the bills, you spend every second of your day wonderingwhere the next paycheckwill come from, paralysed by fear and you feel like giving up?
Where do you turn?
Do you know what it actually takes to achieve what you are looking to achieve?
Do you have the support, the drive, the ability to willingly sacrifice time, effort, energy?
Saw an article the other day about suicide rates in entrepreneurs.
It’s high…
It’s such a brutally lonely and tough journey at times and the higher up you get…
The lonelier it is.
I can’t stand when I see people slagging off those who give people shit who have jobs.
I miss having a job at times.
There is a lot to be said to being around people, routine, working towards one goal, being able to switch off when you get home.
When you decide to put your hand up and say ‘I’m going to do it my way’ no one prepares you for what it’s going to be like.
And-which is more insane-you end up spending so much time in your head that you create scenarios and ‘stuff’ that half the time never happens.
Nuts,eh?
Not too sure what my thoughts were behind this tip, or why I wrote it to be honest -just felt like sharing.
There’s nothing wrong with choosing to ‘settle’or going ‘all in’.
Just like in anything in life,for all the smooth, you have the rough to deal with too.
Now,there are times that ALL of us feel like the weight of the world is crushing us down to the point where no matter what you do, there is no way out, no end, no hope.
It sucks foetid donkey dick!
Andwhen you are in that ‘place’,you can sometimes feel that it’snever going to end.
Let me give you a tip.
It does.
Problems are just that.
Problems…
We have been gifted with an amazing mind that can overcome all manner of obstacles, but it’salso a bastard as it spins thoughts into scenarios and situations that often don’t happen -but when you are in them,you can be paralysed by fear.
So, my advice to you -if you EVER feel like it -DON’T feel that you have to suffer.
You are your own boss, it’syour life -if you NEED to get away, fucking get away!
I would advise letting only those who might really need you have your mobile number.
Delete ALL your social apps (you can always reinstall them later).
Be a selfish prick -if you want to stay in bed all day until 6pm watching science fiction films and ignore the world (as I did).
You have every right to.
Equally, having someone ‘in your corner’ is very useful. I have LONG said that us entrepreneurial folks suffer in the old noggin quite a bit, I am fortunate to have two ‘go to’ people namely Edi Tsang and Mark Whitehand.
And if anyone tells you that you are weak, a pussy, ‘mental’ or weird…
Tell them to go fuck themselves.
Like no lube, no spit.
You simply don’t need those people in your world.
So I havesimple little check list that makes this a little more ‘spit heavy’:
. make friends with people-not hard, connect, have genuine conversations, get to knowone another

. give before you ask…
Want someone to do something for you..?
Well do something for them first…
DON’T expect them to repay the favour, but offering to help, give your time, introduce them to someone, or ‘hook them up’ always is a good place to start…
. value THEIR time and expertise
if they are really good at something, it will haveprobably cost them a fair bit of time and money to get there…
think about what you are going to say before you say it-alittle bit of tact goes a long way…
. pay them…
If I have invested in someone, I feel a lot more comfortable asking for some help.
The people in my platinum group, my private clients, Espresso with Danpeeps and anyone who has paid for my time get FIRST priority…
Why? Because it’sthe right thing to do.
So next time you are looking for a cheeky leg up, an intro, or something that’sjust out of your grasp?
A little bit of saliva goes a long way….